To not support DH in his half marathon tomorrow

[AlloVeraLouRolls]

A) it's not his first. He's an old pro
B) it's going to pour with rain all day
C) it's in Peterborough

I still feel guilty for not going to cheer him from the sidelines though.

Should I go and support him? You decide. You've got until 7am tomorrow to say Yay or Nay.

I don’t understand the guilt at all. He can remember plasters himself! He should be thanking you for parenting while he trains unless you trade off for equivalent hobby time.

I hope you do have a hobby OP and he does cover the parenting.

Though, if it's a more general hobby like 'socialising with friends' then finding an opportunity for hom to come out and 'support' you could be tricky! 'Yay, great choice of cocktails and a fantastic conversation there Mrs AloeVera!'

...Though he could turn up at the end with some comfy shoes and a lift home. That would be helpful!

My dad was an amateur athlete when I was a child, I have the WORST memories of being dragged all over the country on the weekend to get travel sick in the car, incredibly bored standing around for hours in all weathers to see him for a brief glimpse. I HATED it and wouldn't do it to my children! My husband has ran a few races but he has never assumed for a second we would go.

So no, YANBU, I think it would be unreasonable for a parent to want a child to spend a weekend like that.

How can you support a runner unless you run alongside? you will see him for a few seconds, utterly pointless.

@lottiegarbanzo

DH is taking a day off work in December to drive me to the train station so that I can spend the afternoon and evening in a fancy restaurant and cocktail bar. He will do the day's parenting and then will pick me up from the station. I'll ask him to bring the comfy shoes, thanks for the tip!!

Also in his defence, he took up running to replace golf as that was eating too much into family time. He is quite nice really!

Well, he's there and I'm here so it is what it is.

Oh golf! Yes, running is much more flexible.

Enjoy your lovely cosy day indoors

We went past as the fun run was finishing. It didn't look like people were hanging around much after that.

The few children we saw watching did not look happy.

And it's still chucking it down.

Thank @Minniemountain

I'm currently having a bit of a spa morning. DH is allowed a duvet day. Everyone's a winner!

Yes that's right - coming to the end of a race means giving up your entire Sunday and never having a lie-in. Ever.

Why are spouses supposed to watch races, but not, say, rounds of golf, or gym workouts?
The same reason I might see DH in a crucial rugby match but wouldn't for a training session or a friendly.
If either of us do big events, the other turns up at the end to support (But don't stand in the freezing for hours and hours) but we wouldn't observe training.

DH runs marathons regularly if I went to cheer him at the end, I would not have time to do my own stuff. He is lucky he can do it and not be at home doing housework, never mind me cheering him on.

I did the Royal Parks Half Marathon. It poured down all day and was horrible. My husband stayed in the car. I took over three hours so have done my first and last half marathon. I raised money for unicef but got freezing cold and am busy applying voltarol to my knee that has gone into spasms.

A long term runner I am not!

@DewDropsonKittens there's nothing right about Peterborough.

Do you live there @1stTimeMama

No chance am I dragging DCs out in the rain to watch anything other than their very first half marathon. Or something with a good atmosphere like the London Marathon.

It’s much more fun celebrating with people who have taken part anyway. Nice to join a running club so you can have some support and compatriots at races.

My husband does ultra marathons and I've been at the end of all of them, bar the Sahara desert one. I enjoy seeing him finish, the children join in him in the last 100m, I always get emotional.

But, if it's not your thing, and he's not fussed, then I wouldn't go. Plus, it's in Peterborough. No more consideration needed really.

Know it well do you 1stTimeMama?

@DewDropsonKittens, I did for 33 years. People do less time for murder.

@Minniemountain, unfortunately.

Ah well. I'm sure the place you live in has crap parts too.

Oh good grief no. After the first,while they're out running you get the time to yourself (and I'm the runner in this house)

There are pockets of bad in every place.

I had one of the next afternoons of my life in Peterborough. There's a lovely barge/pub on the river

God no! I wish my DH wouldn't come to mine. I did two marathons this year and each time I made it very clear he didn't need to come as it would be hoouuurrrrs! He still came, as did my youngest DS. They were bored. And wet and cold. I really could do without having to worry about my family on top of running a bloody race ! If he comes along, spends an hour or so eating a lovely cooked breakfast and reading the paper it would be OK but he never does.