NC’d for this as can’t risk a massive family fall out.
My sister is getting married on May bank holiday next year. Love her fiancé, whole family very excited including us.
Wedding venue has just been booked, gorgeous place about 10 miles from home. All good so far.
Sister wants all immediate family to stay in the wedding hotel for THREE NIGHTS. Friday, Saturday of the wedding and the Sunday. Here comes the problem.
DH and I have two DC, aged just 1 and 3. The hotel only has tiny normal UK hotel sized rooms. No suites, no adjoining rooms, no big family rooms. So sister is effectively asking the four of us to live out of one bedroom for an entire bank holiday weekend when our own home is only a few miles away.
Aside from the worry of what the hell we’re going to do with two energetic toddlers in a hotel for two full days with nothing organised, AIBU for wanting to only stay on the night of the wedding???
I can’t imagine any of us getting any sleep at all when the room is so small that even the hotel themselves recommend no travel cots! We’ll all disturb each other all night and be too tired to celebrate. I also don’t want to think about getting us all ready for the wedding in a room with no floor space and a tiny en-suite shower, and no way of really entertaining the DC.
So, AIBU to suggest that we’ll join early on the morning of the wedding and stay over just the night of the wedding? We’re happy to join each day as early as they want and stay as late as we can, just don’t want to all stay in a room that’s smaller than my bedroom!
DH and I are putting this out the MN jury as we don’t want to be precious or cause any offence. We’re the only ones in the family with young children and I know my sister doesn’t really understand what she is asking of us, she just wants us all to be together for the most time possible.
What would you do?