To let big brother warn off bully

[AFOLNerd]

Dd has just started high school and is having a pretty hard time of it. She has a medical condition which has caused deformities to her hands and feet. One particularly vile boy in her form has been tormenting her about it. He has been spoken to by the school more that once and still continues.
Last night she came home in tears because after school this little brat had chased her across the field shouting at anyone who would listen to “come and look at these fucked up hands, her feet are like it too” “what the fuck is wrong with you”

Her big brother is at the school, he is a 6 foot year 10 and he wants to have a word and tell him to back off. He has promised me he won’t do today unless he witnesses something. I trust him completely that he wouldn’t lay a finger on this kid, it would just be an “I’m watching you, stay away from my sister” kind of thing. But obviously I don’t want him getting in trouble.

I have emailed her form tutor and told them all this and that this kid needs to be stopped before Ds steps in to defend her.

If the school don’t stop this boy Aibu to let Ds have a word?

Bullying is often-quite rightly-mentioned as a cause of suicide. I would definitely get big db to have very serious words with the little idiot.

One of mine 9year 11) booted a boy in the shins who was bullying his brother (year 7) It was very effective.

I did it years ago for an older sibling (yes) and beat the tar out of the bully and took my punishment (parents shrugged it off )and I still ended up being a law abiding citizen (for the most part) My DH had bullies in neighborhood threaten both him and my future MIL as they biked through neighborhood years ago when he was around 12 and as SOON as my FIL heard (exmarine) he was out the door hunted kid down and grabbed kid by front of shirt and said “Nobody threatens my family or touches them and if you ever do it again you won’t be coming home ever again”and he meant it) very old school ex-marine

God yes. It's one of the benefits of having an older brother!

And ask school for meeting with HoY and Headmaster.

AFOL it’s ok for him to be mean to her but not anyone else!

Absolutely! Me and my older brother went through a stage of not being able to be in the same room as each other. I was being bullied by a boy at school at the time, my brother had words with him and it stopped immediately

Funny thing is my brother is one of the softest people in the world, he just looks scary

Hope your dd is ok. What a little wanker!

My dsis and I absolutely hated each other from birth to hmmmmm 45? But she fronted, with friends, up to MY bully when I was in yr 9 and she in yr 10 and verbally annihilated my cohort bullies. Saved my sanity

What’s the current situation op?

Actually that just reminded me that in year 3? I walked up to someone in yr four and kicked them n the shins and told them to leave dsis alone

My big sis sorted out bullies. I'd let him support his little sis.

Of course, that's how it works, old skool but effective.

My friend did this found the little thug who was bullying her tiny year 7 boy and cornered him in a newsagents and did the full stay away from my son or you will have me to deal with. She is a nice middle class mum if abit fiery. I know this approach is not recommended but it totally worked.

Yes! Go big brother :)

I would, I did it for my brother when he was about 12 and I was 16. Some girl in his class was making his life an absolute misery as she'd asked him out and he'd said no so she made up loads of nasty rumours about him. A quiet word in a quiet corner and it soon stopped.

Maybe engineer it that your ds is standing behind the bully.So he hears it with his own ears.And then let him fix the problem.Sometimes its the only wa.

I had a friend at school with a similar condition. I don't ever remember anyone taking the piss, but if they had I'd have absolutely wanted someone large and scary to have a word. Unfortunately, I'm only 5'2", and not at all scary. Some people are just horrible. This woman's still my friend, and doesn't seem to get any nasty comments or discrimination.

you punched him but he broke his nose?

I don't see why not, even after years of bullying (& informing teachers about said bully), the victim will eventually snap. But there again, the victim will still get blamed.

Polar good for you btw