This is a long and confused saga. I want to keep it concise so may drip feed.
My mum has a life-long serious medical condition. Addisons as a result of adrenalectomy to treat cushings (1958). She is 83 and to say she is difficult is an understatement.
She has been through many drs in recent years and has no trust in any of them. Its her not them!
She refuses to go to the dr when she is sick
As a result i find myself trying to manage her many ailments with otc medication that is a huge worry due to interactions with her medicines. She also on tramadol for steroid induced osteoporosis. I am in no way qualified to do this. But cant leave her with nothing iyswim.
So today i have at her request made appointment with her Gp who she dislikes. I thought good she finally realises she needs help. Several issues. Depression and not sleeping being one of many. Bad stomach. Dizziness. Sinus issues etc etc. Some need investgating. She has been referred for ultrasound but wont attend.
So it turns out she is spoiling for a fight AGAIN. Says she will demand antibiotics bit wants the ones her old dr gave her probably 10 years ago that any of the ones she has been given since have made her ill (they haven't) and that this is why she is like she is now (its not). She only kniws they were red and yellow tablets
So it will end up as her having set to with dr and leaving with mp treatment/plan as clearly the dr isnt going to give her what she wants.
My issue is - what do i do going forward. Ive discussed with my dr (who used to be hers and now my mum hates her ( and she says all the while she has "capacity " they cant intervine even though her decisions are clearly bad for her health. That i need yo protect my own (fragile) mental health
This isnt dementia. Its been going on for years although worsened with her advancing age.
How can i explain this to her dr when my mum is there. They wont discuss with me without consent obv.
At a loss
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LEMtheoriginal · 02/11/2018 08:41
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