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To let me 4 year old trick or treat tonight?

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Pattinson3 · 27/10/2018 17:30

First time leading the trick or treating as a parent. Thought as a child we always went out the weekend before Halloween night as such as there was always Halloween parties etc taking place! Have started to wonder if doing it tonight is not acceptable? Don't want it to be a let down for my DD/annoy people.

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sirfredfredgeorge · 27/10/2018 22:35

I lived in the "south" in the 70's, went trick or treating, supposedly my ghost costume even caught on fire from the candle in a jam jar I was carrying one year (I don't remember, but no reason to doubt the stories)

It really was in lots and lots of places, and the only difference to now is now it's not just the ludicrously rich who have pumpkins rather than swedes.

Hadenoughofallthis · 27/10/2018 22:38

So you reckon that all the teens using Halloween as a reason to, say, snap the aerial off my elderly dad's car as "trick" are doing so in honour of their "cultural heritage," them, do you?
Forgive my won't you.

ShadyLady53 · 27/10/2018 22:43

@Hadenoughofallthis I’m 34, as a child in the UK I only ever went Trick or Treating once with one friend and not a single person opened their door. None of my friends ever went trick or treating either. I can’t recall anyone ever coming to our door in all those years.

Back then, no one expected sweets. You would say “Trick or Treat” and dependent on the response of the person who opened the door you would either do a party piece or something spooky/jokey. So the one year my friend and I went, our plan was to sing a song for Treat and take a toy skeleton out of our pockets and jangle it about whilst doing a scary sound effect for Trick (we were only 7!). If you did a good party piece you might get some spare change. My Scottish relatives used to go “guising” as children and taught us this was how things were done.

The first time I was ever given sweets at Halloween was in the early 90s when I happened to be in the US on the 31st October. In every shop I went in people were trying to give me sweets and I was politely refusing and explaining that I wasn’t allowed to accept sweets from strangers. One shopkeeper actually got tears in his eyes and said “Oh no sweetheart, this is HALLOWEEN and all the little children are supposed to wear costumes and we give them candy. It’s a great tradition. Mom? Dad? Please can the little girl have some candy?” People were actually openly criticising my parents because I wasn’t in a costume and acting as if it was abusive or something! The whole night I was being spoken about as the “sad little girl with no costume” and hearing people ask what was wrong with my parents. Total strangers were trying to shove Trick or Treat bags and sweets at me and my family and I couldn’t for the life of us understand what the heck was going on 😂.
To be completely honest, I felt really uncomfortable. I wasn’t used to being spoken to by strange adults and all the usual rules of not speaking to strangers and not accepting sweets or gifts seemed to go out of the window.

Halloween definitely became more of a thing as I became a teenager and the actual “Trick or Treat” part became just a saying and not an “Act” so to speak.

As children regularly started coming round Trick or Treating in the 00s, my older relatives still asked them to do their “Treat” and tried to give money. It was met with confused looks and “don’t you have any sweets?”.

Whilst it’s definitely an ancient tradition throughout the UK, it certainly has become more American in its delivery. I’ve spent much of my life on both sides of the Atlantic and Halloween here now is completely unrecognisable from my childhood in the UK and much more like what I saw in the US as a child.

Halloween seems bigger than ever this year too.

IKeepFlouncing · 27/10/2018 22:49

OP

I going to guess come 23:58hrs people will be still telling you it’s unacceptable to take your child out trick treating tonight 😂

Petitepamplemousse · 27/10/2018 22:50

Of course YABU to ho trick or treating on a day that’s not even Halloween Confused ridiculous idea...

Pattinson3 · 27/10/2018 22:55

Haha @IKeepFlouncing Yes..maybe they'll continue to warn me even in January! In case I decide to just choose whatever day I want..

January 20th for "Guising" sounds good

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IKeepFlouncing · 27/10/2018 22:56

Grin petite just taking a wild guess here but I reckon op child is in bed now given time Grin

Willow2017 · 27/10/2018 22:59

Nope i am saying that halliween isnt shit.

Its been around 100s of years.

I am not responsible for teen idiots you have in your neighbourhood.

Things change and evolve. Halloween was taken to usa and evolved into something different and now many parts of uk embrace that.

Its not wrong its just life.

But where i live guising is alive and well and we love it.

So stop blaming everyone else for what you have experienced or someone you dont even know has experienced. We will continue to enjoy our halloween traditions whether you like them or not.

Linnet · 28/10/2018 00:09

I live in Scotland and as children everyone went guising. You made your own costume and went guising round the neighbours and you performed a song or told a joke and in return you got sweets or fruit and sometimes money! We didn’t have pumpkins then so a turnip was carved instead 😁

Nowadays children come to our door and just say trick or treat and expect a sweet. We always ask them for a joke and usually they have something to say.

I love Halloween 🎃

Huntlybyelection · 28/10/2018 00:41

When I was 10 I went guising as Pavarotti. I wore my dads suit and shirt and made a bow tie and had a beard drawn onto me. I carried round an old Tape recorder, miles along to Nessun Dorma and waved a hanky around. I was glorious.

All done with my turnip lantern too.

And always, always, done on your actual Halloween. Didn't matter if it wasn't convenient for parents back in the 80s and 90s, we went out in groups if children. On our own. No.parental supervision.

Fluffyears · 28/10/2018 20:28

@Hadenoughofallthis i’m Scottish and went out every year as a child and then as an adult tonthe pub dressed up. I actually find it weird to find people who didn’t as everyone in Scotland pretty much seems to have gone out guising. So it’s a pretty big % of people in this little country at the top of England. I’d estimate 95% plus would be the Scottish figure. It was never called ‘trick or treat’ we never ever said ‘trick or treat’, the standard phrase was ‘ye goat anyhin fur Halloween?’ You did have to tell a joke first.

FuzzyCustard · 30/10/2018 19:35

I grew up in the East Midlands in the 60s and Hallowe'en and Trick or Treating was definitely NOT a thing. It was unheard of. Bonfire Night was definitely bigger.

My own children (Yorkshire and West Mids) didn't go T or Ting either, although one or two other children did. It wasn't a massive event at all.

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