What kind of mother would cast away their own child?

[TheDogsBollock]

Adult child admittedly but I can't imagine my feelings changing that much to my children when they're adults.

And all because uncomfortable questions were asked.

Well you’re not giving us much to go on!

I think we need more info op

Just going to say the same thing, could be many distressing reasons why they felt they had too.

What kind of uncomfortable questions?

The purple stripey kind. They’re well known for casting away their own children, the stripey bitches.

Does the context matter?

There was no violence, stealing, threats or even foul language involved.

Of course context matters. Are you a parent? I can think of a few things my children could do that would make me disown them.

Like what? Umbongo

Am a parent yes. Oldest is a teen.

Forgot to add drugs, alcohol nor any other kind of addiction involved. Nor crime.

Guess she just wasn't that into me?

Nice 'vaguebooking' post there

I’m so sorry op if this happened to you.

People do it every week. And not just to adult children

Of course context matters here. My grandmother had to disown two of her children as sad as it is. And people judge her terribly but its been over 30 years and she still suffers thinking about them every day.

Has your mother disowned you op? Thats very very hard. Can you talk us through whats happend? It might help you come to terms with it.

So vague, how can we have an opinion?!

Really? Context doesn't matter? Because I know someone who turned murderous during a psychotic episode and her mother (who she also tried to kill) should just understand that she was ill. She was, but that doesn't mean that her mother feels particularly safe around her and wants to see her again.

Context is important, yes. I could disown my child if (God forbid) it turned out that they were a paedophile, or trafficker, or murderer, or confidence trickster preying on the vulnerable.

It wouldn't mean I would stop loving them - I would be in Hell - but I couldn't bring myself to do anything that would seem to condone any dreadful behaviour.

I've already posted that no violence or threats of it was involved Exploding.

OK to reframe it, is there any acceptable reason for a mother to disown their adult child if nothing that I've already posted about was involved?

Would it not seem strange to a 3rd party?

If either of my children were rapists, pedos, murderers, thieves, drug addicts etc. So many reason.

I think unless you are willing to explain the situation no once can possibly give you an opinion based on just the fact a mother has disowned her adult child.
There are hundreds of reasons why this would happen.

See op its harder to gage if its ok or not with little info.

My guess is you brought up something about your past and your mother has disowned you for it rather than accept she is at fault. Is it something like this? I a sorry you are going through it though.

No, no criminality involved at all.

I'd think something else was going on in the background.

Having said that my Mum disowned me for 3 years for changing my job, so might not be particularly good at judging this.

Sometimes people just don't get along. Other times people don't want to know

Well something must have happened??

If there is nothing criminal involved, why not explain the context? You can always name change afterwards if you want to preserve your privacy.

I think we seem to think all Mothers are great and a lot of us hold mothers up as some kind of saints. Sadly many are not like that, Mothers can be nasty, unloving just as easy as men can be rubbish dads.

My little sister my parents adopted as a baby, her Birth mother was a drug addict that took drugs during the whole pregnancy she gave no fuck about the effect that might have on the baby. Crap mother

My nephews mum walked out of the family home when he was 3 days old and his now 12, he has never seen her or had any contract with her again. Crap mother

My point is not all mothers are capable of love, sometimes you get a bad egg and maybe your Mum was just one?