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To take DS out trick and treating with chickenpox?

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Cherubneddy1 · 31/10/2018 11:52

DS 6 is more excited about Halloween than birthdays, Christmas, anything else. But he's woken up this morning covered in spots; clearly chickenpox.

WIBU to take him out trick and treating, on his own away from other children, if I kept him well back from people's' doors? He would genuinely be excited just to see houses all decorated ( and his sister could collect sweets for him.)

He is very well in himself.

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Alfie190 · 31/10/2018 14:46

This is either a wind up or OP is brain dead and shouldn't be in charge of children anyway.

Oh he is well in himself is he? Well that is all that matters then isn't it, talk about self centred!

Starlight345 · 31/10/2018 14:46

I don't need to add another no.

What i was going to add is is that as he is 6 it is easy to turn it into a great adventure.

A family Hallloween party , loads of games on pintrest. , spooky film, extra treats, Halloween songs ( dancing. He can still dress up at home)

SeaToSki · 31/10/2018 14:49

Can he trick or treat round your house. You can set up behind different doors and he can knock and choose some sweeties. Then he takes them to the kitchen table and you dash behind another door.

PurpleDaisies · 31/10/2018 14:51

Glad you’ve decided to stay in.

Hope the sweet hunt goes well.

whatsthestory123 · 31/10/2018 15:03

aw op i feel for your little lad missing out but the advice is right

hope he still has a great night

ladydickisathingapparently · 31/10/2018 15:03

Don’t suppose you live anywhere near the mumsnetter whose child “only” has the galloping shits? You could get your dcs together for a lovely evening of exchanging viruses.

On a serious note, the sweet hunt sounds good, chuck sweets liberally round the house and garden, dress up, spooky torchlight and you’re all sorted. Or invite friends who’ve all had cp.

DH got cp as a fit and otherwise healthy adult and ended up in hospital. Pretty horrendous. Imagine if he’d been vulnerable before catching it.

Pinkkittens292 · 31/10/2018 15:09

OP was asking a genuine question needing advice and taking that advice on board. It doesn't make her thick or stupid!!
If she was selfish she would have just gone ahead and taking the children trick and treating without asking advice first.

Chicken pox can be dangerous for vulnerable people, so it is best to have a nice evening at home with treats.
My youngest child is eight and he's the only one of mine who hasn't had it yet. I'm dreading him getting it as he has Down's and additional health problems, but obviously he's at risk of catching it from school as children are apparently most contagious just before and when the spots first appear and until they have all scabbed over.

user789653241 · 31/10/2018 15:14

Hope your dc gets well soon and have a lovely spooky sweet hunting evening!

Pickupthephone · 31/10/2018 15:18

You can still have a lovely time without going out. Duvet on the sofa, sweets, pumpkins, scary movies, hide and seek round the house! You can still dress up at home.

Genuinely sounds like more fun than going out to me (which sounds like hell tbh, poorly kid or not!)

Aquilla · 31/10/2018 15:25

No, no, no!

nokidshere · 31/10/2018 15:37

But his sister who will probably be contagious can dip her hand in everyones sweets? Yeah seems safe to me.

You can't keep children who are well indoors because they might be contagious. What a ridiculous suggestion. She may have already had it anyway or she might never get it. I have 6 sisters and would have had to stay home every time one us of had something if that were the case.

And how come all these immunosuppressed adults haven't already had chickenpox as children? I have a compromised immune system but am not at risk because I already had chickenpox. I'm more at risk from all the people walking round with colds, coughs and sneezes but no-one suggests they are kept home. Quite apart from the fact that probably a fair percentage of children going out tonight already have chickenpox but don't know it yet because they have no spots.

There are a lot of very rude posters on this thread. I agree that your DS should not be out and about and that it would be nice to do something at home for him, but I can say that without being so rude.

