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to think this is so strange - present gone missing!

465 replies

whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 10:54

Have name changed but frequent poster.

It was my birthday on Sunday & last week (Tuesday) I saw my best friend very briefly and she gave me my present to open on the day. I opened it on Sunday and she had bought me a nice box of chocolates – lovely, I like chocolates. Anyway I text her to say a generic thank you she text back have a lovely day – all’s well and I good. But I’ve just spoken to her and she didn’t get me chocolates. She bought me a very ‘naice’ candle.

How weird is that. She has absolute no reason to lie – we’ve know each other forever and don’t have ‘expectations’ in the sense that sometimes we spend a lot, sometimes we don’t. I asked if it could have got mixed up with someone else’s present and no, she had no other birthdays going on. The strangest part is the gift bag and wrapping paper were exactly what she had wrapped the candle in – but it was chocolates.

What the hell has happened to the candle? We had a laugh about it but honestly, it’s so weird!!

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Betsy86 · 30/10/2018 13:55

Just read through the thread and i have no suggestions but i NEED TO KNOW the outcome......

artemisdubois · 30/10/2018 13:58

So the receipt shows that she bought the candle, and she's adamant that it was the candle she wrapped. She even specifically remembers smelling it as she wrapped it.

Did you open a few gifts at similar times? You may have to contact everybody you received anything from to find out if any of them bought you the chocolates - it wouldn't explain the missing candle or the wrapping paper just yet, but it'd be a start!

QuimReaper · 30/10/2018 13:59

I think someone else gave you the chocolates wrapped in similar paper to the candle, and you or your DH (or the chocolate-giver?) put them in the candle bag for convenience's sake.

At some point you somehow took the candle out of the bag for some reason without unwrapping it. It's still wrapped and in your dressing room somewhere.

QuimReaper · 30/10/2018 14:00

There's no way you can wrap those chocolates and not notice they're not a fuck-off great scented candle Confused

KurriKurri · 30/10/2018 14:00

You could send out a text to everyone who was at your house saying 'if the candle is returned by 6pm tonight, we will say no more about it'
Or is that a bit mad ? I can't tell any more Grin

Urbanbeetler · 30/10/2018 14:01

Did you have any dodgy guests who might have swapped the gifts? The candle is significantly more expensive than the chocs.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 30/10/2018 14:03

hmmm a mystery, have you looked everywhere o see if the candle is still in the house?

TheDayMyButtWentPsycho · 30/10/2018 14:03

Following.
Because this is weird!

Furiosa · 30/10/2018 14:03

You have a dressing room! Shock

The candle must be in another wing of the house Grin

FauxFox · 30/10/2018 14:06

Do you have any kids or has there been any under 10s in the house? They might decide to reappropriate pretty packaging for lovely chocs instead of a 'boring' candle?

Namechangeforthiscancershit · 30/10/2018 14:06

Neom candles are pretty much my favourite thing ever! Not helpful I know...

thereallochnessmonster · 30/10/2018 14:08

Ask everyone who was in your house over the weekend!!

How weird.

Urbanbeetler · 30/10/2018 14:11

Does your friend normally wrap things nicely? Because if you commented on the bad wrapping technique, then it’s likely someone has unwrapped and replaced original gift.

RhiWrites · 30/10/2018 14:11

Your DH was desperate for a present to take to Sue’s leaving do and nicked the candle. He bought the chocolates on the way home to replace them. The “bad wrapping” comment is to throw you off the scent.

Expatworkingmum · 30/10/2018 14:11

I’m so excited to find out what happened here....

hellojim · 30/10/2018 14:14

I agree the bad wrapping could be a clue. Have you mentioned this to your friend?
My only other thought is that she paid for a candle but the shop assistant put the wrong thing in her bag. Sometimes the pay desk in shops is a bit messy.

mcmooberry · 30/10/2018 14:15

I think it - somehow - must have been your friend who wrapped up the chocs her end. Was it JL she bought the candle in (I have RTFT!) as maybe - somehow - the cashier put the chocs in her bag instead of the candle. Doesn't explain her sniffing it before wrapping it up but if it's definitely not in your house, it's the only thing I can think of!

Oblomov18 · 30/10/2018 14:16


This is quite funny OP 😁

PabloTescobar · 30/10/2018 14:16

Your candle was stolen and replaced by interdimensional time travellers to avoid a house fire caused by said candle and a carelessly discarded sock which sets in motion a chain of events leading to a dystopian future where malevolent forces have produced a clone army of Boris Johnsons, overwhelming the world with unprecedented levels of buffoonery and meaning that the vast majority of the human race dies out in an unlikely series of Darwin Awards type scenarios involving zipwires and rugby games (amongst others).

It's obvious!

Tinty · 30/10/2018 14:18

OP Do you work for the candle company? Is this just a badly disguised advert? Grin

I think the chocolates must have been swapped by someone, who opened the candle and reused the paper to wrap the chocolates. Who has been in your house recently? Did the gift bag have your name on?

mindutopia · 30/10/2018 14:23

Who else was there at your birthday or in the days leading up to it? Could someone have been intending on gifting you the chocolates, stumbled upon the gift wrapped bag, had a look, decided to do a swap?

florriepeck · 30/10/2018 14:25

No RTFT, but sometimes chocolates are added to gifts, eg with flowers.

florriepeck · 30/10/2018 14:25

Not

bumblenbean · 30/10/2018 14:32

Sorry OP but this thread is brilliant - I nominate for Classics!

I don’t suppose there’s anyway your DH has decided to make you think you’re going mad, maybe as a (very unfunny!) joke?!

Aridane · 30/10/2018 14:35

Blatantly placemarking