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to think this is so strange - present gone missing!

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whereismycandle · 30/10/2018 10:54

Have name changed but frequent poster.

It was my birthday on Sunday & last week (Tuesday) I saw my best friend very briefly and she gave me my present to open on the day. I opened it on Sunday and she had bought me a nice box of chocolates – lovely, I like chocolates. Anyway I text her to say a generic thank you she text back have a lovely day – all’s well and I good. But I’ve just spoken to her and she didn’t get me chocolates. She bought me a very ‘naice’ candle.

How weird is that. She has absolute no reason to lie – we’ve know each other forever and don’t have ‘expectations’ in the sense that sometimes we spend a lot, sometimes we don’t. I asked if it could have got mixed up with someone else’s present and no, she had no other birthdays going on. The strangest part is the gift bag and wrapping paper were exactly what she had wrapped the candle in – but it was chocolates.

What the hell has happened to the candle? We had a laugh about it but honestly, it’s so weird!!

OP posts:
IslaMann · 30/10/2018 23:29

I want a friend who would buy me a £45 candle.

Actually I want a friend who would buy me a £10 box of chocs Grin

SirVixofVixHall · 30/10/2018 23:33

He also says that one of the friends staying probably has some ( in in his words) “weird kleptomaniac thing going on “

Aus84 · 30/10/2018 23:36

You and the friends you had over on your birthday smoked something and ate the candle thinking it was a box of chocolates. Don't worry, it happens to the best of us.

hiddeneverything · 30/10/2018 23:42

Sorry, OP, it's the dog walker. Anything else missing?

Seaweed42 · 30/10/2018 23:46

You'll both have to go on an investigative mission to the shop she bought the candle in. Either way, you know what she'll be getting from you this Christmas Grin

Drogosnextwife · 30/10/2018 23:47

Did you and bf go anywhere that day with the present? Leave the bag unattended anywhere?

Threeminis · 30/10/2018 23:50

Ghost. It is almost Halloween.. it's the only solution

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 30/10/2018 23:52

This thread has made my day!

I think it might be your DH breaking it and re-wrapping the crocs. Failing that then my second option would be the dog walker. Bizarre though!

ThrowThoseCurtainsWide · 30/10/2018 23:54

Oooh, maybe the dog had a mad moment in the house before / after a walk. Dog walker saw the broken candle, panicked & re-wrapped the Chocs thinking you were going to give the present to someone else and they would never notice. Were they actually your chocolates from the back of a cupboard?!

gottastopeatingchocolate · 30/10/2018 23:54

I just read 10 pages and there's still no solution to this mystery!!

And to the PP who asked where her glasses are - try the bin - I just accidentally threw mine out with the rubbish!!

NellieBee · 31/10/2018 00:00

I need an update. and proof of the receipt!

64ChewsBrains · 31/10/2018 00:02

We’re never going to know, are we? Haloween Sad

IABURQO · 31/10/2018 00:03

I've only got to page 6, reading on still. Urgent question: how did the candlechocs get to your house?

My working theory is that things can be best hidden in plain sight. Were you eating the chocolates by candlelight? Have you checked the dining table? My theory is that your DP used the candle to make the table look nice, then realised it was one of your gifts but had already lit it, so he quickly bunged his extra gift of chocs into thThings can be best hidden in plain sight. Were you eating the chocolates by candlelight? Have you checked the dining table? My theory is that your DP used the candle to make the table look nice, then realised it was one of your gifts but had already lit it, so he quickly bunged his extra gift of chocs into the wrapping paper.

Seriously though, £45 for a candle! I'd spend £5 on a nice candle easily, but I'm finding it hard to see £45 of value.

IABURQO · 31/10/2018 00:05

Sorry for the garbled middle paragraph, it should say:

My working theory is that things can be best hidden in plain sight. Were you eating the chocolates by candlelight? Have you checked the dining table? My theory is that your DP used the candle to make the table look nice, then realised it was one of your gifts but had already lit it, so he quickly bunged his extra gift of chocs into the wrapping paper.

Littlejayx · 31/10/2018 00:11

This is honestly stressing me out, please don’t go to work or leave the house until you know what happened.

Littlejayx · 31/10/2018 00:11

Are you sure your not eating a candle

Dancer12345 · 31/10/2018 00:21

This is really bugging me! OP, you need to quiz your DH more. Would he admit it if it was him?

Flashingbeacon · 31/10/2018 00:24

Right made it to page 10 before it was solved.
Obviously you have to give the dog, dog walker, couple friends and DH a good hard sniff ASAP as it looks the kind of candle that’ll leave a fragrance.
Also bf said she smelled the candle as she wrapped it so smell the wrapping paper, the bag and the card, no smell the candle was never there.
If there is a smell and your dog happens to be a bloodhound I think you can solve it. If not, google “bloodhounds for rent near me” and get back to us.

IABURQO · 31/10/2018 00:31

@QuimReaper - this is a square(ish) short(ish) candle: www.paviliongift.com/Comfort-Candles-Love-Always-3-x-6-x-3-Candle/626929085340.

NEW THEORY: BF actually just bought you some tealights. She's jazzing up to a superior candle because they're lost. The dogwalker had to use them to find poo outside due to darker evenings; DP laid down newspaper to help him not leave tracks in the house (covering for him so you won't be told DP has every Friday off work to just hang out in the house). DP then had a crisis of conscience, he didn't want you to feel sad about no gift from BF, so he stole the dog's gift to you of chocolates and substituted. The friends were sworn to secrecy and smuggled the dog's discarded wrapping paper out of the house. Poor dog can't understand why he hasn't been thanked for his thoughtful gift. Does DDog look ever so slightly sad right now? That's the key to this whole thing.

nocoolnamesleft · 31/10/2018 00:48

I just have to point out that a regift error is unlikely, as those are this year's HC Halloween chocs, so limited period of availability.

safariboot · 31/10/2018 00:50

DP gaslighting you has to be considered.

HannahnotAgnes · 31/10/2018 01:03

How bizarre - I vote re-gifting mix up also.

kateandme · 31/10/2018 01:39

someone in your house has taken it and used it or had it for themselves and then bought choc instead?

kateandme · 31/10/2018 01:46

I need to no the answer to this! if its not solved by dawn call 101 this is a police issue to be solved.or mnetter join together for a private detective!

Sardinesandparsnips · 31/10/2018 01:49

A £45 candle sounds heavy to me, although Im not sure size matters re candle prices?

did she hand it over and you notice the weight? Perhaps her partner wrapped it and wrapped chocolates instead.

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