To take DS out trick and treating with chickenpox?

[Cherubneddy1]

DS 6 is more excited about Halloween than birthdays, Christmas, anything else. But he's woken up this morning covered in spots; clearly chickenpox.

WIBU to take him out trick and treating, on his own away from other children, if I kept him well back from people's' doors? He would genuinely be excited just to see houses all decorated ( and his sister could collect sweets for him.)

He is very well in himself.

Yes Dorsetdays but after chemo I couldn't have the MMR or CP vaccine for 2 years because they are live vaccines. I wish I coule have them, still have 6 months to wait, but it's not possible right now.

The NHS obviously don’t vaccinate those who are ill but those who are close family/carers for them so the risk of passing on infection is minimised.

Yes. I have been clear for 18 months. DH & DC have been vaccinated, but should I not leave my house or answer my door for 2 years because some stupid cunt thinks 'oh well it's ok, my kid is bored for a few days'?

I had a thread running a few days ago while I was trying to decide whether to cancel our holiday because the chances were high that DS was incubating CP. I did cancel in the end and I’m glad I did because he is now covered in them and really quite miserable. I would have hated to have passed it on to anyone on the plane or to the friends we were going to visit.

Rainbow. Not sure it’s necessary to use that language and it really doesn’t help make your point.

However, yes I do think actually that you shouldn’t open your door to trick or treaters if your immune system is so compromised that answering it could make you really ill. It’s not necessary and would be plain stupid if you ask me.

You have no idea what illnesses are being carried or incubated by any of the children knocking on your door so why would you risk it.

That’s a very different scenario to carrying out necessary trips/shopping etcor going about your day to day life as best you can.

dorsetdays our children (immune suppressed) get extremely poorly, they catch it far more easily and it can spread to the internal organs, it can also cause pneumonia which can kill and will be listed as cause of death. Is it worth it for a bucket full of sweeties?

I do understand what you’re saying and where you’re coming from but I just don’t see that it’s reasonable to shut children away for up to 10 days without even allowing them a bit of fresh air just in case they might pass within 6 feet of Someone who might have a suppressed immune system.

There were ridiculous suggestions that the DD should also be kept off school just in case she was incubating it.

This post isn’t about general day to day issues I.e sending an unwell child into school where they are in close contact for a continued period of time. This was about someone basically going for a walk, clearly avoiding contact with others and keeping well away from people and the OP was unfairly called some awful things and I don’t happen to agree with it.

Dorset Your logic states that I should never leave my house. Nor should I answer my door. What do I do, starve to death? Bloody ridiculous.
As for your comments about the language other people use, it’s mumsnet, we’re adults.

I just don’t see that it’s reasonable to shut children away for up to 10 days without even allowing them a bit of fresh air just in case they might pass within 6 feet of Someone who might have a suppressed immune system.

Wow, 10 days, shock, horror. Yet you do think it perfectly fine for me to not be allowed any fresh air for 2 years?

Wow.

And I think my point was perfectly made and my language didn't dissipate that point at all.

If you’re an adult you should be able to make your point perfectly well without resorting to abusive language. There’s no need for it. I’m assuming you can make your point eloquently enough to your DC without using the c word?

I’ve never said you have to shut yourself away for two years. You’re being ridiculous.

I simply said if your immune system is compromised you take responsibility for looking after your health and you limit your exposure to UNECCESSARY infections by not answering your door to trick or treaters.

Up to you if you choose to ignore what is sensible NHS advice but you have no idea what infections all those children have so why risk it when you don’t have to.

It’s certainky not something I would choose to do as my health would be more important than answering the door!! However it’s up to you but you can’t then complaint if one of those kids gives you flu etc...

Wow. So I shouldn’t take in deliveries or collect my child from a club on Halloween in case someone has knowingly taken their child out trick or treating with chickenpox? I am likely to be immunocompromised for life. I run the risk of catching illnesses from people who aren’t yet aware they have chicken pox etc. But if you know you have a potentially serious contagious disease? Stay in your house/garden etc.

