DP picked up baby with volterol on hands!

[MrsVissa]

I need to rant.

DP just rubbed a load of max strength volterol in to his thigh. Then, with sticky unwashed hands, literally immediately after rubbing it in to his leg, picked up our 10 day old baby who only had a nappy on. I grabbed baby and put him under the shower to rinse him off.

I'm furious and have walked out of the house with him in pram to cool off. I could literally see the shiny handprint on DS where the gel was on him.

How could he be so stupid? AIBU to be furious at him? Or am I overreacting (very hormonal at the moment...)

Huge cuddle to you, OP. You are obviously both doing a super job. Bless you for reconnecting with your OH - it takes a lot to do that when you are exhausted and frazzled and ready to lamp someone. 

You DROPPED your baby??? Omg. Onto the floor?????

Well if it was into a pit of spikes she would have said

It happens, why the horror?

PyongyangKipperbang

You need to give yourself and your DH a break.

At 10 days old you have both been through a lot of up and down emotions and are probably both physically and mentally drained!

It's a simple mistake which could have easily been made and avoided but hey, welcome to parenting, they happen. One day you'll do something that you relises is a silly but had no bad intentions and will be fine.

So pleased to see such a nice update, OP I'm glad you've made up and husband sounds like a good'un.

You DROPPED your baby??? Omg. Onto the floor?????
Mine rolled off the settee on to the floor. I didn't realize he could move!!!
God know why but he got a fit of the giggles and thought it was funny.
I didn't

My baby rolled off my knee onto a soft bed at three weeks. I freaked out as it so could have been the floor but I hadn't slept in days and misjudged that I had hold of him. Mistakes happen

I got in a huge row with my dh over a sheet for the cot about two weeks after new ds was born. I ended up telling him to leave... small overreaction there and all was well after I apologized and calmed down. Babies make you crazy. It gets easier I promise

Give both yourself and dh a break.
Worse will.happen. baby will be ok.

And leave the housework. Hire a one off cleaner/enlist family help/ send out clothes for a service wash and iron. Buy Tesco finest ready meals or Waitrose 3 for £10 cook in tray meat/fish.

Oh crickey the incidents I could list but it would make me sound like the worse parent ever 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ One of my finest moments was when our cat knocked off a glass vase on the floor —git— and despite my best efforts I missed the tiniest shard and my dd who was about 7mnths at the time crawled on to it and cut her finger. I hadnt seen her bleed before then I was devastated totally broke my heart. But you cannot beat yourself up. Accidents will happen. At some point they are bound to fall off your bed too. Lots of love x

Do you always treat your partner like this? New parents make mistakes all the time, you two are a team and need to treat each other with respect. It’s not fair on your baby to treat its dad like he’s a fool. Cool down then go and apologise. Your baby will be fine

I think if the alternative was to have a row, it was a good thing to leave the house to calm down. I don't know why people were aghast at that. And it was a stupid thing for him to do, so I hope he gave an apology too.

OP, I would have freaked out a little too, mothers of small babies have a fierce protective instinct which can go overboard sometimes, I know I did still do. I also know that dads have a lot of catching up to do and find their fatherly responsibility sometimes a bit later, and often after they have had to actually worry about their small child.

In all likelihood, the voltarel did not harm your baby, I expect you have given baby a bath and washed it off thoroughly? Why don't you call your practice nurse and run it by her for peace of mind?

I would talk to your dh and explain why it upset you so much and that he needs to be a bit more careful but please rein in your inner warrior, your dh is not the enemy here.

I say that as someone whose husband left our 2 wk old baby outside, unattended. It was our first outing as a family in Hampstead Heath, he was supposed to wait outside whilst I chose some food at the self serving cafe. He went inside casually assessing the sandwiches on offer when I asked him where baby and pram were. He looked all unconcerned and said that he had asked some random strangers to mind the pram whilst he nipped inside and got some food. This was on one of the busies days on a weekend, the place was heaving.

I have to admit I felt murderous with rage and still haven't quite forgiven it. idiot

Well done op. It’s such a hard time for both of you. More so if you have experienced losses.
It’s great that you aware of your emotions. Remember, your midwife/HV is there for you. Talk to them.

Congratulations!

No @Fatasfook but I have just had a baby. Baby blues are very real.

OP I had diclofenac shoved up my ass after giving birth and I breast fed. I strongly doubt you OH had more on his hands than I had up my behind.

Also remember just do the minimum of housework and tell your OH do some as well as he lives in the house also.

@BlueBug45 I had something shoved up my bum too. No idea what it was...

i remember when my dd was about 6months old. i had just rubbed hand sanitiser on my hands and immediately felt her gums for signs of teething. i immediately realised that the sanitiser contained alcohol and i spent the afternoon panicking. i remember crying when my husband got in from work, saying "look at her, i think she's drunk!" as she bounced happily in her Jumperoo. Massive overreaction!

Ah MrsVissa this reminded me of what it was like in the fog of having a newborn. I'm glad you've made up. Your husband sounds lovely and so do you. Congratulations and lots of 💐

Congratulations OP. It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job, and you and your partner are communicating well and working as a team. The early days are totally mad, so go easy on yourself xxx

I would have got stressed out and very upset by that too and I’ve got 3 kids and had no baby blues! Hand washing before handling the baby is very important.

Glad you made up, OP. We are all overemotional ten days after giving birth. It sounds like you are trying to pretend that you are superwoman; you should really not be concerning yourself with housework at this stage.

And if I listed all the stupid mistakes that I made with my dd...

OP I would have fucking killed him.

Everyone else seems so reasonable but honestly I would have destroyed him if he did that when DS was ten days old.

I have more perspective now but recently made him sleep in the spare room (DS sleeps with us) when he insisted on putting on deep heat.

You’re allowed to be irrational. You’ve just had a baby!

I accidentally threw DD down half a flight of stairs. I was seriously sleep deprived, missed a step and grabbed the handrail with both hands to save myself.bforgetting I was holding the baby! She was fine, called 111 had her checked over while I sobbed - not even a scratch on her!