To not support DH in his half marathon tomorrow

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A) it's not his first. He's an old pro
B) it's going to pour with rain all day
C) it's in Peterborough

I still feel guilty for not going to cheer him from the sidelines though.

Should I go and support him? You decide. You've got until 7am tomorrow to say Yay or Nay.

Don't go. It's supposed to be horrible weather today.

That’s such a cunty thing to say. How do you know what other people think is or isn’t boring.

Have you watched a lot of :
10ks
half marathons
marathons
tris
iron man
coast to coast
5 day endurance races

I can honestly say that watching them is boring!

You can't go to the loo, not that there are any. hours by the side of the road with no access too wee.

@Holdingonbarely yes it's boring. I know from experience. In my opinion of course. However on an Internet forum the "in my opinion" bit is kind of assumed.

Don't go. Stay home and have a nice hot meal waiting for him.

I wouldn’t. My dh came to see my first half but that was because he had a history of finding some reason to not turn up and support me for anything while thinking I should support him at things. He was so used to being the main event when I asked him to be support crew for my major sport he took up the sport to join the team instead. So my first half was a bit do or die - you can come support me or you can book marriage counselling .
These days we have young kids so I support him in anything he does by facilitating him training / rehearsing.

Yes I would. I support my partner at every marathon and half that is close enough and I am free. And he does a lot!
It’s a great achievement even though he’s done 30 of them, each one is different and I like to celebrate with him

So what is your thing? Marathons is his thing, but whatever your thing is, does he or would he follow you all over the country to cheer you on?

There's no need to cheer him on! It's not like it's the Boston Marathon or something...

I watch Boston!
But since he stopped running marathons and swapped to ironman he doesn't meet the qualifying times any more.

would you want to come if you did them.how would you feel if he didn't.i wonder whether the post on here would be very different."why didn't he support me?"
I like to think id want to go.but I doubt I would either so...
could you cook him a his fave tea for when he gets back to show support in toher way.or send a pic with beer and pizza ready for his return.
just because hes doen many I still think its an amazing achievement.going to the post box for me is enough! so id like to show him I think he has done brill

everyone saying standing on the sidelines for hours?when my mum runs my dad goes but finds a café for breakie then head to the finish.could this not be an option.

does It matter if its not the bostom marathon or running the village green.if its something he worked hard on to achieve surely that's the point.

I wouldn't go. I'm a runner and DH is a cyclist. Neither of us would expect the other to spectate. If it's a nice day and nothing else to do DH has sometimes gone along to the finish of local races and it's been a lovely surprise but I would never expect it.
Agree that being in a running club is fab, lots of others with same interest and keen to race chat afterwards, also we generally arrange carshare in the club so helps with transport. And it's great to have a tribe to cheer you on and cheer others on when you are wearing the club vest.

Nay, I say.

He'll only see you for a second during the race, unless you follow him in your car.

Nay.
He's an old pro, and It'll no doubt be miserable.
Just have a nice bacon butty or one of his favorite meals waiting, and draw him a soothing bath when he gets home.
That's still supporting him - just in a different way.

I never minded when I did some of my runs alone.
I kind of liked it.

Nay, nay and thrice nay!

No. For the spectator you are literally standing around (in the rain) with nothing to do until they finish.

I go occasionally but only if the weather is good and there is food and drink available. On a day like this, forget it!

Just take an interest when he gets back and prepare a nice lunch or something.

I actually think it's pretty sad to not support a spouse in this way. I'm the athlete in our family and my DH and kids are always there at the finish. I wouldn't expect them to watch right from the off because I'm so bloody slow but I'd be very disappointed if they couldn't even be arsed to show up at the end with a smile and a congratulatory hug.

I actually think it's pretty sad to not support a spouse in this way. I'm the athlete in our family and my DH and kids are always there at the finish. I wouldn't expect them to watch right from the off because I'm so bloody slow but I'd be very disappointed if they couldn't even be arsed to show up at the end with a smile and a congratulatory hug.

So they cant have a lie in or a lazy morning because you need them to tell you how wonderful you are? How needy!

I run, not marathons or anything yet, I would never expect DH to watch me. His job is to make sure I'm fed when I get back, which is a much more important job and possibly why I'm not losing any weight

Watching people being enthusiastic about exercise makes me sleepy. Stay in bed and watch a box set.

I'm doing a half marathon today (not Peterborough though), not expecting anyone to come and cheer me on as it would be very boring for them.

YANBU. I love watching DH race but I have my limits (especially with the baby!) and tbf a half would just be a nice morning run for him, rather than a big event, as it sounds like it would be for your DH.

If it was once or rice a year maybe - but every couple of weeks? I’d have better things to do like my own hobbies.

I run, do maybe 4 or 5 races a year. I don't expect Dh and kids to come but they often want too. Usually they wave me off at the start then go for a coffee, returning to see me at the finish. It's handy as I can give Dh my stuff instead of putting it in the baggage place so I get a lucozade and a snack quickly at the end plus warm clothes. But it is their choice, I have now done enough races that it is less important to me. Good luck to your Dh today OP, hope it goes well.

Haven't RTFT.

Stay home. You can be supportive in other ways.

If I were doing something like this, I would sort-of like people there to cheer me on the very first time I ever did it. After that, I would expect them only to remember that I was doing it and be extra nice to me: words of encouragement as I left home and congratulations/commiserations when I returned. Coming home to my favourite meal would be a bonus.

DH has never been to see me race.

I was sad when it was the first, but then just got on with it. But this thread, talking about how many people go to sound how often has made me all wistful.

No, OP, you do not have to go to events which don't work for you for any reason. Your DH is very lucky that you go to so many. Support him by showing an rt, and letting him bore you rigid with running stuff for the rest of the day.

Lots of Halfs dotted round the palace today. I'm in one, and trying to work out best wet weather gear (I think answer is 'just get soaked')