Ladies (possibly gay or straight ) aibu to ask this woman out?

[nataliebat]

She's gay and I'm straight (as in I have found women attractive but never acted on it )
Anyway I really actually fancy her like more than I've fancied anybody in years !!!
She thinks I'm straight ...do I dare tell her?
What would your reaction be as a gay woman thinking I'm straight ? Would you be turned off or flattered etc etc
I'm nervous but whatever I really like her.

If you like her, ask her out! I'm not gay but I'd be flattered if anyone asked me out!

Be honest though.

just be honest with yourself if you would actually be happy for it to lead to something more. it's a shitty thing to lead someone on for the straight one to then panic later on that they dont actually want a 'gay life' and this was just fun. which ive seen happen a few times.

I agree, be honest and clear when you ask her out. If she reject then try to be as graceful about it as you can be.

I'm gay. I say just ask her. If you don't ask she deffo won't say yes!

Don't mess with her emotions unless you are sure you want a same sex relationship. If you ask her out, then after a while, realise you're not actually attracted to women, it wouldn't be kind. She might not fancy you anyway, particularly if she thinks you are straight.

I think go for it, but be wary if you’re still exploring your sexuality and your attraction to women she might be reluctant if she thinks she’s a bit of a guinea pig for you. Just be open with her and how you feel.

JFDI.

So do you think the fact that she could be potentially my "first" would be off putting?
That scares me.
I'm quite girly too and she isn't..but I guess she might be attracted to the opposite of her.

You'll never find out if you don't ask. Go on. Don't overthink it, just ask her out on a date and see if you like each other.

Ask her, and yes be open 😊 Best of luck (and please type report back)!

YANBU to tell her how you feel and ask her out. However, you should be prepared for the fact that even if she likes you, she might not say yes.

Lots of lesbians and bisexual women (I'm one of the latter) are wary about getting into relationships with women who have never had a relationship with a woman before and who have previously considered themselves straight. That's because it's hard to know if it's just experimentation, or that they might decide it's not for them after all. It's easy to become invested in a relationship only for your partner to decide that they're straight after all, and the relationship isn't for them.

But as long as you're honest about your feelings and make sure she's able to go into anything that happens with her eyes open, you should go for it. All lesbians and bisexuals have to start somewhere! She might be well up for giving you a chance

Should I text her saying I fancy you in a subtle way?

“I fancy you in a subtle way.”

I like that.

I’d ask her out, and be honest from the start about everything. That way, what’s the worst that can happen?

I agree with the others

Tell her how you feel, she can only say yes or no

Or maybe I suppose

(Im straight if it makes any difference...)

Don't do it by text. Too ambiguous. Ask her for a coffee and take it from there.

All of her friends she goes out with for nights out are all gay and they all seem quite masculine ...do you think this means her type is also masculine?

Let her decide.

Don't get too hung up on the gay/straight thing. Just ask her if she wants to go on a date.

First time lesbian sex as your first post.

And addressing us as “Ladies...”

Hm.

I’ve no clue, but surely if I hang around with very girly friends, it doesn’t mean I don’t fancy very masculine men does it?

It's not my first post,I've changed my name.
Well your a lady aren't you?
No point asking men a question about gay women

I'm terrible at asking people out,I've never asked anyone out.
If it wasn't for online dating I would be a nun

Yeah that's true,I think I'm thinking too much into it tbh.