To not trust her

[Cuppatea10]

This might sound a bit petty but because of my past experiences with friends stabbing me in the back i see a red flag waving in my face.
So this is a new friend I've made through my new hobby, it's a team sport so no competitiveness in the hobby. I arranged to have lunch with her as we work near by and it was good. So asked me if I was speaking to any new guys and I mentioned about speaking to a guy on social media that I had added and struck up a conversation with. I asked her too and she said she wasn't speaking to no guys.
Anyway I've just gone on this guys profile this morning and it comes up that she is now following him. It could be a coincidence but I don't know, seems unlikely she would randomly follow the guy ive started talking to unless she's gone onto my profile and seen who this guy is. Something is telling me not to trust this girl. Am I over thinking or should I be cautious of her?

Wow wow!
So her reply to my message was "No way, didnt know it was him"
So I said yea it's the guy I told you about.
She said "Ah think I'm meeting him Friday night"
What a bitch! So clearly speaking to him maybe mentioned me and then decided to tell me she's meeting up with him after I told her that was the guy. She must of known

Oh wow.

Well look at it this way. Uncomfortable as it is, you’ve flushed out someone who was never going to be a true friend and a man who sounds flighty in one easy move.

She knew and she knew you were referring to her in your trust dig. How nasty. I hope you’re ok 💐

I would find it hard to believe her

She’s a shit stirrer. If you can keep going to your hobby, do, but don’t ever trust her again.

I’m sorry OP

What a sly one!

Oh, you’re one of those that make up cryptic passive aggressive FB posts.

Sorry to break this to you but he never liked you. You’ve been “messaging him” and he never met you.

She messaged him and has a date with him.

So either he’s really not into you and is very keen on her... or if he did try to meet up with you and you’re the one who turned him down... he’s a player who will go on a date with any random woman who sends him a message.

She’s done you a favour, as he sounds like a loser not worth your time.

Wow, she works fast.

Wow! Only a polite ‘hi’ and ‘bye’ for this cow from now on. She absolutely knew what she was doing - what a bitch.

I'm gobsmacked. What is it they say keep your friends close and enemies closer. I know what she's like now so I will just sit back and laugh, shes coming across slightly desperate. Just can't believe she had the cheek to say that to me.

I would keep her at arms length, how did she know the details of your guy anyway? Did you tell her? Maybe time to keep things under wraps with her.

Wow.. that is desperate. I dont even know what ro say what a weird one!

Argh. I have read your thread. I'm horribly territorial but the reason being is because of situations just like this.

She would not be my friend any longer. I wouldn't have a major blow out with her, if just be unavailable to her from now on. And close off your social media to her - she's a stalker.

Not a friend, I'd block her from your IG account/other social media too. What a cow. And the blokes no good either, you're best off without either of them. At least you've learnt not to share personal stuff with acquaintances.

I'm doing what a few others had suggested and saying I'm speaking to another guy. He has a distinct name so no mistaking him. She's now asking if I've met him yet, how old he is, what he does for a living and said she wants all the details!!
Crazy!!

Just ask her 'why, do you want this one too?'. Just call her out on it and point her in the direction of pof or other websites so she can find her own dates.

so you are still in communication with her?
what does she think this is? a Share a Bloke?

Just ask her 'why, do you want this one too?'. Just call her out on it and point her in the direction of pof or other websites so she can find her own dates.

agree

I did want to put do you want his address and number too? 😂
I'm just playing along but from now on I'll keep her at arms length and I'm not telling her anything about my life. I have to see her tonight so wonder how she will be too me. Prob overly nice.

Well she's prob offered herself on a plate to him so if that's all he wants then she may have done you a favour. He sounds a bit fickle tbh. Just hold back from what you tell her in future she doesnt sound like friend material. I have a friend who I have a good laugh with but so I never tell her anything personal. Trust is earned OP x

Incredibly childish game you are playing OP - why not just call her out on it

I had a 'friend' do something like this to me too. I had known her for a few years so had nothing to do with not knowing her for long. I wasn't bothered about the bloke, we'd not met and it would not be an issue to chat or date a few people at the same time in the early days. It just makes you feel like you can't trust your friend or tell them about the people you're talking to or dating.

I also had two friends (one was the above one) start dating people who I'd been dating for a short while (not slept with but kissed plenty and one I spent valentines with). The blokes actually finished with me to date my 'friends' instead, they'd been talking behind my back. That bloody hurt both times. They did do me a favour in the end as both men treated them like shit eventually.

This is over 10 years ago so I'm hoping I'm a far better judge of character with friends now but it certainly hasn't helped my self esteem over the years.

I would thank her that your glad she decided to go ahead and speak to this guy, He sounds a right twat and should be welcome to each other.
Some Women can be so spiteful