What kind of mother would cast away their own child?

[TheDogsBollock]

Adult child admittedly but I can't imagine my feelings changing that much to my children when they're adults.

And all because uncomfortable questions were asked.

Who knows, not for people to judge really. Mental health issues, behavioural, you never know what goes on behind closed doors

Have you been disowned, or have you disowned someone?

Sorry, mis-read

OFFS, can you just tell us what happened?

I wish my mum had disowned my brother, whilst he knew she would pick up the pieces he never took responsibility. Eventually when she died he could no longer cope and had a breakdown as it was a bit late to make much difference to his life at 55.

Who knows.

Have you been asking questions about your parentage? Mine disowned me for (legitimately) doing that

When my father was 9 years old, his mother walked out on him and his younger siblings, leaving them with their step-father (the third she had had since his paternal father), because men were more important to her. They found her 35 years later, with a new husband and acted as though she hadn't done anything wrong.

Never apologised and gets rather hurt when she hasn't heard from any of her children for a while yet doesn't make an extra effort herself. selfish woman.

What did you ask OP?

What did you ask your mum I mean.

Nothing like that Bluebolt.

Do you think that was a legitimate reason to be disowned Katniss? I assume you're being ironic!

Not far off the mark though.

NotUmbongoUnchained

You wpuld disown your child if they became addicted to drugs or stole something from a shop, jeez, be pissed off maybe but never have anything to do with them again? Bit harsh.

*PinkHeart5914

I think we seem to think all Mothers are great and a lot of us hold mothers up as some kind of saints. Sadly many are not like that, Mothers can be nasty, unloving just as easy as men can be rubbish dads*

Yes that's true. However, it is very different parenting a young child than an adult child. Some context (and history) is needed if MN judges are to present an informed, reasoned opinion.

maybe she was sick of you talking in bloody riddles.

There could be lots of reasons, OP.
As others have said, the behaviour of the child could be enough to warrant it eg they harm others in some way. (Though you've said this is not the case).
The mother could simply be an awful person.

Or the mother could be human, but weak/unable to cope. For various reason - MH issues on either side, co-ercement by an abusive partner, or poor (but not violent or criminal) behaviour from the child which the parent just can't cope with any more.

It must be awful for you OP, whatever the reason.

As a pp kind of said, I think even as adults we hold our parents (particularly mothers) to high standards, and expect them to always be able to be there for us no matter what. We judge them more harshly thab we judge ourselves.

But the reality is that mothers are human. Even the best are weak, flawed, sometimes selfish.
And some, perhaps many are just not good people.

Though it's particularly shit when it's their children who have to pick up the pieces left behind by that reality.

Ask my mil - she's done it to her two boys.

The answer to your question is all kinds.

Happens up and down this country, all around the world, at all ages and in all kinds of situations.

OP not everyone has the same barometer. You could say what you asked and some of us would say no way and some of us would say they would.

Tbh ATM I'm wondering if you're hard work in general and they've had enough because you've given nothing to work with.

Ha ha Flaming. Def a NC offence but no! I'm normally quite eloquent.

If you want to discuss your issue you would be better off posting about it. Rather than playing stupid guessing games.

I've written about this before but I had a friend whos mother called her to a meeting with her and her therapist.. She explained that while she didn't wish her ill, she didn't feel that they had a lot in common and didn't want any more contact. She said that if she saw her on the street of course she'd say hello, but wouldn't be in touch any more..

They found a massive brain tumour about a year later.

No, not being ironic- I meant my questioning of her was legitimate. She had divorced the person she said was my Dad before I could have been been conceived and when my older siblings tracked him down, he knew nothing of my existence. Understandably (I think!) I had some questions about this. Instead of having an adult conversation and telling me the truth she threw her toys out of the pram at being caught out and hasn't spoken to me in 7 years.

To be honest, it's made a huge improvement to my life. She did so many awful things I think I became blind to it and just suffered it because that's how it was. I'm considerably happier, safer, healthier and financially more secure without her in it. And having now had DC myself, I couldn't imagine treating them the way she treated me and my siblings growing up, and as adults.

TheDogsBollock I was cast away by the whole paternal side of my family for standing up to their domineering and bullying ways. Nothing wrong or criminal in what I did. I've been NC with them for approx 6 years and I don't regret it

She'd sooner lose you than face up to something she did in the past.
Not your fault except for raising it.
This is why abuse survivors get abandoned by their families all the time, siding with the perpetrator - denial is easier than the truth.
Glad that life is better for you without her.
What sort of woman? - a weak one who would sooner blame the victim.

OP
These kind of posts are really tedious either tell us or don’t post ask her.