To hold out for more money

[inmyshoos]

My exh moved in our old family home although when we split I signed it over to him with the understanding that when our ds who lives with him turns 18 we will look at him giving me what I'm due from the house.
I'm short of money now and tbh would like to be able to draw a line under this.

He has offered me 20k now as a full and final settlement and he waves right to anything of mine (like my pension, he doesn't have one) or i can wait at least another 8 years and if the house prices in area remain steady I should be due around 50k.

AIBU to hold out for more? He can't borrow anymore as only works pt because he has ds so if I want money now that's the offer but I'm due more.

There is a good online law firm that helped me with some issues and not too expensive, you get some free time to chat with them about issues first, might be a cheaper option, they are called lawbite. Might be helpful, sounds like you definitely need some legal help.

Why should I go spend money on legal advice when currently his demands are just from him

To protect your assets?

Btw, did you reverse your child's gender in the OP? Is the 10 year old a boy or a girl?

See a solicitor before you offer anything. That is 100% the best thing you could do to “take pressure off”.

Did you see a Solicitor OP ?

10yo is a girl. Sorry for the confusion the reverse caused, I know how irritating they are. But I wanted to hear from a different perspective. Currently he plays the victim because I'm 'sitting pretty in the family home'.

I will get some legal advice. I need to wait until I get a day off work, I've so.much on just now.

I did however ask ex about the letter he said I receive and he more or less said he hadn't had time to see a solicitor but he would let me know.

He's bullshitting you OP.. you get yourself good legal advise and protect yourself and your DD..

Did you seek Legal advise OP

Why aren't you providing 50% of the childcare and wrap around care costs OP so you can both work full time? Wouldn't that make more sense?

Just like a bloke should do if he is the one that moves out.

Also "as has no childcare" why would it be solely his job to provide and source childcare? Why aren't you 50/50?

Your son is 10. Either there is a massive dripfeed here or why would you, as a mother, walk away from your ten year old child?!

Oh fuck off with your reverse 🤬

@TurkeyBear just .. RTFT. It helps.

shakes head...