Nope, I never said that either.

The OP was planning to essentially take their child out for a walk, away from other people and not knocking on anyone’s door.

That’s what this thread was about and I still don’t agree there’s anything wrong with that and the flaming the OP got was totally unnecessary and hysterical.

I just wanted to echo Dorestdays posts.

To reiterate, I came on here, a parenting forum, to ask advice regarding how CP can be passed on. Advice which I took. But for asking for advice, I have been called a "stupid cunt", an "idiot", "thick", and the suggestion that I am not fit to be able to look after my children.

Does this not sound a little extreme to you? Rainbow. I totally understand why you are so passionate about it. I would feel the same in your situation. But what I would NOT do is be abusive towards someone who was asking advice and who totally admitted they were ignorant on the subject.

You may be surprised, but I really don't think my level of ignorance regarding CP is unusual. Before I looked on the NHS website and came on here, I asked a friend. An intelligent, professional woman. She told me that once the spots appear that he would no longer be contagious. I was aware this was not correct so researched further.

Rainbow. Would you rather I hadn't tried to inform myself? That would have presented more of a risk to immunity-suppressed people like you, surely? But I am a "stupid cunt" for asking.

Many thanks to all those who helped my ignorance by informing me in a polite way.

I do agree with Dorsetdays. I don't like people who resort in using abusive language to make a point. Even if the argument is valid, it makes it very unpleasant to read. Totally unnecessary.

This is mumsnet, sweaty, particularly in AIBU has always been acceptable. If you think it detracts from a point then that’s your prerogative. Personally I rather feel that complaining about so called taboo language on a forum known for it shows a remarkable lack of research, a limited vocabulary and a petty attitude. And in my case, yep my dad was brought up with the word cunt. Rather sensibly I taught her a) when it was and wasn’t appropriate and b) that it’s ok to use here.
Back to the other discussion. Yes we do need to have an element of responsibility for our own health, but a child kept indoors for ten days is not the end of the world and we would appreciate other adults making informed decisions on behalf of their children. It really is a perfectly reasonable request.

Sweaty= swearing!

Dad= dd

Yes, you can do whatever you like within guidelines, so I am allowed to express my opinion as well?

You don't like swearing? What are you doing on mumsnet!

Anyway you can't argue with stupid. Lets just hope you are never in the position some of us are in and encounter someone like you.

Thanks Rainbow , and I do have a child ongoing immunotherapy at the moment.

I love a good swear. I just don't appreciate being called a "stupid cunt" for asking for advice so I don't put people, such as yourself, at unnecessary risk.

But the irony of such seems to allude you. I enjoy a good debate, but not with someone who lacks the intelligence to carry a coherent argument.

I got the advice I needed, thank you.

This thread reminds me of a bloody entitled mom who brought her pox ridden son (who was in my child's class) to speak to the class teacher whilst picking up her younger son. The ill child was standing in the school playground surrounded by hundreds of other kids, whilst the idiotic mom spoke to the teacher because, obviously, she's too important to email her query.

Anything else we can have ago at you about OP now Halloween has passed

In all seriousness though, you have had a pretty unfair time on here, even for AIBU standards. People do seem to think they can be more rude on AIBU than elsewhere on MN, which can be annoying when you have come on to ask about something and you were going to follow the advise.

When my DD had chickenpox I had to take her to the drs. They knew she had chickenpox and told me to come anyway as they can’t give antibiotics out without making sure that they were infected and that she needed them. I wasn’t happy about going out but I also couldn’t leave her with an infection. The pharmacist had ago at me for bringing her out when I was collecting the antibiotics. Ideally we wouldn’t have gone out but it was unavoidable

Anything else we can have ago at you about OP now Halloween has passed 

. Plenty I expect.

Sorry, the laughing emojis didn't appear on my last post. I'm sure there's plenty.