To have thought I was the only OW...

[lexi727]

We first met on my drive about 4 months ago. He came straight over to me as soon as he saw me. As he came over it was almost as if he was excited, which was weird because we had never met before. I thought he looked absolutely lovely. Beautiful black hair. Little bit of white going through it that I thought was really charming.

I fed him a little bit of tuna, and after that he wouldn't leave me alone! I have to admit, I loved the attention as my own cat had died a few months prior. I knew he had an owner, because he had a collar. But I just carried on feeding him because he was such a lovely little kitty! He even stopped over a few nights when my DH was away - nooooo way would DH let me have a random cat in the house!

I knew who his owner was as I saw him being let in a few times. Then one day, I noticed him being let into our next door neighbours!!! I couldn't believe it!!! I thought i was his second home!!! Turns out I was just one of many. He's being fed by multiple women on our street!!! In fact, his owner has had to stop feeding him because of how much he's being fed by other people!!! (I spoke to on her drive this morning).

Feeling very betrayed. I will have to stop feeding him now. Fat shit.

Well that knocks my story about being the other woman into a cocked hat! I thought I was the centre of his world, I wasn’t. He ended up hanging himself, on my birthday, by B&Q and the local newspaper made up some story about his dead son sending him over the edge.

I don't care if you know the owner my cat was stollen by someone I knew. I thought he was dead when he did not come home as usual she had asked me if it was ok to let him in her house. I did not expect her to feed him or keep him. People who take over others cats convince themselves its ok, just like those who entice other peoples partners away. Its much the same thing. Perhaps those who do so can only expect to be betrayed. Just deserts I think.

There is a really good children's book about a cat: 6 Dinner Sid

There is a really good children's book called Six Dinner Sid

My cat was overweight. My neighbours kept putting food down for her. She had a flea collar with our details and I asked them to stop several times.

I think it's very bad mannered.

Dogs have owners, cats have staff 🐱

People who take over others cats convince themselves its ok

The owners are leaving the cat outside every night. Where's the problem with giving it somewhere nice to sleep?

How could you possibly justify getting upset about this?

If the owners are locking their cat out, it's none of their business where it goes, the cat's looking after itself when they're not.

It’s odd how many people think of cats like dogs, thinking their loyal and stuff cats do not care about you, they care about that bag of cat food you’ve got in your cupboard. And locking them inside doesn’t change that either.

I say that as the ‘owner’ (vet bill payer) of a gorgeous Russian blue who sluts off to my neighbours every evening for dinner and snuggles away from our dog

@TheDarkPassenger I agree.

Oh and you don't need to feed some cats for them to decide they like your home or garden enough to come back regularly.

Our neighbours cat comes to visit us. She used to live in our house then she and her owners move to the other end of the road, and she returned even thought the house was empty for a bit until we moved in. So neighbours two doors down adopted it but it still comes into our house and steals our cats food! It’s massive so I think we are one of many houses she visits!

We had an Open Relationship.

One of my cats had our neighbours wrapped right around his paw! When we went away they didn’t even have to come to ours to feed him, they just fed him at theirs (with food we gave them). When we were out (and sometimes when we were home, rude little bugger!), he would follow the sun around to their garden and go inside to make good use of their bed or their roaring fire. They loved him (almost) as much as we did, they loved ‘having a cat’ and yet not having any responsibility! We loved them looking out for him. Open Relationships can work if you’re not too possessive.

LTC

Please don't feed someone else's cat. My friends cat was missing for a week and then turned up. They were so upset as had his brother still at home and were ready to search ditches and hedges along the main road but he returned healthy and happy so he must have been fed by someone else. It's not your cat. Pet it hello but that's it.

naivetyisthenewblack The cat has a bed in the shed. it's an animal with a nice warm coat not a baby. Some one else feeding it tuna and wanting it to be loyal just to them is asking for trouble. Sooner or later open relationships cause someone to be upset and in this case the OP ... now she has found out how fickle this cats affections are. My advice is to leave other peoples cats alone get your own cat. Don't encourage philandering.

