AIBU or did I react correctly ( smacking of bum )

[Alwaysbekind2014]

We have a local supermarket won’t mention names.
We shop their regularly and the security guard is often a little over friendly, always asks questions etc
Anyway the other day I was walking home with young daughter, and he was at the bus stop he said oh you live he then ( the door next to it ) next time you come in it’s for lunch !
Anyway fast forward to this evening I went over with daughter and the alarms went off ( tag left on toy )
I laughed as it’s always me shoes receipt blah blah as I went to put you back in back he smacked my bum, I alwardlt tried to ignore it and then he said to me you need more children.
Anyway
I got in the lift to leave and then changed my mind and went back upstairs to discuss with manager.
My friend seems to think I have over reacted.

He touched/smacked you? He’s lucky you didn’t smack him in the face!

What did his manager say?

You haven't over reacted.

Wow I’m sorry for the typos it’s super dark and have a toddler laid across me with an occasional kick to the face !

He did you know I suppose a jokey life smack fo the bottom, the manager seems really concerened took my details and said she would contact me but that it would be taken seriously

I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. That’s assault. It’s sexual too.

Eh

Unless you count this man as friend and its within the normal actions of your friendship this IS totally unacceptable. Well done on standing up for yourself AND showing your daughter that if someone touches inappropriately then you stand up for youself.

Sabine he is a seriously over friendly person it’s our nearest big supermarket we love v close so we go in a lot, he has always engaged in conversation with me and been over friendly I normally just serve the conversation.
Often asks things like how many kids have I for , what I do for a living etc

Seriously sorry I’m moving the child off me now !!! I can’t type her hair is in my face 😂and my arms stretched around her

You’ve under-reacted if anything! Totally not on.

He touched your arse and made a comment about you having more children - that’s not friendly that’s creepy.

I genuinely don't understand what's meant to have happened.

You’ve said it. ‘Over-friendly.’ He’s behaving inappropriately and getting a kick out of it.

Creepy. I'd be very careful of him. He said you need more children? Really?

Sorry I will re type now I have my arms free.
I went through the exit and the alarms went off.
He laughed as it goes off a lot and I gave him the toy and receipt.
He made comments that I buy a lot of toys. I put the toy back in the back and as I twisted slightly to do so he then went and smacked me gently on the bum.
I just tried to get away from him without engaging any conversation, as I walked off towards lift he said, you need another child.
I then went in to lift but decided to go back up to talk to manager.
As I was waiting for the manager he came over to hover and asked if everything was ok and I said yes just an issue with receipt.
He then hanged around waiting.
But I saw the manager coming down the aisle and wandered to her instead

You've not over reacted. He's a creep.

You didn't overreact at all - he should keep his hands to himself.

The manager took your details?

Did they mention what their intentions alerted regarding investigation?

Is there CCTV footage of it?

He’s disgusting. You’ve not over reacted. By reporting him you may have stopped another woman from being sexually harassed and touched against their wishes in future. THANK YOU for complaining!

When I was 15 I was harassed by a security guard as I was sitting doing my homework while my mum was shopping for an hour or so. He proceeded to follow me around whist I looked around for a place away from him and I assumed I was in trouble, as he was a security guard and I assumed he was following me to make sure I didn’t shop lift. I was really embarrassed. When my mum caught up with me I told her I was worried the security guard thought I was a shoplifter and she happened to see him stood staring at me. She nicely enquired if there was a problem, reassuring him I was a good kid. He replied, “Yes, I can see she’s a good girl. I was just following her around because she’s very pretty and I would like to get to know her better. Perhaps I could take her for dinner and some wine?”. My mother replied, “she’s a school girl! She’s fifteen!” and he said that my age wasn’t a problem for him. He was at least 40.

I really wish I had reported him. God knows what he got up to after that and how he abused his position. I hope he didn’t hurt any underage girls.

You did the right thing. He needs to be reprimanded. It’s completely unacceptable behaviour which needs an end put to it. You deserve to do your shopping in peace.

I asked if the cameras by the door had pointed to the trolley area where we were standing and told her it had been only 10 minutes before.
She took my name and number.
She did look really angry about it.
I had daughter with me so I didn’t want to get in to a scene with him

Woah!!! You definitely did NOT overreact.He sexually harassed , if not sexually assaulted you ,and to do it in his place of work!!

No excuse , but was he elderly.It would have been considered normal in the 70s but things are very different now!

This is not acceptable behaviour for a security guard. You did the right thing to report him, they shouldn't ask you personal questions or touch you.

She did ask me how seriously I wanted the investigation.
I said I just wanted to inform you so he didn’t do it to anyone else.
I did also go through some other incidents on the last relating to him.
Nothing physical but a few comments and invasive questioning.