AIBU?
to ignore probable accidental video message?
CanOpenWormsEverywhere · 28/10/2018 09:03
Background: Male best friend, known each other since age 10. friends with benefits on and off through teens until I met my now DH (aged 22). DH knows all about him. Friend now lives overseas so we call to chat every so often and FB message. we catch up when he visits, with DH as well. He and DH get on well. Friend now has a fiancee. Met her and she's lovely. I am 100% he has no feelings for me beyond brother/sisterly now, it's been 13 years since we were 'together'.
friend has just sent me a video on FB, a bit random as he is swimming with bats in the trees. He sounds a bit drunk but the video was posted early morning his time so he shouldn't be. its a 13 second vid where her says 'hey, i'm taking an early morning swim with bats....aw....i love you'.
The way he says i love you makes it clear he meant this video for his fiancee. so do i ignore it? jokingly say 'er...think you meant this for fiancee?!' ignore the i love you bit and say something like 'cool bats'? or take it like he meant it as a friend even though the look in his eyes and the tone is wrong and reply 'cool bats, love you too buddy!'
don't want to make a big deal out of nothing, we have on occassion said 'i love you' when he's about to leave to go back to his resident country but something in the tone of the video is wrong for it to be how he talks to me.
mountain:molehill i expect...
CanOpenWormsEverywhere · 28/10/2018 09:05
not at all. i'm very happily married. anything between us vanished very quickly when i met DH. never thought of him that way since DH and i got serious.
RedHelenB · 28/10/2018 09:06
If he's drunk I wouldn't read anything into it at all. Sorry if it's not what you want to hear but drunk people tell strangers they love them!
MrTrebus · 28/10/2018 09:07
Just ignore it completely leave it a couple of days then text him something random like it never happened. I would tell my friends I love them so maybe you're making a big deal, maybe he sent it to the wrong person or maybe he was drunk. Who cares just ignore it's 13 seconds.
ItsAHardKn0ckLife1 · 28/10/2018 09:09
I am also intrigued as to the swimming with bats thing?
If it was clearly meant for his OH just reply saying something like “wrong person but cool vid!”
CanOpenWormsEverywhere · 28/10/2018 09:09
haha, the bats were in the trees above him! swimming in a natural pond.
he sounds drunk but its first thing in the morning for him so he shouldnt be!!
the message is on a FB message which is how we chat most often so at some point i will have to 'reply' something on there, so even if ignore it and just message something else it will be right above my message IYSWIM?
CanOpenWormsEverywhere · 28/10/2018 09:11
maybe just 'cool bats! Hope they didn't drop one on you!' or something similarly 'normal' and just ignore the 'i love you' bit.
MarthasGinYard · 28/10/2018 09:12
Personally I wouldn't even pander around replying or giving it any thought.
DishranawaywiththeSpoon · 28/10/2018 09:12
I tell my friends I love them all the time when I'm drunk, I think your reading way too much into it.
Id leave it a day or so and just make some joke about him being drunk. Assume It was just a drunk friendship 'I love you" but don't say I love you back. It might have been meant for fiance it might just be drunk shite but I wouldn't make it into a thing.
KatsutheClockworkOctopus · 28/10/2018 09:13
Just say - oops think this was meant for fiancee and move on.
It's obviously a mistake - surely if he decided to declare his love for you it would not be through a bat filled drunken fb message. There's no need to angst over it.
Thesmallthings · 28/10/2018 09:14
It seems an innocent clip I'd just text back wrong person? What are doing swimming with bats at that time lol.
NameChanger365 · 28/10/2018 09:15
i’d reply commenting on the drunkenness in some way: “are you drunk?” / “it’s a bit early to be drinking isn’t it?” Or similar
Doje · 28/10/2018 09:15
Jokily reply, "Piss head! What were you doing drunk so early in the morning?!"
FilledSoda · 28/10/2018 09:17
Don't give it another thought, it was sent by mistake.
I don't know why you're even asking tbh, do you want to make something of it ?
Winkybum · 28/10/2018 09:17
I tell my friends I love them when I'm sober! Maybe he's in the moment and is just thankful for your friendship?
whiskeysourpuss · 28/10/2018 09:19
FFS in the nicest possible way get a grip!
It's a daft video - he probably thought you'd find the swimming with bats thing funny.
I agree with the PP that you've still got some residual feelings for him to be stressing out so much about how to "play" this.
If it was any of my friends (male or female) I'd reply with "you're a twat - are you actually drunk at this time of the morning?" Fully expecting a reply later today along the lines of "oh god aye, thank fuck I sent that to you & not canopen as she'd read things into it" 
DanielRicciardosSmile · 28/10/2018 09:19
Maybe the "I love you" was addressed to the bats?
Cleanermaidcook · 28/10/2018 09:21
He's obviously just posted on the wrong conversation, I've done it.
Just reply haha wrong person but cool bats and think nothing more of it.
Clocktowerblues · 28/10/2018 09:21
Umm, you clearly have a thing for him.
If a male friend set that to me id be like "those bats are cool! Reckon you meant to send this to jen though x"
And would literally forget about it
Labradoodliedoodoo · 28/10/2018 09:22
He’s probably just counting his blessings. Friends are great
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