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To admire Eugenie a bit more after the wedding?

159 replies

malificent7 · 13/10/2018 08:17

I had no clue about her and she has been portrayed as works by etc.
However....she purposely went for a backless dress to show off her scar and had a plastic free wedding. Aibu to admire that?

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MsLexic · 14/10/2018 18:05
Confused by comments, we don't know her. She may be nice, she may not.
DanglyBangly · 14/10/2018 18:07

I do however think she didn’t need to up it to include lots of showbizz personalities for the hell of it.

Maybe they’re her friends! How can we possibly know who she is close to in her private life.

Before Friday, I’d have said she’d never met Robbie or Ayda Williams yet it turns out she close enough to them to have their daughter as a bridesmaid.

Mingmoo · 14/10/2018 18:08

The scar looked great. In general, I like scars - DH has a few really remarkable ones from a near-fatal accident and they just remind me how lucky I am to have him. Scar-owners, you're beautiful: if Eugenie makes you feel more confident then that's a good thing she's done. Otherwise I am pretty neutral on her.

I felt that there wasn't a lot of thought about any of the wedding, to be honest, from the implications of the public carriage ride for security costs to the difficulty of folding her enormous train into a) the carriage and b) the swanky car. Beatrice did nothing throughout but stand around looking stunned. And the reading from the Great Gatsby made me cringe. Even if you haven't read the whole book, surely you can understand from the words in the actual passage that it's sneering at someone who's trying to fit in with a posh world where they don't belong?

tillytrotter1 · 14/10/2018 18:09

Three days ago no one liked her. Today she's a hero.

Perhaps demonstrating the need to have a little knowledge before opening one's mouth.

MilkTrayLimeBarrel · 14/10/2018 18:20

Oh elfies please don't even think that about William and his children - it would mean the awful Harry and Meghan would be the next in line. Cannot stand either of them.

Tootyfilou · 14/10/2018 18:24

FFS. The wedding cost the taxpayers 2 million pounds. Homeless people were moved before the wedding as not to offend the rich. How in any way does she deserve credit? They are privileged beyond words in a society where child poverty is the highest for 60 years and we have public sector workers using food banks.
Not sure who I despise most, the Royals or you fawning peasants praising her and that chinless wonder for being "amazing".

CherryPavlova · 14/10/2018 18:24

I think deliberately drawing attention to a scar was just odd and inappropriate for a wedding. She looked lovely though, with a beautiful smile. It might have been plastic free but there was a pretty large carbon footprint left in Windsor!

yawning801 · 14/10/2018 18:27

I think deliberately drawing attention to a scar was just odd and inappropriate for a wedding.

Why? If you've got it, flaunt it! Grin But seriously, I think it was a lovely message to people with any kind of scar, saying that you don't have to hide it or be ashamed of it.

CherryPavlova · 14/10/2018 18:37

Yawning801. We’ll have to disagree. I rather think it was odd and unnecessary. You don’t have to be ashamed but neither do you specifically have to draw attention to it. Smacks of ‘poor little me’ display calculated to gain public sympathies (quite effectively).

Mrseft · 14/10/2018 18:42

@CherryPavlova how does one live with a scar then? a medical thing that happened to you? Ridiculous statement. It's just a part of her body. Smacked of "poor little me" are you serious? She's a freaking princess getting married in a designer gown. Rather think you ought to have a re-think. I doubt that was her thought process.

Cambalamb · 14/10/2018 18:44

I don't think she meant it as 'poor little me.' I think she wanted to show young girls perhaps facing this surgery that the outcome will be just fine.

Peaseblossom22 · 14/10/2018 18:45

She is a patron of a scoliosis charity , her surgeon was a guest at the wedding. She knows that the role of the role family in the charity world is to use their newsworthiness to draw attention to their cause . She has done that. I don’t think she feels or acts remotely like a victim, although it is is a horrible operation , which will always affect her. She has permanent metal rods in her back and will possibly struggle as she gets older with arthritis and pregnancy for eg.

kenandbarbie · 14/10/2018 18:47

She has gone up in my estimations having seen her interviewed. I should think her job isn't very hard work, but still I imagine she brings prestige, contacts and clients to the gallery so fair enough.

