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To use headbands on baby?

229 replies

AliceMarie89 · 09/11/2018 10:03

The fabric kind? Also pram shoes? I've been judged massively for both recently and want to ask other mums :/

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Voodoobizkits · 09/11/2018 10:36

If your baby had long locks then yes. Only recently has my dd worn them 11m because her hairs gettingblong. However, not going to lie as a bby with her whispy hair I put headbands on her for photo purposes! Even now, I have Alice bands and she just puts them on. This started because my ds has headbands with animal ears on though.
As for pram shoes, when my ds was going to nursery and couldn't walk he was in buggy with soft soled shoes for warmth aswel as a blanket, but he'd always poke his feet out of the blanket. Obv once got to nursery the shoes would come off though

britnay · 09/11/2018 10:37

I get a headache if i wear a headband, so I would be concerned that a baby could be the same, but unable to communicate it.

Seeline · 09/11/2018 10:37

I have heard about headbands but I would never leave her on her own with it on

So you never leave her to pop to the loo?
Make a drink/sandwich?
Answer the door?

Wouldn't take long.

An I still have never seen one taken off without leaving a red mark/dent which means it is too tight. Otherwise they would just fall down .

Janus · 09/11/2018 10:37

I must admit I hate the headband things but I’ve always thought that’s my point of view, I wouldn’t expect everyone to feel that way.
Pram shoes are little soft shoes?? I think all of mine had them!! To me they helped keep socks on and I suppose I must have thought they looked cute! Mine didn’t start walking to well over a year (first was 17 months!) so for me it finished off their outfit (I may have been a bit sad 😂)!

Eliza9917 · 09/11/2018 10:38

FrancisCrawford Fri 09-Nov-18 10:08:57
What is the point of a headband on a baby?

It doesn’t fulfil a purpose

You could say that about a lot of things. (non medical) Jewellery, (Non scar covering) make up, nail varnish, nice clothes, expensive handbags.

LasMeninas · 09/11/2018 10:39

But if you take them off before they sleep, presumably they're not a risk.

drspouse · 09/11/2018 10:39

Gosh Hodge that's so sad.

MarshaBradyo · 09/11/2018 10:39

That news story is so awful and so sad
Don’t go near them not worth it

canyouhearthedrums · 09/11/2018 10:39

Head bands on babies are an absolute bear bug of mine. They just look so tacky (especially the lacy ones with faux flowers) and unnecessary. A baby doesn't have any hair, so it's a pointless accessory.

I have no idea what pram shoes are?

OP as someone pointed out in some circles hair bands are the norm so it's unlikely that everyone is judging you. In certain areas of my city all baby girls have lacy hair bands with matching frilly socks and a matching pram cover thing. It looks horrendous to me but is clearly within the taste of others.

MirriVan · 09/11/2018 10:41

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MemoryOfSleep · 09/11/2018 10:43

Also, a quick Google revealed:

More and more experts are begging parents to stop with the headbands (as cute as they may seem) because they can pose as a chocking hazard. A few experts are even claiming that the headbands can affect the baby's skull growth and brain development.

Obviously a tight headband is a bad thing and the new rule of thumb is to only leave a headband on your baby for a short photo shoot (possibly no longer than 5 minutes)

www.babygaga.com/15-baby-accessories-that-can-cause-serious-injuries-to-babies/

Allthewaves · 09/11/2018 10:44

no no no no

Did i say no. It's a baby not a dress up doll

PhilomenaButterfly · 09/11/2018 10:44

I started putting DD in headbands because there are only so many times you can hear "What a handsome little boy". You get fed up trotting out the same thing over and over again.

MirriVan · 09/11/2018 10:44

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HugoBearsMummy · 09/11/2018 10:44

@AliceMarie89 IGNORE all these negative comments. If soft fabric headbands were sooo dangerous why on earth would they be sold in Mothercare, Mamas & Papas etc?? Ridiculous statement.

