To not support DH in his half marathon tomorrow

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A) it's not his first. He's an old pro
B) it's going to pour with rain all day
C) it's in Peterborough

I still feel guilty for not going to cheer him from the sidelines though.

Should I go and support him? You decide. You've got until 7am tomorrow to say Yay or Nay.

Unless it’s a special one, no, standing around is bloody boring and miserable in the rain! catch him at the end or do something nice when he’s home.

I'm doing my first half today. My husband is coming but I think I will tell him to stay in the car! I am going to take hours and he can meet me at the end!
Think I am just going to get wet as at least it isn't too cold.

You can say well done just as easily at home rather than standing on the sidelines getting wetter an wetter.

Im planning on doing my first half next year and I don't need any support. I do things for me. DP might insist but it would be so boring for him I will discourage.

DH is doing a marathon today, he does lots, I never go, it’s his hobby not mine. If he played football or rugby I wouldn’t expect to go, it’s no different.

Peterborough is a dump. YANBU

Are you tucked up in bed or did you go op?

My Ds has gone on a 10k hike today I will run him a bath and make him a tea he really likes . Support doesn’t have to be a physical presence at the event

If you do go, I suggest visiting the cathedral to keep dry. They are currently exhibiting Tim Peak's Soyuz capsule.

www.peterborough-cathedral.org.uk/home/spacecraft-opening-times.aspx

I've run two half marathons, DH brought the DC to support me in the first but didn't bother for the second. I don't blame him, it's pretty boring for them.

Given that it's miserable here right now, I'd say YANBU.

Peterborough has nice bits, especially the area where the run starts and finishes. The Peterborough haters can bugger off.

but I'd be very disappointed if they couldn't even be arsed to show up at the end with a smile and a congratulatory hug.

So they have to give up their Sundays for your hobby? My dad ran races and if my mum was working I had to
go with him - sometimes she supported him so I still had to go, and it was bloody boring as hell.

Often in a field somewhere with nowhere to go and nothing to do. I spent far too many Sunday mornings sat about waiting for my dad to finish races. Then even more waiting around at the end while he ate cake, talked to all his fellow runners and then sitting in the car home full of stinky running gear.

Races are boring for spectators. No way would I be dragged out of bed on a rainy Sunday morning to sit in the car for several hours! They can congratulate you at home!

My DH is running his first half marathon this morning and I'm not there. Feel a bit guilty but would have to take a nearly 2yo, weather is grim and I would have had to get DS up at 5.30am. He would be stuck in his pushchair all morning and neither of us would be happy. I'll be tracking his progress on the app and buying him dinner tonight to celebrate. He was there for my first (and only) half last year but we didn't have DS then!

When you said not support in the title - I pictured low level piss-taking every time he dons the lycra :).

Of course there is no need to stand around at the roadside for a couple of hours.

I have run three, and never expect anyone to be watching.

As it happens, Dsis lived en-route one time, and happened to pop out when I was passing.

My DH enters a lot of races. I don't go now, otherwise we'd spend every other weekend at race events. Yawn.

Enough with the Peterborough hate! It has its dodgy bits but also some really nice parts. Ferry Meadows country park is lovely and the cathedral is an overlooked gem. Having said that, it’s pissing it down at the moment, so not sure I’d bother!

Why are spouses supposed to watch races, but not, say, rounds of golf, or gym workouts? Stay home and fuss him later.

I'm still in bed. DS is still asleep as he has had some late school events this week!

I am feeling ever so guilty but I asked DH if he'd like us there and he laughed and said he didn't think anyone would be watching today.

I'd forgotten about the Tim Peake exhibition.

I'm quite short and I have a massive golf umbrella. If I'm wandering through the crowds I'm likely to poke someone's eye out or, at best, be annoying. I'm slightly disappointed as I've been to the Peterborough Perkins run before and they have a funfair and hotdog stands. I reckon John Lewis will be heaving!

OK. I have bacon and fresh bread ready for when he comes home and a big bag of Epsom salts for his bath, plus a bottle of fizz.

Thank you for your replies.

Just off to make another pot of tea (still feel a bit guilty though, even though it's shitty outside).

It’s so selfish if he’s done it loads of times before. First time yes. 10th one this year, no.
Demanding that someone comes and stands in the rain to watch you do something is hugely selfish.

Peterborough is bad. Although the cathedral is v nice and the museum is surprisingly interesting.

Anyway today it is pissing down with rain which will make Peterborough even worse.

Leave him alone in his madness.

I once went to support OH doing a triathlon.
It was on a Sunday miles away in the middle of nowhere. They swam in the leisure centre - no viewing gallery and closed to public- and ran then cycled around narrow country lanes.
I saw him once during the whole bore-fest, running across a wintry car park in his speedos and swimming hat, looking like an unhappy porpoise, to get to his change of clothes.
During the event I stood in the rain and cold, no refreshments, nowhere to sit, wondering what the fuck I was doing there.
He's done loads of stuff since and always goes alone. I'd advise staying at home

I've been fussing over him (from my bed) saying ie asking him if he's got his plasters at the ready. His shoes will get wet which will make his feet bleed even more so at least he's feeling I care.

High five Shannon.

We're going past the start/end on the way to swimming OP so I shall report back on the level of spectators.

Last time we were at Peterborough we stood by the cathedral precincts to wave him on. I got chatting to the people next to me so that by the time DH finally ran by there were about 20 people shouting "Come on MrAlloVera!"

But then before that, DS needed a wee and we were miles away from the nearest loo and we'd lose our viewing place, so I sent DS into some bushes. He emerged a bit later.

And then a man emerged from the same bush.

And then another man emerged from the same bush.

I quizzed DS who was adamant that he hadn't seen anyone so I think it was he who gave the couple an unwelcome surprise, rather than the other way round.

Thank you minniemountain !

Why the guilt? It’s just his hobby/choice and presumably he’s has a lot of leisure time for running, while you covered the parenting.