I admire her showing her scar and since at least three people have said on this thread itself that it has inspired them not to cover up, then it was obviously a good thing.

Didn't the queen give up rights to the income from the crown estate in return for the income from the civil list or something? I'm not too bothered about the security costs, all state visits from foreign heads of state, concerts, sporting events cost. I'm sure the event being broadcast around the world would offset the security costs in terms of advertising and promoting the uk.

CherryPavlova · 14/10/2018 18:47

One surely just lives with the scar not have a very, very expensive dress designed specifically to show it off.
I don’t think one should be embarrassed by scars, I don’t see a need to hide them but neither do I think it’s usual to specifically put them on display. I wouldn’t choose clothes to highlight a scar.

thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 18:48

@CherryPavlova

Yawning801. We’ll have to disagree. I rather think Eugenie showing her back scar was odd and unnecessary. You don’t have to be ashamed but neither do you specifically have to draw attention to it. Smacks of ‘poor little me’ display calculated to gain public sympathies (quite effectively).

Wow, what a nasty post. Shame on you. Hmm

Your loathing for Eugenie is clear, but there is no need to be so spiteful.

thisneverendingsummer · 14/10/2018 18:50

She wasn't deliberately showing off her scar anyway.... the vast majority of wedding dresses have low backs... Why the hell should SHE have one that goes back to the nape of the neck just because some people are offended by seeing scars?! Hmm

Some people are just fucking nasty!

SillySallySingsSongs · 14/10/2018 18:51

We’ll have to disagree. I rather think Eugenie showing her back scar was odd and unnecessary. You don’t have to be ashamed but neither do you specifically have to draw attention to it. Smacks of ‘poor little me’ display calculated to gain public sympathies (quite effectively).

As someone who has similar scaring to Eugine and a DNiece who is about to have similar too I think that's a vile thing to say.

kenandbarbie · 14/10/2018 18:52

Surely the fact of drawing attention to it and actually making it a beautiful feature is the whole point of normalizing scars and helping others with scars.

SheSparkles · 14/10/2018 18:54

The carriage ride was exactly the same route as the carriage ride Edward and Sophie did on their wedding day....

QueenoftheNights · 14/10/2018 19:26

She wasn't deliberately showing off her scar anyway.

Sorry to contradict but she was. If you read about her choice of dress, that was a main requirement, as a tribute to her surgeon and other women / men who may feel ashamed of scars.

Peaseblossom22 · 14/10/2018 19:26

It wasn’tbthe Same route apparently they dodn’t Go up the long drive

Earthakitty · 14/10/2018 19:27

Yes...you want your to give yourself a good shake.
There are better people in this world to admire.
I do not understand people like you.

QueenoftheNights · 14/10/2018 19:27

The ignorance here about why she chose to show her scar is a bit worrying. There has been loads in the press about it - it was deliberate to say 'thanks' to her surgeon.

Thymeout · 14/10/2018 19:36

Eugenie is 26? Until the wedding, she and her sister have been known only for being photographed coming out of clubs, taking frequent exotic holidays and an unfortunate taste in hats.

I think the whole event was an attempt to keep up with/outdo the Sussexes. The carriage ride, the invitation lottery for the public, the guest list, the classic car, the two-day wedding party. H&M had a black American preacher. And I remember B&E looking at each other and smirking. So she has the black Archbishop of York. Top that! H&M have both had real careers and their charity work is genuine and well-documented. Suddenly we're hearing about E's scoliosis op. It's embarrassing.

Given her parents, it's not surprising, but it's a pity she hasn't developed a mind of her own.

BabyItsAWildWorld · 14/10/2018 19:42

The interview the night before the wedding changed my impression of her and her DH. When asked to describe him she talked about how kind he is and will always seek out and look after the person who is looking a bit lost and alone at a party.
I thought what a lovely characteristic to cherish in a husband. Kindness.

Then on the day he seemed so overwhelmed, nervous and in love- I'd presumed he was going to be an arrogant party boy- but he seemed a gentle soul

I think she might have chosen very well.