I personally like pram shoes, our little boy has worn soft little shoes of some sort since he was 3 months old, I personally don't like seeing babies in the dead of winter with just socks on their feet, we used to carry DS in a baby carrier a lot so his feet were on show- his feet would have froze with only a little pair of socks on.

The comments stating they can damage the babie's feet- my DS is 3 , was walking at 10 months and has had no issues with his feet, so that's utter rubbish

OP continue to dress your baby girl however you see fit and tell the rude people who have commented IRL on how you dress your child to keep their dated opinions to their selves.

OwlBeThere · 09/11/2018 10:45

You could say that about a lot of things. (non medical) Jewellery, (Non scar covering) make up, nail varnish, nice clothes, expensive handbags

non of which i'd put on a baby, @Eliza.....Hmm

BackInRed · 09/11/2018 10:46

I love headbands...on me, I wear them almost every day. I don't like them on babies though unless it is to prevent their long hair from getting in their eyes. I rarely see young babies with long hair though.

Ornate headbands just for pictures seems all right, tons of photographers seem to like them for newborn pics.

OwlBeThere · 09/11/2018 10:47

@Hugo.....Mothercare also sell cot bumpers which also proven to be highly dangerous to babies. Mothercare sell products, they aren't going to stop selling things unless forced to by law.

ImpendingDisaster · 09/11/2018 10:47

They both look terrible. There's no need to adorn a baby.

Also, headbands, which I sort of like on adults, give me a terrible headache. Why would you want to put one on a gorgeous, soft, fuzzy head? Eeek. Please don't.

Alfie190 · 09/11/2018 10:48

IRL, most people won’t notice or care

I definitely exist IRL and i would notice and I would think it looks ridiculous and that mother (I dont think a dad would bother) was a complete chav.

KlutzyDraconequus · 09/11/2018 10:48

Just superfluous crap to be sold to new parents.

Weddings, babies and funerals are all bogged down with unnecessary shite that you don't need that have been created just so some nameless business can get money out of you.

Tatgalore · 09/11/2018 10:49

Really what is the point?

Surely your main priority should be your baby's safety and comfort. Hairbands and pram shoes serve no purpose other than to decorate your baby.

GreatDuckCookery6211 · 09/11/2018 10:51

There's an element of snobbery towards them imo. I will hold my hands up and say that think they look naff though. The same with those silly bows that were in fashion the other year.

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 09/11/2018 10:52

When I see babies dressed in these things it looks like their Mum has dressed them like a doll rather than prioritising what’s most comfortable for the child.

Yep.

Headbands just scream “I NEED everyone to know my baby doesn’t have a penis!”

Double yep.

I wouldn’t say anything, but to be perfectly honest I would judge.

OwlBeThere · 09/11/2018 10:52

Podiatrist Dr Samuel Ong (B. Pod. Med.) is the founder and principal podiatrist of Mustard Seed Podiatry.

How are baby’s feet not just smaller versions of adult feet and do they need to be treated in a different way?
As a newborn, feet are mostly cartilage, with the last bones not formed until up to the age of five. Only after all of the bones are formed will they start to resemble a smaller version of an adult foot. Children’s feet continue to grow until they are around 18 years at which stage most of the bones have fully developed. Given these differences, baby shoes are not required and babies should not be wearing shoes as they can be restrictive to growth.

When should babies start wearing shoes?
Babies start to walk between 9 and 12 months, with most walking by 18 months. When your baby first starts walking, baby shoes are only required to protect their feet against sharp objects, dirt and slippery surfaces while outdoors. Fancy features are not required in the shoes.

Babies younger than this don’t really need baby shoes as they are not walking

@hugo *the fact your child is fine is neither here nor there, (you can't actually know that either, he might be storing up issues fir when hes older, small children don't often have issues, its not until we age that bad gait, or feet shape comes into play) but even if he is, its still not recommended by experts. for a reason.

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