Cats are CF's, my neighbours cat used to come in for an afternoon snooze on my bed, I didn't feed him though. My dcat goes to a neighbour across the road for afternoon snack, she is an elderly cat lady 😻

I have a timeshare cat, his name is Marley. His owner called me after I had put a paper collar on him.

She was baffled as to why he was getting so fat, the cheeky monkey now sits and waits for me every morning when I got put Howard the strays food out for him.

But at least we now know where each other lives and she knows where he might be if he is not home. Cats! Can't live with them and can not live without them.

Our cat has a friend that thinks he's entitled to come in and share diner. Quite often I will hear who I think is our cat at his food dish in the kitchen but then walk in to find his little ginger friend.
At first he only ever used to come in with our cat who amazingly really doesn't mind sharing his food but now he'll just pop by whenever he feels like it.
I always ask him to leave he's very fat so I'm guessing this is his trick, making friends with all the cats on our street and just casually popping in to share breakfast diner or tea with each one of them.
He's a very lovely cat and in all honesty I wouldn't really mind him sharing but can imagine he may end up with problems if he's eating a massive amount of food each day so have always sent him on his way

Ha! My moniker is appropriate for this thread. We have an 18 yo cat. He has moved with us twice. He is now fairly cantankerous and the vets are always surprised when I tell them how old he is bc he's in great shape.

He and his sister were feral kittens and we got them when they were tiny. From my mother who saved them and guilted them into my home.

I cannot keep him home and it may be due to our first home's neighborhood. Our then back neighbor boasted. "I dont ever own a cat, we just feed neighbors' cats. No vet bills!" Her gloating daughter then said, "I feed your cat steak!"

I was annoyed but didnt say anything to keep neighborhood peace. He didnt stay home, so how could i complain?

All was good (to them) until one day he let himself in through their open door and ate their parakeet!

Of course mother wasn't home and I had to console crying little cat thieves. We eventually found parakeet uneaten but missing feathers and unhappy.

I then purchased a new tag for his collar.
It said, "my name is Kitty. Please don't feed me. Just pet me and send me home."

I am not sure how far he roamed but one little girl from a few blocks away once visited my dd and exclaimed. "I know him! His name is ! And he likes petting!"

I know he still roams, he hunts mice for some neighbors, loves others, is terrified of a few.
But please. Unless you know the cat's owners do not care, "Send him home " I do not go to sleep until he comes in for the night.

searose Jesus Christ, who stuck a pole up your arse?

I had a cat who liked going to the neighbours houses and getting cuddles from random strangers.

Did I get cross? No. I was pleased she was finding somewhere to be while I was at work.

Nothing wrong with a social cat who enjoys eating out. The problem lies with the one who wants to entice the cat to love only them.

You clearly like cats. Just get one of your own. Cats protection league rehome cats after owners have died etc.

Take him to court for everything he is worth

I remember reading somewhere that there are 3.5m cats in the UK but 5m households think they have a cat...something like that!

I've been on the other end of this. Neighbours had a cat that was spoiled rotten and the centre of their universe. Neighbours had a child who was spoiled rotten ... and the cat voted with its paws. It went from barely acknowledging my existence (in my garden) to crying outside my door. Any door or window left open and cat would be in. If I got up at night and made noise I could hear him crying. I made him an outside bed in the end which he slept in. He went home for meals, but spent the rest of his time away from the small, nasty, noisy thing that had stolen his thunder!

I am fortunate because my tom doesn't do the Six Dinner Sid thing.
My younger chubster went through the longest gestation period though that lasted about 6 years. She suspiciously slimmed down since I've talked to my neighbour next door and told her not to feed that fat fluffy little slut that likes to pretend she's homeless for a bit of a grub.
My older tom starting putting on weight in summer. It remained a mystery till I spotted a dish with what looked like cat granules (no dog in the house) in the garden of yet another kind-hearted neighbour.