AIBU?
To get obsessed so easily?
Ansumpasty · 28/10/2018 16:31
This is more of an ‘am I being abnormal’ rather than unreasonable. Just seeing if anyone can relate!
All my life I’ve felt things very strongly and get easily obsessed with things. If I liked a boy in school, he’d be all I thought about, etc. I loved the circus as a child and would go all the time and sob when it left and dream of running away and joining them, etc.
As an adult, I find myself getting obsessed with things/people/places more than others do. I will watch a series on Netflix and become obsessed with it, often watching everything my favourite character is in, researching things about it and feeling really upset when it’s finished or a character dies. I’ve had the death of a character upset me so much that it’s literally ruined my evening and been on my mind for days.
I’ve read books set in specific places/countries and then have to read others set in the same place, research the country and plan on visiting, etc.
There’s a place I go on holiday to quite regularly that I feel this strongly about. I feel upset to the point of tears when we have to leave, bring silly things like rocks I find there home and watch any programme etc about it.
I’m ‘normal’ in every other way, with a happy marriage and children and nice friends. Just wondering if anyone else feels this strongly about silly things and has these adult obsessions?
What do you get attached to?
Haahhpy · 28/10/2018 17:33
I'm similar and I know others who are like it too. I'll get really into a certain topic or activity and it'll be all I want to do / read about etc until I eventually get bored and move onto something else. I think it's a good thing as there are now quite a few random subjects that I'm basically have mastermind level knowledge of 😂
Persiangirl · 28/10/2018 17:34
I am obsessed with my 2 precious dogs to the point i can look at them and cry knowing one day they will die. They bring so much joy to my life whereas my kids, husband, job and friends all irritate me.
I have special songs I sing to them and mantras I say. My family say I’m eccentric, I would agree.
Other obsessions include feeding a stray cat now!
So you aren’t out of the ordinary and at least you are honest and aware of your fixation with your various obsessions.
Peraltiago · 28/10/2018 17:38
I get very obsessed with tv programmes, films, musicians etc, to the extent that yes, when in the grip it can be all I think about, and I can waste hours going into internet wormholes about the interest du jour. I have also recently been diagnosed with ASD, which I think explains a lot! But I think it’s perfectly possible to have obsessions without this.
wooster16 · 28/10/2018 17:41
I have this, especially with the place thing. I always thought it was because I was a bookworm as a child and ‘travelled’ the world through literature. There is one particular place that feels like ‘home’ to me too, when I think of it I get this strange melancholy sensation. So no, you’re not alone OP. 
Underpressureidiot · 28/10/2018 17:48
I’m exactly the same. I have dyspraxia though and have heard it’s one of the traits of it.
Spankyoumuchly · 28/10/2018 17:59
Autism?
My autism forced me to buy an ugly pumpkin at the pumpkin farm yesterday. I just felt so sorry for it. Poor ugly pumpkin that wouldn't get to fulfill its destiny because it was too ugly for anyone to buy. I get obsessed with things too.
Elllicam · 28/10/2018 18:00
I’m like this too, I cycle through interests/goals and when I’m on them I’m very keen/productive. It’s then hard to keep up the momentum when I go on to something else.
chicken2015 · 28/10/2018 18:05
I just wanted to add ur not alone, i do this and dont like it about myself, i feel like i have to obsess over something! At moment it is going sugar free which i will be on nov 1st
totallywired · 28/10/2018 18:06
I am like this too, I become obsessed with hobbies or areas of interest and while I'm in the throws of the obsession I get real tunnel vision. A bit of a nightmare in some ways. Luckily my husband finds it amusing.
MaryPoppinsUmberellaHandle · 28/10/2018 18:09
I'm just the same. I'm diagnosed Autistic.
HouseOnTheLake · 28/10/2018 18:20
I'm exactly the same OP! I moved to the country I become obsessed with when I was young and still live here 15 years later. I'm still obsessed with the singer I loved as a teen, although there have been mini-obsessions with other people since then 
I did a degree as a mature student in a subject that was related to another singer I fell in love with. It's always because they are talented though, not just about looks.
Before I was married, I used to get very obsessed with guys I worked with, couldn't think about anything else, and I would pursue them mercilessly. Without trying to blow my own trumpet, I'm not unattractive so I never came across as the "stalker" that I was, thank goodness, and they were happy to indulge!
I'm also the same as you with TV series. Sometimes I find an actor who is interesting and read everything there is about him, his wife, his past work, etc.
Like a PP said, I actually consider it a positive thing when it comes to learning all there is to know about a particular subject or throwing myself into a hobby because it's something I'm obsessed with. I don't know if you can relate, but recently I've noticed that I get more obsessed with guys (singers, actors, etc) when I'm going through a bad time emotionally. It seems to be a coping mechanism my mind uses to not focus so much on the feelings of depression or anxiety.
HouseOnTheLake · 28/10/2018 18:22
And as totallywired says, my DH finds it amusing He'll look at my laptop and say "you're not still watching videos of him, are you?!"
HouseOnTheLake · 28/10/2018 18:26
I'm so happy to have found my people, I can't stop posting! 
Anyone would say I'm obsessed...
I've just remembered that the other month I became obsessed with British territory abroad and read and watched all there was to know about islands like St Helena and the Falklands. It's all so fascinating. I had to know what accent they had, what telly they watched, what the weather was like... 
OhFlipMama · 28/10/2018 18:29
Oh my word this is just like me! Interested to read the replies.
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