To use headbands on baby?

[AliceMarie89]

The fabric kind? Also pram shoes? I've been judged massively for both recently and want to ask other mums :/

Best for babies feet to be unrestricted. Socks and tights ok, bare foot is best.

Handbands are just so bloody tacky

At best headbands are tacky, at worst they're downright dangerous.

Dress your baby so she's comfortable, nobody will give a damn what she's wearing. Babies should be dressed appropriately for the weather, beyond that the rest is show.

@PennyMordaunts I think lots of people see their babies as dolls tbh. I was in NICU recently with my newborn twins. You wouldn’t believe the number of conversations that went on between mums about all the gorgeous outfits they couldn’t wait to put their babies in. All I could think about was getting my babies home alive!

I think they look gorgeous, but couldn't live with myself if the worst was to happen because I put a headband on my baby. Don't like shoes before they're walking as think they're bad for their feet. My DD is 5 weeks and though a lot of girls outfits look absolutely adorable, complete with headbands and pram shoes, I only put her in nice comfy sleepsuits and cardigans.

People will always have an opinion!

What they^^ all said, especially about the choking risk. But: being a parent (mother,especially) means being judged or feeling judged a lot of the time, sadly. BFing? Judged. FFing? Judged. Attachment parenting? Judged by the Gina Ford brigade. 4 hourly naps at the bottom of the garden? Judged by the crunchy types. And so on. You’d do really well to research and assess for yourself what works for you and your family, and fuck what anyone else may think, for your own sanity. Bows and shoes are the tip of the dribble-stained iceberg.

I admit I do judge parents that put headbands and shoes on their babies. I think they are chavvy and hideous. I wouldn't voice my opinion though as it would be rude.

I just don’t get it really. What’s the benefit to the baby or to you?

The baby will be more comfortable without either and isn't that more important than her looking 'pretty'?

Headbands on babies look ridiculous. Pram shoes look uncomfortable and are pointless.

@EssentialHummus absolutely true! you need a thick skin to be a mother. always someone who will disagree with what you do!
But honestly, OP, babies feet are very vulnerable and susceptible to damage as they still soft and malleable. avoiding shoes even the soft kind means you avoid any issues with rubbing etc.

Oh gosh I can't believe all this time I've been judged when taking her places

Well that would depend on whether or not you live somewhere where there's lots of Mumsnetters.

IRL, most people probably won't notice or care.

I just wonder what the point is? To my mind, you have a baby, not a doll, so do what's best for them, not what's prettiest to you.

Sorry, tacky as hell 😳

I think they look ugly and OTT.

Headbands on babies look ridiculous. As for shoe, lol, why would you put shoes on a baby that can't walk. Get some moccons for keeping her feet warm if you must. sockons.co.uk/products/mocc-ons

I wouldn't even notice if your baby had 'pram shoes' on. Surely they would stay on easier than socks and keep her feet warm?

Where I live baby girls where headbands all the time.

I think it's stupid, but then it's no more stupid than putting them in pink babygrows or little mini dresses, etc. which people do all the time.

I admit I totally judge when I see a baby in a headband and so do my friends and colleagues (going by the discussions we’ve had about them!). It’s pointless, dangerous and looks stupid.

Sorry that you are being judged, Lovely. No idea why we ladies have to give each other such a hard time. Was with a group of women the other day and ended up saying"There's no such thing as a perfect mother," which killed the conversation stone dead. Maybe we just lobby bricks at each other so we don't have to question ourselves too deeply?

Or to divert any coming our way?

Headbands are tacky and pointless in babies. On this one my judgy pants are so firmly up my backside I feel like I am floating.

Headbands just scream “I NEED everyone to know my baby doesn’t have a penis!”.

And in addition "If anyone says my child is a boy they will definitely grow a penis!"

it's no more stupid than putting them in pink babygrows or little mini dresses, etc.

Well, in that it's dangerous, yes, it is more stupid.

I would consider you someone who thought their baby was a doll, and assume that you were quite immature.

I would also think that you were ill informed - the strangulation risk. I would think you didn’t know about it, rather than didn’t care about it.

I wouldn’t think negatively of you, but I definitely wouldn’t expect to have much in common with you.

I think they look tacky and ridiculous, and I do judge people who put headbands on babies because they can be fatal. They serve absolutely no purpose apart from being "cute" and "instagrammable", and the risk of suffocating a tiny baby should be enough to put anyone off using one.

I think it's stupid, but then it's no more stupid than putting them in pink babygrows or little mini dresses, etc. which people do all the time

It is when it is also a health risk.

www.manchestereveningnews.co.uk/news/greater-manchester-news/jojo-bow-headband-baby-died-12738382