Why did he do this? (DH being a twat related)

[Whatthehe]

DS got up with DH for work at 8. Heard DS ask if he could play on the iPad, DH said no.

A while later (I dozed off, ds had been up in the night with earache which is why I was snatching a lie in) I heard DH say “go and ask your mother”. Ds came in and asked if he could have the iPad.

I have no idea why DH has sent him in, he’s already said no. But maybe it’s been longer than I think (dozing) so I say “ooh I don’t know, ask daddy).

Ds goes out, I hear DH say “what did mummy say?” Ds say “she says ask daddy” DH comes storming in the bedroom stands over me and rages for “batting it back at him”.

I explain that these were my options.

1. I say yes. He rages at me that I made the decision and go against his.

1. I say no. He tells DS very sorry but mummy won't let you.

1. I say ask daddy. He comes in and rages for "bouncing it back".

So basically he has an abusive answer to anything I will say so I couldn't even begin to second guess the "right" answer.

I asked him why he had sent ds in when he had already told him no. He stuttered “ it doesn’t matter why” and slammed off to work.

FinallyHere op has said that there are no money issues, her DH just happened to be the one paying that time.

The important point of that story is that the counsellor is twat! Don’t miss the point!

Money issues always quickly jumped on here!

Hissy I think a brand new mother is actually more than likely to walk out than at any other time. “Going back to mother” with a baby is not a cliche for nothing! Battling nasty in-laws and a know-it-all husband would make me walk.

And it worked.

I think it's because he ultimately sees childcare as your responsibility.

It's your job, and he was 'helping you out' this morning. But when it got annoying, he tried to pass the job back to you. And got annoyed when you refused.