To ask...What do you mum's refer to your vaginas as to your little kids?!

[Zara87]

Not even sure this is allowed... but I have an almost 3yo who is now noticing and asking questions about how I wee without a willy!
He keeps saying stuff like "you do a wee out of your that bit" and pointing. I just want something to refer to it as, which doesn't sound ridiculous. I know it is called a vagina but i don't really want to call it that to him, I'm not sure why but it kind of sounds wrong at age 2. My mum used to call it 'a Mary' which i don't like!
Does anyone have any suggestions

My children know the correct terminology but call them bits. Cover your bits/wash your bits/don’t scratch your bits in public etc

so glad I live in a country that has a good, child-friendly word for girl’s parts

Which word is it? Just out interest.

I think an above pp is correct that some people would be a bit shocked with a child saying vaginally. Same goes for penis.

“We grew up calling it "auntie mary" which caused me all sorts of confusion because we actually had an auntie Mary but she wasn't really our auntie...”

@Sparkingfizzing it depends on the context though.
A parent would always know or ask more if they are the ones that taught her the term.
In a specific setting,school for example further questions would normally follow as it's not an item you'd really expect in school.
At a playdate with no boys again further questioning would follow as it makes no sense.
At a birthday party yeah it could be confusing as hell and depends on the grownup that's told.

Tbh some grownups would do/say the wrong things regardless of what term was used.

People allow their children to say urinate? Disgusting vernacular, please use the scientific term which is micturate.

I use the fully correct terms even if they don't quite understand, just because that's how I was raised,
And yup, I dont do santa or the easter bunny or any of that other shite

I've got two boys. I've 'always' called it my fanny to them, not that there has often been a reason to!!

@OlderThanAverageforMN
Fanny means bottom, so is, in fact, the exact same usage.

Not in the UK. Fanny is not definitely NOT your arse. I'm quite happy to use it as a catch-all term for female genitals as it's far less unacceptable currently than cunt which is actually a good solid Old English word which wasn't originally seen as obscene.

We use vulva, vagina, Fanjo.
And penis and willy.

Privates. Boys and girls bits can be called privates, eliminating the need to call them anything else until older!

Jesus this is a mine field!

The correct word is Vulva, most thinking they’re being correct as using Vagina.

Those chastising others for using nicknames like ‘minnie’ ‘front bottom’ ‘foo foo’ ‘ daisy’ etc, must realise their children will grow up and KNOW what that means. I’d be interested to hear those adults using apparently adult terminology with their children, what do they say to their friends if suffering an itchy ? I’d say fanny frankly! But I’d not teach my daughter that word as it’s offensive, it’s colloquial language.

Boys anatomy has standard terms - willy, penis. Girls doesn’t seem to.

Fgs, and this thread is ludicrous

We call it a twinkle, but the advice from nurseries and schools is to use the proper names, so that incidences of child abuse can be recognised easier. Using other names creates confusion. However, I agree the real names sound a bit crass.

I have 6 children. I have never felt the need for any of them to watch me pee. What kind of fresh hell is this

I have 23 children and instantly stopped going to the toilet at all once the first one was born. What even is a toilet?

Always use proper terminology with children.

Call it what the hell you want. They’ll learn a wide variety of vocabulary that you’ll need to correct when they start school .
As long as they know the anatomical names so they can describe anything serious, there really isno need to insist they use them all the time.

My DC are now bored of seeing me on the loo but I have to pee in the garden every night so the new rescue dogs stop bloody doing it in the house.

I hope the neighbours are using the correct terminology.

Front bottom

@Purpleartichoke I think thats the problem! What do you tell your girls as proper terminology?

My seven year old calls it "your vulva" but thinks it's much funnier to say I've got a willy! He knows the correct term is penis but uses willy usually..

I love how people get so het up about the importance of using the correct biological terms for genitals.

I'd also bet that none of them refer to fingers as phalanges...

Correct terminology is protective.

“Some sexual offenders avoid children who know the correct names for their genitals because this suggests these children have been educated about body safety and sexuality (Elliot, Browne, & Kilcoyne, 1995). One convicted offender (who had assaulted 75 children by the time he was stopped) reported that when children knew the correct terms for their different body parts, he would leave them alone (Sprengelmeyer & Vaughan, 2000).” Plus, as the article states, there’s “naming power” in having a name that other people can understand, not silly made-up nouns.

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Sorry, the article.

I've used a variety of terms with DD1, but she insists on calling it her front bottom. I hate that term, but it's what she's comfortable with. Assuming she picked it up from nursery as it's probably the only term i haven't used!

A name! Dear God, my dm would never have been so vulgar as to name anything

After 4 dds and 9 gdds, she still couldn’t bring herself to use the word “period” in anything other than an awkward whisper.

My ds spotted that he has a penis and I haven’t, so I have a “fanny” instead. Vulva didn’t seem appropriate from a (then) 3yo boy

My daughter has said vulva and penis since two years old (now three and still does). No need to mention vagina yet as she hasn't asked about babies or periods.
So she'd say "daddy's got a penis" or "my vulva is itchy" and we know what she means. DH is comfortable saying vulva and penis too.