Tripped and fell at friend's wedding - completely mortified

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A close friend of mine got married in August with a lovely ceremony followed by a reception in a large marquee. There were about 120 guests sat at about 12 tables and I'd say I knew about 30 people there.

Her dad gave a speech during the reception meal and everyone was asked to stand to raise a toast. The floor was quite uneven and as I stood up, I caught my heel on something and fell over backwards.

Unfortunately my table was at the front of the room in full vision of all the other guests and the wedding party. Everyone turned and looked at me momentarily, at which point DH immediately grabbed me and pulled me back up. The bride's father's speech was still going on.

It was all over in a split second, but I was absolutely mortified and left the wedding a few hours early because of it (giving an excuse that I felt unwell).

I've spoken to the friend several times since and she was absolutely fine about me leaving early and concerned about me being unwell etc, but neither of us mentioned the embarrassing fall.

Ever since the wedding I've felt like a complete idiot because of what happened, and am just so embarrassed about it. I've even distanced myself from my friend as I feel she wouldn't want to be buddies with someone who made such a tit of themselves like that.

DH thinks I'm completely overreacting and has asked me to stop going on about it, but I can't stop worrying about it and the effect it could have on our friendship. AIBU?

I know. ToeToToe. :(

Massive over reaction op !!!

Please please don't let this occupy your mind anymore, enough is enough.

Have a laugh about it with your friend and dh and move on.

I definitely think you could probably do with talking out with a therapist about the bullying and teasing you went through as it is doubtless a massive part of your social anxiety now.
CBT is great for some people but the game changer for me was a course of psychotherapy.

t you all had to do one embarrassing thing every day.

If something like falling off a chair happened accidentally- that would be perfect. Otherwise you might have to speak to a stranger or skip down a street on purpose. (It just had to be embarrassing to you. The people with the lowest embarrassment thresholds did have an advantage. )

This was all discussed at the end of the day and points were given for style and imagination.

I want to do this - not for any reason- just want to do it . . ,..

Sounds like anxiety, I get like this where I spend ages dwelling over embarassing or awkward moments, even things like conversations where I worry I’ve said something wrong. I don’t drink socially because I get crippling fear the next day that I said something or behaved in an embarassing way, even if I wasn’t particularly drunk. I wish I didn’t feel that way, it’s so hard and a waste of life worrying.

I fell over in the middle of the dance floor at my work Christmas party last year. Yes, I am embarrassed (because I was way drunker than I should have been). But I just had to put it behind me and promise myself not to get that drunk again. A few people gossiped about it the next day and even laughed at me which was fair enough because it was an epic fall and I showed my knickers - way worse than yours. But it was all forgotten a few days later and I haven’t even thought about it again until I read this thread. You are really really over thinking this incident. Do try to forget about it and definitely don’t be weird because of it with your poor friend!