Gender reveal nonsense

[my3bears]

This whole make a big thing with a gender reveal - glitter, balloons, cakes with coloured centres etc

Then the parents act all surprised 😱

Isn't the biggest 'gender reveal' just to wait until they are born???

This really flipping irritates me and it's so American.

Just watched the LaBrant Family gender reveal (it came up on my timeline..why do I click on things that irritate me 😂) Boy it made my teeth itch!!

Aibu 🙄😂 anyone with me? Don't even get me started on baby showers....

I think that it can certainly be grabby, and I do feel there should be an either or (or none) with baby shower and sex reveal parties. Saying that though, it really was lovely to be part of the sex reveal for my expectant sister and BiL. Really lovely family BBQ and great seeing their face when they found out the sex

@ineedtostopbeingsolazy parents don't usually know, they get the sonographer (however you spell it) to write down the sex on a folded piece of paper and then the balloon company or cake company or however they're revealing the sex, will be given the folded paper and told to keep it secret so they are the only ones who know till the reveal

I feel the same... I'm 37 weeks pregnant and when people ask me if I know the answer is always... no what's the point?!!!!

You can get organised!

What's the point in that? What if it's wrong?

You can't do anything about it

Don't get me started on baby showers either 😂😂😂

I feel the same... I'm 37 weeks pregnant and when people ask me if I know the answer is always... no what's the point?!!!

It's just excitement curiosity really! I was always so excited about having a baby that I welcomed any information I could get without having to wait til he/she was born!

Not my cup of tea either, never been to one and won't be finding out what i'm having but what i always wonder is surely the parents already know? Wouldn't they find out at the scan and then organise the reveal party?? So why do they always look so surprised when they pop the balloon and blue/pink comes out??

I found out what I was having, because I wanted to know then and I'm too impatient. No big reveal. No balloons, confetti or cake. Makes me cringe a little bit.

Someone I know did a "gender reveal" video whereby they popped a black balloon and blue confetti streamed out. Her partner looked so excited and tried to hug her, whilst she stood their like a child and shouted 'I wanted a girl.' I couldn't believe she actually posted it.

Yes it is tacky (IMO) but so are lots of imports from America but don't let it get to you leave others to be as tacky as they want and focus on the important things in life.

So what. Why are you so angry about people doing something that makes them happy? It has no negative affect on anyone else if they want to throw a party...

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I'm right with you OP.
baby showers and gender reveals (I'd never heard of gender reveal until a week or so ago) just seem tasteless, vain, self promoting and utterly unnecessary.
I'd rather stick pins in my eyes!

Never wanted a baby shower or reveal party or anything like that, but we did find out what we were having at the 20 week scan and I’m very glad we did.

Birth went very badly and I ended up having a massive haemorrhage and passed out.

DH was left in a corridor holding DD for over an hour while they saved my life, they told him it was 50/50 if I’d make it and he was terrified I would never even see our baby.

He said afterwards that he was so glad that we had known in advance and had chosen names and had conversations with that knowledge, as well as finding out being a happy memory, not a time of extreme trauma.

I eventually met DD three hours after her birth and have very little recollection of anything.

Yeah to a previous poster a page back, uks become americanised esp Halloween, I remember our costumes were binbags with arm and head hold cut out and a witches hat made in school, none of this trick or treating nonsense, we sang songs to get monkey nuts
Lol

So has anyone actually been invited to a gender-reveal party? Or are they just an urban legend?

If you read up thread you'll see I did BruegelTheElder

I agree it's fucking stupid. And tacky.

It’s ludicrous forcing a gender identity on a child at such a young age. They should be able to decide for themselves their own gender once they are old enough.

I found out what I was having at 20 weeks but I didn't do a gender reveal, I just texted people to tell them. I think they're awful, as are baby showers. If other people want to do them of course it's up to them, I still think they're awful though.

If any of my family or friends invited me to one I'd tell them what I think.

People saying posting scans, sex, babies on Facebook is self-centred and attention seeking.
I literally think everything about social media is both those things. Its there to keep people updated on your lives, surely? I only have family and close friends on mine but we all share details of our lives to keep everyone informed.
I haven't had any party for my child (my family and DH family don't get on and we don't have many friends so no one would have came anyway) but I find most social gatherings quite awkward and have turned down baby shower invites in the past.
I think pregnancy is a time where you should celebrate and love your baby, where if you want a party you can have one. If it makes you feel more connected to the baby and your family then go for it.
I can't see how people get so angry when they are not forced to go, and if you don't like the videos, don't watch them. I can't get upset about something that hurts no one and I can actively avoid.
Very much life is yours to live and we should stop shitting on people's choices.
I found out with my son, and I've got a 16 week scan booked for this baby to find out.
I text the grandparents and put it on Facebook for the rest of family and I will do again this time.

I've never been to a gender reveal or baby shower party, and would probably decline an invitation to either.
I wouldn't buy baby things on the basis of sex either, I prefer white, yellow, red, and other colours for baby clothes and things to pink and blue. But if other people want to do these things it's up to them really.

We used to be asked ‘are you having a boy or a girl?’
To which i’d reply ‘yes.’

I don't think you can beat that single, unique moment, after the trauma of labour, of suddenly discovering what you have - son or daughter. It is priceless. Why spoil it in advance?

It's just as priceless and unique if you find out before hand.
It's just as priceless and unique to see your baby and hold them for the first time after labour.

Nothing is "spoilt".

After the trauma of labour with DS1 I couldn't give a shit what sex he was.

I remember looking down at DD, knowing she would be a girl, and thinking "so that's who you are!" Nothing less "single", priceless or unique about that moment than if I'd not known her sex.

Just a thought for those saying it should be sex reveal rather than gender.
When they sonographer is looking at the baby surely it's its gentials that they are looking at. Does gential and gender not have the same root?

Avoiding

Nope.

Gender is from “genus” meaning type/sort

Genitals is from “gignere” meaning beget.

Interesting question though - I only know because a TRA called me a “clueless bitch” for not realising gender and genital had the same root. Which they don’t 😂😂

Gender reveal parties = tacky

Baby showers, same

Then you are expected to show up after the actual birth,with more presents?

Fuck me, how much is YOUR baby, going to cost ME?