SIBU - telling a mother how to feed her baby

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Lots of weaning guides recommend things like avocado, cucumber batons, and rice cakes so if she has a food ideas sheet from the HV it's highly likely they'll feature on there.

@theworldistoosmall - she doesn't add any butter at all. Adding unsalted butter to an avocado sandwich to increase the fat content was one of my suggestions in the OP that seemed to be very contentious.

Half an avocado has around 15-16g of fat. Half a teaspoon of butter has around 1-2g of fat. I don't think adding the butter is going to make a significant enough difference to the fat content to make it worth quibbling about.

I don't always add butter to bread. One of my dc's would scream the place down if anything was on the bread. Maybe this child is the same,

FWIW, I think you're heart is in the right place but it's really nothing to do with you. I've had a child who started off on the 75th centile and by a year old was on the 2nd centile, nothing at all wrong with her or with what I was feeding her, that was just her "natural" place on the charts and she's still in the bottom 2% size-wise at 6yo. Obviously it was monitored by the HV at the time but I'd have been majorly pissed off if one of the mums from baby group or NCT or Jo Jingles had taken it upon herself to shoehorn recipes and feeding tips into every single conversation.

Yuck, who puts butter on sandwiches? I’ve never eaten a buttery sandwich in my life so certainly don’t give it to DS. I don’t bake pastries either. Or put pepper and lemon on my avocado. Maybe her tastes aren’t the same as yours?

I don’t know why you are getting a hard time OP, a one year old who is dropping centiles, losing weight and whose mother doesn’t seem to feed appropriately is a huge concern. I would contact the HV to express your concerns. Are you sure the mother has seen an HV?

@FortniteIsTheNewCrack

You won’t succeed where the health visitor hasn’t.

Under a year you don't give babies pastries, certainly not black pepper either! Vegetables, fruits and finely chopped meat is the mainstay with potatoes or rice (we were told to limit gluten under a year though advice seems to change with the wind!) I demand fed until 18 months though. One of my DD's barely ate solids at a year, the other was more keen. Let the HV deal with it and be careful that you aren't feeding inappropriate foods, I certainly wouldn't add things to avocado under a year.

You sound absolutely horrible, stay well out or risk really upsetting the mother. Those goods are absolutely fine, you have no right to accuse her of starving her baby when avocado and bread is perfect weaning food.

So glad you aren't my MIL!

Omg you are her friend! I assumed MIL! Some friend!

This obsession with somebody else's child's food is even weirder than the obsession with various forms of avocado.

Mind yer own business OP.

Shit, i give my baby avocado on bread and sometimes... cucumbers . Seriously nothing irritates me more than people judging and commenting on how your parenting your own baby. Keep your thoughts and comments to your self.

I bet you are bloody Annabel Karmel!

Whilst you're here, I still have nightmares about 18 years later about your bloody "jelly in oranges" boats, I attempted to serve at my DC's birthday party once. Luckily before the days of social media or they would be on some "Nailed It"'website somewhere.

I wish I got avocado on ciabatta for my dinner! Seriously though, do you have issues with the cost of bread? You've mentioned it twice.

I also don't put lemon or pepper on my avocado and I wouldn't for a baby either.

Who puts butter with avocado on bread? Avocado has enough fat, you don't need to put any extra. What an odd combination. Also, not very common to put lemon for a weaning baby, he most likely prefer the more "bland" version.
I also think that you could be the paternal GM...

@piscis in fairness there is nothing wrong with butter and avocado on toast for a baby as they do need extra fat, especially a skinny one. Lemon and pepper is weird though.

Seasoning a baby's food with lemon and pepper? Are you for real?
If you have genuine concerns about this child's welfare then call social services, but if HVs are involved I'd suggest that really isn't necessary. Unless you are a trained nutritionist, which your other ill advised comments like ''baby shouting for fatty carbs') strongly suggest you are not, back the fuck off. The only advice I'd suggest if I were you is upping the milk intake maybe. Lay off with the odd food suggestions.

You're the MIL, arent you, OP?

I do not understand why so many people think babies need bland food. There is nothing wrong with putting seasoning, ie, herbs and spices in food as long as you are careful with sodium content, from 6 months!! The op is clearly aware of heathy options for weaning babies.
The problem here is that her friend doesn't seem to be following advice and is pushing baby to eat very low fat, not very nutritional foods and drop milk feeds when the baby is losing weight. I don't think there is anything wrong with giving a friend some carefully thought out advice when it comes to weaning, we're all learning! My LO literally ate everything we did from about week two of weaning, common sense means recipes were adapted, he was watched carefully and never once choked or had any kind of reactions!

Of course there’s nothing wrong with adding flavour to children’s food. I always have done, they love pepper and chilli etc. However the OP seems to be suggesting her friend is negligent for not doing so, and that avocado on bread is somehow insufficient for a child unless it has lemon and pepper added.

Avocado is not a very low fat food.

An avocado has approx 14g of fat per 100g. Perfect for a weaning, crawling baby.