Gender reveal nonsense

[my3bears]

This whole make a big thing with a gender reveal - glitter, balloons, cakes with coloured centres etc

Then the parents act all surprised 😱

Isn't the biggest 'gender reveal' just to wait until they are born???

This really flipping irritates me and it's so American.

Just watched the LaBrant Family gender reveal (it came up on my timeline..why do I click on things that irritate me 😂) Boy it made my teeth itch!!

Aibu 🙄😂 anyone with me? Don't even get me started on baby showers....

Ah ok, no worries. 🙂 The one I knew was a great poster, as I’m sure anyone with that username must be!

That’s most kind ! You also have an interesting name!

I'd be holding back with the cake and glitter crap. My DC was "designated male at birth" (ie a boy). 23 years later she is a post surgery trans woman. Yeah. Who ever really knows. And what does it matter. You love them anyway (hopefully). It's a tiny person, of one variety or another, and your job is to do your very best to help them be the best person they can be.

PS I am not some "right on" mama. Just an ordinary mum, running a house, working my job, raising my children, trying my hardest. It's not easy, but there you go. But my "lived experience" says don't worry too much about the colour of your cake.

It’s definitely not for me. I waited to find out the sex and am so glad I did because it was a beautiful moment. It’s all very American. I feel the same about baby showers.

You also have an interesting name!

Thank you Seren. Don’t know if you’re familiar with ‘Peep Show’, but ‘waterlego’ is a metaphor for plumbing, used by Super Hans, who is a brilliant character.

Gender reveals weren't a thing when I had my DC. I was inadvertently told at 38 weeks (breech baby hence the late scan) I was carrying a fine healthy boy. I told my two sons they were getting a brother. They have NEVER forgiven me for bringing home a baby sister, and accused me of swapping their brother for "that girl baby"

@op that video has made my eyes bleed. Luckily I watched it on mute so I didn't fully implode from the cringe. I did skip through to see what the sex was though 🤷🏻‍♀️

🤢 that video 🤮 I’m with you OP, gender reveals are cringey and American and yucky and self-indulgent, and the pink/blue thing is so wrong - talk about stereotyping them before they’re even born.

I had years of fertility problems and 2 early losses, and my best friend had a stillbirth, I had such bad anxiety when I was pregnant that my babies would die that I couldn’t think of celebrating before they’d arrived, so the whole idea is totally alien to me.

Oh dear, I’ve just watched the video. How utterly self-indulgent and extravagant it all is. Of course, people are entitled to spend their money on whatever they like, but I’m just not a big fan of this sort of opulent display. Things like balloons, flowers and paper decorations just create unnecessary waste. Yes, we all enjoy and make use of them from time to time, it just seems there are so many more occasions now to be acknowledged and celebrated, all of which costs people money and creates needless waste.

I don’t quite know what to say about the dance display (was this a party or a festival?) or the child arriving my pony-led carriage. I don’t think I’ve ever seen anything so vulgar.

This couple present themselves like a celebrity couple. Are they celebrities? Or are they just jumping on the ‘lifestyle’ blogger type of thing? I find it genuinely a bit worrying that some people seem to place quite so much importance on their own lives, and in particular these sanitised, Instagrammed photo-op life events.

Yanbu bloody horrible things and baby showers- why celebrate a baby that hasn’t even safely arrived yet? I didn’t have one with my dd who’s 5 months.

What annoys me is when people call their 20 week nhs anomaly scan 'the gender scan ' or 'sexing scan' like that's the sole purpose of it

Very self indulgent behaviour . Totally pointless . Hell would freeze over before I would attend one .
It’s up there with baby showers , cake smashes and extravagant hen / stag weeks abroad .

Also a pregnancy doesn’t mean you’ll be bringing a baby home . People assume it will all go smoothly and that’s just not the case .

@waterlego I don't think they're celebrities in the true sense. Bloggers?

Wtf is a cake smash?

When we were at DH's best mate's christening reception for his daughters this summer, the mate's brother and sister-in-law announced that they were about to have their "Gender Reveal" out on the lawn Confetti cannon, as we saw afterwards, the lawn was covered in the stuff.

My friends and I retreated quickly to the bar. I'm sorry, but I just can't fake a smile around that level of nonsense.

Don’t know if you’re familiar with ‘Peep Show’, but ‘waterlego’ is a metaphor for plumbing, used by Super Hans, who is a brilliant character.

Super Hans: Jez, can you tell me, as a mate, someone who knows me really well... is the bottom half of me on fire?

I remember the midwife on my scan telling me that they don’t tell you the sex of the baby due to people not getting what the little boy/girl they wanted, and folk demanding abortions, they even had a leaflet up saying they don’t tell you the gender of the baby. THAT was 12 years ago, how things have changed.
I think gender reveal is another thing to get money out of people, and if people are daft enough to spend money on balloons then that’s up to them, personally I’d be spending money doing up kids room before kid arrived

Wtf is a cake smash?

Basically ordering a fancy expensive cake just for your tiny 1 year old to smear all over their face, kick about and sit on and basically just play with and smush about their hands. Then posting the "cute" photos.
Each to their own but not my thing at all, seems like an utter waste of food and teaching bad food practises all round.

I'm fairly laid back about this stuff, happily organised a baby shower for my sister and been to others etc but "gender" reveal just seems all pointless. Yes I understand wanting to know but you're not actually celebrating because it's a girl are you unless you'd be sobbing if it was a boy, no party and generally unhappy with your child, or vice versa. In reality parents don't care either!

Then the parents act all surprised 😱

What makes you think the parents aren't genuinely surprised?
The custom is the sonographer writes the sex on a bit of paper which is put in a sealed envelope. The envelope taken to the baker so makes the cake. So the parents do not know and are sharing a special moment with family and friends.

If it's not your thing then fine don't attend if invited. But don't take away a bit of light hearted fun from other people.

My sister in law had a gender reveal party, her son pulled a popper thing and loads of pink confetti came out.

I just used it as an excuse to get drunk 

Totally with you.

I have yet to be invited to a ‘baby sex party’. As it were.

Thank goodness..

I personally don’t think finding out the gender when their born is special...you are so in love with them that they could be a turtle and wouldn’t GAF.
However - I find the whole gender reveal and baby shower thing a bit tacky. Gender reveals within the family....lovely and tasteful. Gender reveals and baby showers where they want loads of guests, presents etc are just OTT and attention seeking

I think a gender reveal party would you be best if the “reveal” was that the baby was going to identify as a pan-bi-ectogender

Yeah,no.
That's just nonsense.