To ask...What do you mum's refer to your vaginas as to your little kids?!

[Zara87]

Not even sure this is allowed... but I have an almost 3yo who is now noticing and asking questions about how I wee without a willy!
He keeps saying stuff like "you do a wee out of your that bit" and pointing. I just want something to refer to it as, which doesn't sound ridiculous. I know it is called a vagina but i don't really want to call it that to him, I'm not sure why but it kind of sounds wrong at age 2. My mum used to call it 'a Mary' which i don't like!
Does anyone have any suggestions

I'm not really going to add anything to the op's discussion (sorry) but just thought I'd jump in on the subject of peeing in front of children..

I have 2 and I never go to the loo in front of them. I've not had periods since they were born (coil) but if I did there is 100% no way I would have dealt with period stuff in front of them either. Not because I'm ashamed or oppressed or anything, I'm actually very comfortable with nudity etc I just am very shy about toilet stuff, always have been since a child and so that time is private time.

It's not that hard really. Just shut and lock the door. Ds has SN and will quite often shout through the door and knock on it until I'm done but I just leave it shut until I'm finished. I'm only a few minutes at the longest they won't die or be traumatised forever because they weren't inside with me 😆

It's not that hard really. Just shut and lock the door.

But what about public loos?

We use vagina but only because the only time it comes up is in terms of where babies are born from. The DSs know they have a penis but generally call it a willy.

I find it very useful to get the DC to make me a cup of tea, if they refuse I say well I pushed you out of my vagina, a cup of tea is the least you can do.

However you can be as open ad you like with children and they can still get embarrassed as they get older. My DD is a total prude. Be brother asked me on the bus if I turned into a dragon would I still have boobs, I replied I didn't think so as I dont think dragons have boobs. DD hissed at us to to stop saying boobs on the bus.
I was watching some ocean documentary with her which repeatedly referred yo the Whales enormous penis and she just went redder and redder, I thought she was going to explode when his testicles were mentioned.

Foof and willy here

I was never brought up calling my lady garden a vagina/vulva and yet I seem to have managed fine through several smears, pregnancy and childbirth with no ill effects. FWIW I have a lady garden and my 3 month old DD has a noonoo. Twee, but funny.
Also, lowering the tone here, but how do ‘correct terminology at all costs!’ people do bedroom talk? “Please put your erect penis into my vagina!” seems to lack erotic panache

Girls bits and wee hole

Remember having conversations explaining about "wee pipes" being inside/outside

Whatever you say be prepared for it to be referred to loudly in the supermarket/swimming pool/gym! Tho that's more likely with a daughter I suppose

As a child that general area of body was called tuppence

As a little girl I had a Mary. It's a foof now.

A friend used to call it a toot and my niece has a Minnie.

DeltaZulu89

It does. But I very much hope you wouldn’t be asking your children to fill you with their hot cum.

When my boys were toddlers I just told them it was my vulva and I had a 'wee hole' like they had a willy.

Vagina didn't come up until they asked about how babies are made. So now they know girls/women have a 'wee hole' and a 'baby hole'. They do know the proper names though!

My kids have always called it a vulva. Because that's what it's called.

I also shut the bathroom door at home but have had several children standing in the toilet cubicle with me in public loos! I definitely wouldn't trust a 2\3\4 year old to wait for me on the other side of the door.

But you don’t see out of your vagina or am I missing something here?! 😂

We have "girl bits" - obviously teenage DD knows the proper names for her body parts but girl bits just seemed easier until we got to that stage 😊

“Please put your erect penis into my vagina!” seems to lack erotic panache

Whereas “put your willy in my noonoo” is proper wide on fodder.

Mine have always just used penis/vagina. They've also been absolutely fine with seeing me wee occasionally and not had disturbed childhoods.

I've always thought that the more words a child knows for their anatomy the more 'safe' they are in terms of being able to tell an adult if anything untoward ever happened to them. If they're calling it a flower or a postbox there's got to be a greater chance something important could be missed.

All girls and me of course. Grew up in an Irish family and it is called "your mary" "my mary" etc. My girls know the word vagina and information about periods 10 and 7. They have all there life to use what ever words they like. I do not agree with having to use correct terminology because if that's truly the case the word would be to of people just calling people twats a d arsehole. Not very becoming really. So mary is our way. Not the way of a lot of others but do you hear me complain about it. No because it's personal choice. Childhood plays apart in most people.

Neither of my children ever asked or commented on this. I never had to think of a name to use because there was no need to vocalise it. I was always expecting the question at some stage but it never came.

We call it a minni here.
My mother called it a twinkle which made me laugh at twinkle twinkle little star

Always called it vagina & penis (or willy) in our house.

If you are really a mother of a boy do not discuss your genitals with him. Do not urinate in front of him.

What? Why??

My 2yo son regularly comes for baths with me and follows me into the bathroom. I let him come into the bathroom as I think it will probably help with toilet training and also I just don't care 🤷🏼‍♀️

I don't think it matters too much what you call it at this age, as he gets a little older it will be important for him to learn proper terminology but at 2 I really don't see the harm.
I called it my 'gina' and would apparently sing loud songs wherever I went "Gina Gina Gina" when I learned this word at 3.
Don't understand either what's so wrong about peeing in front of a toddler  I wouldn't lock my bathroom door and leave DD unsupervised and monkey see, so when came to potty training she wanted to do what I do. Same with public toilets.

Gosh this should be such a non issue. When my daughter was very little we called it her front bottom. When she was a bit older we explained the right terms. She's now 21 and isn't slightly damaged or confused by ever having used or heard the term front bottom.

Sigh

Yes I assumed seeing me and DH in the loo would help with potty training. He was certainly very interested. DH drew a line though when DS asked to see “the actual hole where the poo comes out”.

I had a Mary growing up.
Thought I was the only one.

Waves delightfully to all Mary owners 👋