Is my cleaner taking the piss?

[hazykates]

So - I'm a maths teacher - my cleaner (a much needed luxury as I'm a messy bint) asked if I could tutor her little girl who's struggling at school. I'm mad busy with work and family life but I'm also pretty terrible at saying no and like our cleaner a lot (she's really good!!!) so I said yes! I wasn't expecting her to pay, if the tutoring went on for more than a few sessions I thought I might ask for reciprocal payment if the subject was raised (she could clean for the hour I tutor her child for example). As things have turned out she hasn't ever offered anything in reciprocation for the favour, she's consistently late for the lesson without apology, and was downright rude when I had to rearrange the other day as my little girl was ill and my husband away. I'm loathe to say I can't do it anymore as think she'd have the hump and it took me so long to find a cleaner that works for us - but I can't help but feel a bit pissed off about feeling like she's taking advantage! AIBU?!

That’s the thing.
You helped her out and instead of being grateful she thinks that you owe her this favour as you are in a better financial position
Don’t do things for free, people don’t appreciate it

You did really well. Poor wee girl. Her mother has really bitten off her nose to spite her face!

'Cant believe you was so rude. Minicleaner is going to think your a total bitch. Cant believe you wanted all that money. Who do you think you are'

Just wow - did she not listen to me - at all???

This puts me right off getting a cleaner! What did her text say????

My DDs maths tutor cost £30 per hour!

So yes, your cleaner is taking the piss.

I'm a bit scared now that's going to retaliate in some way. I totally got her character 100% wrong

Sorry, cross posted. Wouldn't reply and would change the locks. She's got serious issues!

'Cant believe you was so rude. Minicleaner is going to think your a total bitch. Cant believe you wanted all that money. Who do you think you are'

Gosh, she texted that? Word for word?

Does she have a website or social media?

I wouldn’t in all honesty do anything as she is unhinged and you will always be wrong in her eyes. But it always amazes me when people whose entire livelihood depends on getting and maintains contacts can be so awful wth people.

And I’d txt right back, “Can’t believe you were so rude and entitled as to think I’d tutor your daughter indefinitely for free when you can’t even be bothered to say thank you”.

And then block her.

I would absolutely get the locks changed.... and yes she was taking the PISS .. she was happily taking the lessons from you for Free.. and taking her wages whilst carrying a bitter grudge about your wealth .. not a nice person...

you did the right thing

Shecame - yes I coped and pasted (though swapped in minicleaner!!!)

You did well, she would rather give you abuse than think clearly - 1 hrs cleaning = 1 hrs tuition is a bargain!
I would not reply = block her number and move on OP. Even though the temptation is to reply.

Yep, could have predicted that text. Some people believe that anyone who earns more than they do is an undeserving, evil rich cunt who owes them something. Only the work and labour of the poor actually counts.

She probably thinks you are a posh overpaid piss-taker. You get threads on here from people like this quite often. Her poor daughter, growing up with that attitude as an example.

She's a cheeky bitch!

Simply text back "Mary how many houses do you clean for free? If I, or anyone else, asked you to provide your service for free you would, quite rightly, say no. I have given 6 FREE lessons and offered you a heavily reduced rate and you declined. You never ever say thank you and sit in my home texting while I provide my services for free. Your sense of entitlement and rudeness is staggering, though you are so entitled you won't even see it. We'll leave it there"

No she didn't listen. She's chosen her own certain of what happened and she'll stick to it to the end.
You are well rid imo.

op you're too nice

Wow, how rude and totally inappropriate.
Either ignore, delete and block. Or reply (which I would, to make her understand) “excuse me but you were rude, you were half an hour late to your job, which I have still paid you for. I gave your daughter 6 free lessons and you never said thank you. I understand it’s a lot of money to pay the going rate for a tutor, but why should I do it for free while you sit in my house doing nothing in return? You would be getting a bargain to clean extra time in return for more lessons but instead you chose to be rude to my face. Google tutor rates”

keep all her messages.. tell her to stop... and report her for harassment if she continues to text you

Tell her you're blocking her number, and not to contact you anymore because it's tantamount to harassment.

Smiley bar, that is the perfect reply.
OP so sorry you have had to put up with this entitled madam!

Slightly out of context...

But I don’t like calling the cleaning professional “my cleaner”, she isn’t yours and you don’t own her. She is just doing a job.

Slightly more concerning that you have some guilt over it and call it “middle class”. Having someone clean for you for few hours is fairly ordinary and even people on benefits do it.

Don’t put in too much emotions in things unnecessarily. Just let her know ur circumstances and don’t guilt trip yourself into treating her any differently than an equal to you. Because she is.

The class system ended ages ago. You are both human and so just speak to her that it’s not working for u, without the resentment

"I can't believe you thought I was going to tutor you daughter for free indefinitely. Do you provide cleaning for free?" Then delete and block. Silly cow.