To let big brother warn off bully

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Dd has just started high school and is having a pretty hard time of it. She has a medical condition which has caused deformities to her hands and feet. One particularly vile boy in her form has been tormenting her about it. He has been spoken to by the school more that once and still continues.
Last night she came home in tears because after school this little brat had chased her across the field shouting at anyone who would listen to “come and look at these fucked up hands, her feet are like it too” “what the fuck is wrong with you”

Her big brother is at the school, he is a 6 foot year 10 and he wants to have a word and tell him to back off. He has promised me he won’t do today unless he witnesses something. I trust him completely that he wouldn’t lay a finger on this kid, it would just be an “I’m watching you, stay away from my sister” kind of thing. But obviously I don’t want him getting in trouble.

I have emailed her form tutor and told them all this and that this kid needs to be stopped before Ds steps in to defend her.

If the school don’t stop this boy Aibu to let Ds have a word?

I'd let him do it, I had to do the same for my DSis ... even though she was 4 years older than me. The (old school) 5th year bully was a bit surprised, to say the least, when she was ambused on her way home by a new 1st year starter, I was like a rabid Jack Russell!

Totally yes, let him stand up for his little sister.

She will love him for it.

I would let him.

Agree with others saying go into school and let them know, email and call with every tiny incident so it is all documented. If it carries on the boy needs to be suspended. They have a duty of care to your DD that they are not meeting - tell them that.

I’d let him.

Yep let him do it.

Off topic - but have you seen the film Wonder about a boy with deformities, lovely uplifting & inspiring.

What a horrible little shit.

I would be inclined to allow big brother to have a word - it will be more effective than the teachers. Shame the little shit.

Like others I am wondering where this little horrors parents are. Surely the school has informed them.

Would let him 100%

I would absolutely let him.

What a horrible brat! The school clearly aren't dealing with it appropriately, but you do need to keep at them and make sure they keep on top of this kind of bullying. Don't let them shy away from it. However, in the interim, I don't see any issue with your DS having a word with this boy. As long as he doesn't threaten him or use violence then I think he is well within his rights to stick up for his sister.

Definitely let him, one of the advantages of having a big brother.

I’d definitely let him.

Let him.

My Mum wouldn’t let me step in with my little sister. I was 19, they were 15. Until my sister took an overdose and was in hospital for a week. Then I didn’t give my Mum a choice.

I got on a coach home from Uni immediately and had the little cow outside of school in front of all her friends. I didn’t touch her, or shout, and despite her being 5’10 and me being 5’2, she didn’t say a fucking word and looked at her feet the entire time and didn’t so much as glance at my sister after that.

Thank you everyone.
We see what today brings and if the school don’t manage to stop the boy I will give Ds my blessing to have a word with him.

Dd and ds aren’t close and I’m surprised he wanted to get involved as he is pretty unpleasant to her himself. But apparently it’s ok for him to be mean to her but not anyone else!

There were witnesses to what happened yesterday and a friend caught up with her and told him to pack it in. She is happy to do a statement to the school.

As far as I am aware he is an only child, he went to primary with dd and seems to suffer from “little man syndrome” he is very small and makes up for it by being loud and mouthy. But I’m sure when faced with ds who looks about 20 and not someone to be messed with (especially when in cadet uniform) he won’t be so cocky. Ds is actually pretty soft but he doesn’t need to know that!

Make sure your son has a couple of pals with him as witnesses so that if small boy's parents complain then your son has people with him to vouch for him not touching small boy.

That's probbaly a very good idea - plus it suggests to the bully that more than one person is keeping an eye on the situation.

Thats what big brothers are for, let him go for it 💪🏻
My children are still small but I hope if need be my DS will do the same for his little sister

I would definitely let him protect his little sister. That's what big brothers are for. Scare the little scumbag off asap.

Yes I'd let him, it's an older siblings job  I have a big brother who always stuck up for me too. Your DS is very well behaved to ask you! Mine never asked our parents 

Did same for my DS. Younger siblings are fair game for older siblings but they are not anyone else’s to torment

Yes, I would

DD2 was having issues in year 7. School had spoken to this group of girls several times but it continued so DD1 stepped in

DD1 has an awesome dirty look so didn’t really have to say or do anything.

The girls involved did report DD1 but she hadn’t actually done anything so school told them if they left DD2 alone they’d have nothing to worry about

definitely let him, the benefits of having a big brother!!

scare the life out of the little shit i say

100% yes. My older sis came and rescued me at Senior school and it got the bullies off my back.

Let him take a few of his mates with him too. Make sure the message is heard loud and clear.

Make sure he has more than one witness, just in case. Tell him not to make overt threats of violence, or to swear.

Then send him off with your blessing.

Against the grain here but I wouldn't encourage it. I would go to the school and insist the student was kept away from her and disciplined before my DS feels the need to say anything.

Just hope he does not have a older brother and friends to scare the shit out of your eldest. These things can esculate fast.

Younger siblings are fair game for older siblings but they are not anyone else’s to torment

It was the other way round in our house! My younger sister is way bigger than me and bullied me for most of our childhood. Her size made her a target at school though. She was bullied by a gang of girls. School weren't interested, police 'had a word' but did nothing, local authorities and mp's wouldn't get involved.

After 2 years of daily bullying I witnessed a physical attack from the ring leader. I completely lost my shit and after a scuffle and a few words I went straight to the head and reported myself to him! We were both interviewed, nothing was done and sister was never bullied again!

Waiting for school meetings and official responses and witness statements, or a quick "Oy, I'm watching you mate" from an older brother. I know which I'd choose.