Ds ruining the wedding!!

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I'm here for stories of how other people's children have ruined a wedding or tried to! I have Ds (7 tomorrow) endlessly sulking, laying over the floor, being defiant and generally a nuisance, It's my best friends wedding and I haven't been able to support or enjoy as Ds has been awful. Please placate me with your tales

Andro.

Get off MN and entertain your child.

Crikey! I worry about the parenting to be honest. It should be possible to take children that aren't babies to a wedding without any issues surely?

What on earth did the parents of "ribena child" say - or the dress-tearing one for that matter? My mind boggles at how anyone could even begin to apologise for that - and on her way up the aisle too!!

My Sil would have felt better if any attempt at an apology had been made, but there were no such attempts. Their precious ikkle sweeties were just being cute and adorable...

More than 10 years down the line, these little cherubs are in their teens and have a similar level of respect/manners/discipline - I really DO blame the parents!

At my uncles wedding when I was about 3, I had been very unwell and as my mum went to help me out the car at the church I was violently sick all down her front

DH niece, my flower girl, then aged 5 scowled in every photo she was in. She was the same in her own twenty years later - she was pregnant by a total scumball.

My cousin on my Dad's side brought her uninvited six month old, who was no problem really, but pissed off two of my cousins on my mother's side who had abided by the rule of only groom's sibling's two children, who were attendants, were invited. My siblings had no children at that point. Horrible atmosphere for the whole day which I tried to ignore.

Sorry OP, I have no stories for you as I had a very strict childfree wedding for precisely the reasons/stories other PP have outlined!

DH was watching DD 9 months. Crawling around on the floor when she started gagging on something.
She then proceeded to puke up all over me so I took her to our hotel room (luckily we were staying where the wedding was) she then puked all over the bed and brought up a sequin...one of those bloody hearts that get scattered on the tables.

DH was shocked of course....as he thought she had eaten marzipan off the floor and didn't see the sequin!!!! Yes...he was letting a 9 month old eat other people's dropped cake off the bloody floor!!!

We were invited to a child-free wedding, so we left six month old EBF DS with my mum, and then I left after the ceremony.

I was not impressed to find 8 children present, some older, some younger than DS. None family members, just other friends’ children. Two stood on the pews and had a lightsaber fight while we were waiting for the bride to arrive. I have no idea whether DS was excluded (seems unlikely, b&g never met him) or whether the other friends were just CFs who ignored the “child-free” instructions. But it was pretty annoying that I was only able to stay for 30mins when everyone else with children just brought theirs and enjoyed the whole wedding.

When my parents were married my Dad's very much younger sister was I think supposed to be looking after the ring - think sulky near-teenager I think. I understand she made as much difficulty about it as she possibly could.
(mind you the other thing that spoilt their wedding was hardly anyone turning up, they'd not expected many but several friends who'd accepted didn't show, and his parents had failed to pass on invites to other members of his family!)

Ariadne let’s hope the marriage lasts because it doesn’t sound like that behaviour would see you welcome in church again!

A friend wanted a child free wedding but a mutual friend of ours essentially threw a strop about how unfair it was her 4 year old DS couldn’t come until the bride relented. He can be a bit boisterous and fussy (becomes mum pretty much gives him free reign) so the bride agreed on the condition that mutual friend took him out of the ceremony if he was acting up.

The DS sat and sang songs all through the ceremony, at one point shouting to sing his song over the wedding music!!

Myself and some other friends tried to discretely get the mum’s attention but she was having none of it. Eyes straight ahead, ignoring her son and the concerned stares around her.
The bride was livid, and funnily enough we are no longer in touch!

Her DS is in his early teens now and apparently desperate to be a famous actor, with mum trying to sign him up to agencies. One slight issue is that he is apparently a bit of a bully to the more talented kids in his drama class. Maybe mum’s influence again!!

Surely these stories, however entertaining, are precisely why people have child free weddings.

Yes, they’re entertaining but potentially ruining what are very meaningful moments for people so some spirited little darlings can have a lovely experience.

Bet the couple are regretting letting people bring their bratty kids! Don't you have any control?

Just as my dsis was ready to leave the house, she picked me up for a quick cuddle and I blew my nose on her veil. I was only 2, but she still laughs about it. A sort of hollow laugh, mind.

Reluctantly allowed SIL to bring her 2 yo DD as she ‘couldn’t be left with anyone’ although her older DC were staying with other family. Her kids are known to be complete brats and youngest was no exception and played up/screamed through the whole ceremony. It was a small room and the registrar had to shout over her. SIL had decided to sit in the middle of the room so couldn’t get out. My DD was also there...she was 16 weeks and slept the whole way through

DH’a nephew came up to the front of the church during the vows at our wedding, threw his toy cars around and generally made a lot of noise. At one point he ran down to the back of the church where my cousin (who’d only met him for the first time that morning) tried to distract him to keep him out of the way and when that failed caught the back of his jacket only to left holding it when Dnephew ran off. At the end of the wedding an older guest was heard to comment that his father should have kept him under control while looking pointedly at my cousin, his actual parents hadn’t even tried to intervene!

Mine was purely accidental - I was 7, at my uncle's wedding with parents, my dad was the best man. Unfortunately, just after the ceremony, dad bent down to me unexpectedly, and my fingernail caught him in the eye. He ended up in A&E for the rest of the day, missing the meal & speeches (luckily no lasting damage).

endlessly sulking, laying over the floor, being defiant and generally a nuisance

You should have removed him at the first inkling of bad behaviour. Why the hell did you stay?

I was changing a shitty nappy with my car on the front.
House full of women and some men who could have helped.
Nobody offered. I was upset at the lack of thought from friends and family, not the shitty nappy, little ds1 couldn't help it.

Unless there's sn no 7 year old should be behaving like that.
Have you tried a parenting course or referring him for assessment.

I went to a wedding where some parents put down a potty for their toddler next to our table at the reception, in the middle of dinner. I was stunned. Yes I appreciate that a toddler may need to go at short notice but we were not far from the doors which led to the toilets and I don't know anyone who wants to eat their dinner next to a peeing (or worse pooing) child.

When challenged by a relative and asked to pick it up they looked completely taken aback and said 'well what if she needs to go?'

Our own 1yo DS screamed his way through our wedding, so loud I couldn’t hear the registrar! MIL (who was supposed to be looking after him) sat there grinning away, and nobody else helped until BIL (who doesn’t really do kids) wound up taking him out the room. DS had been unwell but was on the mend so we were a bit surprised at the screaming, until we got to the reception and he launched himself at the food. Turned out MIL hadn’t fed him at all 🙄. She had also agreed to take him home when he got too tired since he was never able to just sleep in his pushchair. She ignored that and I finished up outside trying to rock him to sleep on my own, missing half my own bloody reception! The only one who care to help me then was DH, but DS got hysterical when he tried to take him so I got left to it 🙄

DS2 almost missed being pageboy at DB's wedding cos he refused to get dressed (lay down tantruming in our hotel room - he was 3). At the last minute DH bribed him with crisps and he did it happily. All the children at that wedding behaved beautifully.

We had a 2.5 year old and 6 months old as guests at our wedding. Would hardly have known they were there!