To ask about the weird things you only learned from MN?

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It seems like in MN world there are all kinds of rules that I swear I’ve never seen expressed or followed in real life. What have you been most surprised by? I’ll start:

1. Adults don’t celebrate birthdays, and if you expect any recognition of yours, you’re being childish.

1. Halloween is exclusively an American import with no history in this country, and celebrating it is therefore tacky and meaningless.

1. Trick or treating is glorified begging.

1. Absolutely nobody other than you or your DP is remotely interested in your pregnancy, and even telling another person that you’re pregnant is akin to riding a donkey down the high street while calling for palm fronds to be laid at your feet in recognition of the impending miracle of your unborn child.

Ah, so an MN invention if I'm getting that right? Long
You already aware of it as an Archers listener and thread follower.

That chippy fish and chips is “actually quite healthy”

It isn't!!? Shook!

I've just learnt that sharing food is weird.

I can't think of adults doing hobbies without thinking of medieval role play

That the whole world is apparently anti feminist and if you don't get your knickers in a twist about all these minute anti feminist things then you yourself are indeed, anti feminist!

Poo trolls, wee trolls, knicker trolls, that whole crowd. I'd literally never heard of any of that stuff before I joined MN.

I'd forgotten about the cleaning of loo brushes and dog poo covered wellies in the DW.

Wha-a-at?!?! That's it, I'm never eating at the house of anyone who has a dishwasher again. Especially not if they have a dog as well.

people clean loo brushes and wellies in the dishwasher???? Are you for real??? what thread is that on??? yuck!

My plan for the weekend include putting the oven door, kitchen bins and cat litter trays in mine. I will then run a cleaning cycle.

@BarbaraofSeville, hang on. Oven door? This is a revelation. Does it take all those wee burnt on black marks off?

An evening wedding reception has always been standard in Scotland as far as I can remember back to the 60s. It's a celebration of the marriage for the wider family and friendship circles. I remember being horrified in the 70s when I first went to an English wedding and not only did the bride and groom bugger off about 4pm but that was it all over. My ex-boyfriend was equally gobsmacked by the same in the early 80s when waving a sword around at a fellow RAF officer's wedding and being all dressed up and nowhere to go in the middle of London at 4pm. I thought it was a good thing when evening receptions spread south but according to MN everyone is insulted by them. 🤔😲🤣

I thought it was a good thing when evening receptions spread south but according to MN everyone is insulted by them.

Depends on who you send an evening invite to I guess. I would be a bit miffed I was expected spend most of my weekend travelling across the uK and fork out on hotels just for an evening only invite!

treacle Yes it does

To be fair you need the right dishwasher - mine, which is a cheapy Bosch, you can remove the top basket and clip in a second spray head at the back, then you can put all manner of big things in there.

Also the right oven - pyrolytic self cleaning, worth every penny. I'm actually sat on my arse 'cleaning' the oven right now. Also removeable door glass. It's supposed to be so you can scrub it in the sink, but fuck that, it's going in the dishwasher.

Evening invites have always been standard where I’m from. However they were just for aquaintences/work colleagues.
I’ve often gone with a crowd from work to them, it’s just another night out really and you might chip in for a joint present like for any colleague.

However I’ve noticed the shift to friends only inviting you to evenings and even ones where travel/hotels would be needed. That can piss right off to be honest.

Evening receptions have always been a thing in England as well (and I am old enough in being justified to say “always”). However, that is on the basis that a wedding was generally held in the same area where you and your family/friends lived. Given that weddings can now be held hundreds of miles away and sometimes in the back of beyond, I might think twice about making expensive complicated travel arrangements just to attend an evening do - if I loved the happy couple enough to do all that I would probably have been invited to the whole thing!

And which poster said it was weird for couples of the same age as the bride and groom to give them money as a present? That is something else which has “always” been ok - just saves the bother of having to think of a present, have never seen it as a deadly insult.

It was me who said I was surprised by that - not that it was ‘weird’ as such, and certainly not an insult. I was just genuinely a bit confused as to why you would do it. Giving a young bride and groom money when you’re older and better off? Makes sense. Giving money to people in the same age group, and potentially income bracket, as you (especially if they’ve lived together for years and are paying for their own wedding) just seems pointless.

If you host a celebration or a wedding, it's your obligation to provide the guests with an unlimited supply of free drink of their chosing from the bar. Anything less is low class, and you obviously can't afford it; so you should scale back the party. So instead of having 80 people celebrating your wedding with you (who'd probably all be happy to pay for their own drinks, I've been to at least a dozen weddings and never once has it been a free open bar, and it's never bothered me) you can only afford drinks for 6 people (fine if you only want 6 people at your wedding, plenty of people do).

I've learned from MN that there is a large number of people who can't do the simplest task without consulting thousands of strangers, how they manage to put their pants on in the morning is a real mystery!

Ha-ha! Tilly
Wauden are you practising with the emoji's, you just posted the same on my thread?

Evening invites have always been standard where I’m from. However they were just for aquaintences/work colleagues.

That's how I remember it when I lived in Ireland and the UK in the 80s. It was mainly your work friends and their plus ones. Casual and fun.

We used to call it the "afters" of a wedding in Dublin rather than the Evening Reception.

That a lot of people, use the giving of a wedding gift, to make some pathetic passive aggressive point...instead of offering good wishes to the bride and groom....and they really do not realise how obvious it is to everyone including the B&G

As in, I will spend my afternoon shopping, to purchase a toaster I know you will not want, so i can give it to you as a wedding 'gift'....so you can bin it / charity shop it....instead of giving you a tenner in cash towards your honeymoon / house deposit...because it just does not quite sit right with my principles....

Using someones special day as a way of having a passive aggressive dig

BARF central....

Nah the worst wedding invites are the polo ones - come to the ceremony and evening, entertain yourself in the middle of nowhere during the big hole in the middle (DH went to one where he had to entertain himself for five hours in a country house hotel. Only they had to leave the premises while the main reception was going on. Nearest built up area was a taxi ride away. Then expected to come back at 8pm for the evening do. I refused to go to that one).