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to think this is so strange - present gone missing!

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 10:54

Have name changed but frequent poster.

It was my birthday on Sunday & last week (Tuesday) I saw my best friend very briefly and she gave me my present to open on the day. I opened it on Sunday and she had bought me a nice box of chocolates – lovely, I like chocolates. Anyway I text her to say a generic thank you she text back have a lovely day – all’s well and I good. But I’ve just spoken to her and she didn’t get me chocolates. She bought me a very ‘naice’ candle.

How weird is that. She has absolute no reason to lie – we’ve know each other forever and don’t have ‘expectations’ in the sense that sometimes we spend a lot, sometimes we don’t. I asked if it could have got mixed up with someone else’s present and no, she had no other birthdays going on. The strangest part is the gift bag and wrapping paper were exactly what she had wrapped the candle in – but it was chocolates.

What the hell has happened to the candle? We had a laugh about it but honestly, it’s so weird!!

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MarmiteTermite · 30/10/2018 13:02

Yes please post pic of chocolates!
Not placematking at all.

checkingforballoons · 30/10/2018 13:03

I’m far too invested in this thread.

hello1233 · 30/10/2018 13:09

Need to know

QuimReaper · 30/10/2018 13:11

OP you need to post a link to the chocolates!

Santaclarita · 30/10/2018 13:16

I'm not seeing the issue with what I said to be honest. Many women go through early menopause symptoms, it can last at least a decade. My mums been suffering for over a decade now with menopause symptoms, and they did start off with forgetting things or getting mixed up. Never said that all women get it. It's a fact of life. Hmm Concerning that women don't realise that.

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:18

I honestly don’t think she wrapped chocolates thinking it was a candle. The candle was fairly unusual and bought especially to match my newly decorated living room. BF even said she chose the wrapping paper because it was the same colours. The chocolates were plain black and white. Links below for each so you can see how different they are;

Not the exact colour (onces I got were the plain black and white packaging) but this shape;
www.hotelchocolat.com/uk/halloween-chocolate-cocktails.html#start=49

whereas the candle looked like this?
www.neomorganics.com/precious-moments-scented-candle-3-wick.html

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Eminybob · 30/10/2018 13:22

Yeah there’s no getting those mixed up.
Back to the drawing board then.

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:23

It's really strange isn't it. We can't figure it out at all - my best friend has rang 3 times with a solution but each time we work out if can't be that because of such and such.

What if i never find out?!?!?!

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SirVixofVixHall · 30/10/2018 13:24

Ah when you said a square box op I imagined a cube, so something like the linked box I posted, but with flat sides rather than curves. The two things you’ve now posted are nothing like each other. So could someone at either end have swapped them over ?
Or do you have A GHOST ?

Nameynamechangeforthis · 30/10/2018 13:30

You need to ask your DP seeing as he's the most likely suspect

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:31

nameynamechengedforthis

DP said he didn't know i even had the present until i went upstairs to get it on my birthday.

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GiveMeAllTheGin8 · 30/10/2018 13:32

Place marking for outcome Blush

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:33

Ok so he's also just said that when i opened it, I said 'lovely paper, terrible wrapping' and laughed.

I don't remember that. now i'm thinking it could have been re-wrapped?

......have i gone nuts????

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brownjumper · 30/10/2018 13:33

he must be lying!

Eminybob · 30/10/2018 13:35

Who else has been in your house?

RangeRider · 30/10/2018 13:38

Have a look in your loft - you may have an unexpected visitor living up there by candlelight (who doesn't like chocolates) Grin

HumpHumpWhale · 30/10/2018 13:39

Has anyone else been in your house? Cleaner? Builders? Gremlins?

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:42

No-one who i remotely think would do this! And why would someone swap them when it would be bound to be found out. They would just steal it surely - but it was wrapped so they wouldn't even know what they were stealing. They would also have had to be in my house ready armed with luxury chocolates in order to make the swap. It's baffling!

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ShoppingOnesSelfFit · 30/10/2018 13:42

Neom and hotel chocolat are very close to each other in my local JL - have I missed where she bought them from?

Neom is only stocked in a few places - 1 being JL.

I think she's picked up the box of choc by mistake (left randomly on the candle shelf) and not noticed the price and paid for and brought home the chocolates - and not given them a second glance, even when wrapping?

Mystery solved.

If that's been suggested and refuted upthread, apologies and the only possible solution is that your wardrobe, is indeed a portal to - world of alternative items.

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:43

Rangerider that made me laugh!!!!!

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princesstiasmum · 30/10/2018 13:43

Surely she has a receipt to show what was bought, and the prices are so far apart, if she bought it with a card,she could check on her bank statement how much she spent

TooExtraImmatureCheddar · 30/10/2018 13:46

Were the chocolates the same price as the candle? That candle in the link is £45 and the chocolates were £10 - I know those aren't the same as the ones you got, though. I think it would be harder to not notice a substitution at the till if the price was totally different. Particularly as you could use contactless payment for one and would have to put your pin number in for the other (depends on whether you were buying other items).

ShoppingOnesSelfFit · 30/10/2018 13:48

Now I want some chocolate

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 13:50

She definitely bought the candle, she has the receipt.
It was definitely a candle she wrapped because she remembers smelling it again.
It couldn't have been swapped her end because she said she wrapped it literally 5 mins before leaving. (she lives alone)
She is 100% certain she has never bought nor had Hotel Chocolat chocolates in her house.
It was definitely the same wrapping paper on the chocolates as she had used on the candle.

I'm out of ideas now, we can't figure it out at all.

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KurriKurri · 30/10/2018 13:51

Oh they are nothing a like in shape - i don;t think she has made a mistake, plus she would have realised when she was paying she'd got the wrong thing as the prices are vastly difference (lovely generous friend by the way)
Have you matched up all presents you received with their givers?
Did anyone give you chocs?

I don't know how your day went, but if you had people over and they all bought a gift, you should be one gift short if someone has half inched it. Maybe someone came with chocs, didn;t wrap them, thought they'd swipe the candle and replace with the chocs they'd bought, using the used wrapping paper (Keeping expensive candle for themselves, smuggled out tucked in their knickers)

Of course you'd have to have quite odd (and light fingered) family and friends for that scenario to play out.