Gilead · 31/10/2018 15:38

I fucking hope you don't live near me spag, I'm immunosuppressed and I've just got out of hospital. Thanks so much for your consideration. Hmm

Gilead · 31/10/2018 15:39

nokid You can have chicken pox more than once. You are at risk if you are immunocompromised.

Harpingon · 31/10/2018 15:45

nokidshere my daughter is immune suppressed, she is a child, it means that although she had chicken pox when younger the drugs she takes have wiped out the immunity that she once had. It also means that she would not get chicken pox in the way a normal person would if she caught it, it would be far worse. It could kill her.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 31/10/2018 16:06

And nokid wins the second most stupid post of the thread

Whereismumhiding2 · 31/10/2018 16:15

@Cherubneddy1
That's a nice reply OP. Just what AIBU is about, asking for advice, listening to both sides and hearing when vast majority MNers say 'YWBU, please don't '

All's well, that ends well. You asked for advice, got it. AiBU can be a bit feisty at times but PP mean well. I hope you and LO have a lovely time snuggled up inside and that his Chicken pox isn't too horrid. Flowers

If you can get some calomine lotion and one of those balloon hand operated air pumps, that's how I helped my DC relieve their itching!

worridmum · 31/10/2018 16:24

Just to answer another poster saying in the olden days when she was younger they had chicken pox parties and suggesting since that was the done thing its perfectly safe to do so now? (ignoring the much higher infant / child morality rates).

To go one step further remeber in the early 20th centruy people thought smoking was good for you. Or that applying leeches and blood draining was also good as well so by that logic we should contiune doing these things because everyone did it back in the day. Oh wait we are not that stupid.

ifancyachinese · 31/10/2018 16:29

No I don't think you should take him out but why not get some sweets in, put a Halloween film on and let him celebrate it at home.

Soubriquet · 31/10/2018 16:30

My dd was looking forward to T+T tonight.

However she’s come home feeling a bit under the weather. So now she will answer the door at least

Satsumaeater · 31/10/2018 16:34

I fucking hope you don't live near me spag, I'm immunosuppressed and I've just got out of hospital. Thanks so much for your consideration

I hope you recover quickly. And do so by relaxing and not opening your front door to trick or treaters.

Surely if you were ill or vulnerable you wouldn't be opening your door to strangers anyway? I certainly wouldn't (well to be fair I wouldn't be opening my door on Halloween anyway).

And nokid wins the second most stupid post of the thread

Even though they actually are immune-suppressed themselves and are therefore a bit more knowledgeable than most contributors to this thread, myself included?

Dorsetdays · 31/10/2018 16:40

Worridmum. It was me that mentioned chicken pox parties and I simply said how times have changed from when I was young.

There was no suggestion whatsoever that it is, or was, ok to do that. You’ve chosen to read that in my post because it suits your point.

However, I would agree with the PP who echoes my thoughts...if my immune system was so suppressed that someone standing several feet away from me could “kill me” (as PP have stated) I certain wouldn’t be answering my door to trick or treaters!

Watsername · 31/10/2018 16:42

YABU. Please keep them away from people if they have chicken pox. I caught it when I was pregnant and it could have seriously damaged my baby. As it was I suffered from anxiety for 7 months and endured extra scans, which could rule out most but not all potential deformities. Only at birth did we learn that my son was unaffected.

lalafafa · 31/10/2018 16:50

I think the OP has got the message now, She only came on for advice and has taken it.

caringcarer · 31/10/2018 17:01

Three years ago we went on two weeks summer holiday to south of France. It was boiling hot and on day two child went down with chicken pox. Several kids in his primary class had it in prior fortnight so I know where he got it from. He begged to go into swimming pool, but we had to say no he could not go into pool with other children or even in the sea as he could infect other children. Don't be selfish by putting others at risk. Let him dress up at home and make his pumpkin but not go out and his sister can share her treats with him.

1forAll74 · 31/10/2018 17:03

No way should you do this... Can you not do something a bit halloweeney at home instead ?

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