To buy my son a my little pony lunch bag?

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My youngest son has ASD and just gone in to year 6. He has 2 obsessions which are minecraft and my little pony.

I bought him a minecraft rucksack and lunch bag for the start of term but he’s upset because several children have the same stuff and he wants something different.

He’s begging me to get him a my little pony lunch bag (even Googled it to show me on Amazon).

I’ve explained other children may make fun of him because it’s not a ‘boys’ lunch bag but he’s adamant he wants one and doesn’t care what anyone else says.

His Dad has said no way - I might as well put a target on his back saying ‘bully me’, but I’m more inclined to think if he really likes it so what? (I don’t mean so what to the potential bullying just so what- why should he have to conform?)

What would you do?

Could you not just buy him a plastic plain lunch box and let him put stickers on it! That way he can change it to whatever he wants?

Ryan - he is OBSESSED with the pink and lilac one - I did suggest we designed his own but he wants the pink one lol

Bless him well give it a try! That's the only way to find out x

Oops sorry I called you RYAN lol RAYN even - I've had a glass of wine and everything is wobbly :) :)

I recently overheard some year 6 kids mocking someone (not in his hearing) for wearing a Minecraft t-shirt!

My DS adores MLP - he has pyjamas, a blanket, poster on his wall etc. I’d buy it.

I think he will march to the canteen with pride and a skip in his step (I hope!)

Go, kid! (Sorry. I don't know his name) Be proud of who and what you are and if others don't like it or can't accept it, it's their loss.

My eldest son is 18 now and has ASD. He started liking my little pony about the same age. Maybe a bit older. I was really upset about it but then realised how confused that made him.
He tells ppl about it to this day and moved into his uni digs a couple of weeks ago with his xbox, laptop, TV, and whole shelf of plush my little pony. 😀 He's not always going on about it and has lots of other interests, but it wasn't logical to tell him he couldn't choose to like the ponies too... And any other decent parent will tell their kids the same thing if they ask about your son and his new bag!
My son has always been different... In some ways they all are... But he takes the people that like him and accept him and leaves the people that don't... And... From what I've seen...it's meant he's only left with decent people for friends.

Mine too. His favourite is fluttershy too. :)

REALLY? REALLY? All these nice posters posting nice ways of getting him to change his mind?
He likes what he likes. It's not offensive, not sexist, not racist. It's what he likes. And surely that's the end of it.

Get it for him for Christmas or his birthday, whichever comes first.

@yousignup I agree. And all the people with really low expectations of children. Some of them are actually nice people

No, I wouldn't.

Just get it. Chances are the other kids won't notice, or if they do, won't care.

DS is a sporty boyish boy, but has a pink (it's probably more salmon) lunch box because it was closest to his favourite colour, orange. OK, not quite the same, but no-one cares.

And if he does get a hard time about it, he doesn't have to take it in again. Problem easily solved, surely.

God this thread is depressing.

Everyone saying kids should be allowed to be whoever they are, but that they are so scared of others forcing them into gender stereotyped roles they must jump in and do the bullies job for them.

So very sad.

Children learn this shit from their parents first and foremost.

Gosh victim blaming starts early.

Kids with asd can either spend huge energy masking their traits and quirky preferences or they can grow up feeling OK being themselves. But masking never completely works. We will always seem a bit 'off'. We will always be targets for bullies.
That is not our fault.

Literally the one behaviour we can adopt that makes bullies give up quicker is that shrugging off of someone else's opinions of us.

Parents being the people with adverse opinions in the first place will completely get in the way of developing that kind of resilience.

Too late as you've already bought it but I agree with the posters who said he already had a perfectly good one. Nothing to do with gender (I have a 6 year old ds obsessed with lol, shopkins etc) - I just would replace an item if it didn't need replacing.

MinorRSole ye that is another very good point. I wouldn't replace something that had nothing wrong with it.

I don't think there is anything wrong with having a spare, he will still have his minecraft lunch bag - it's not like I will be throwing it out

I agree with his dad!

Aw bless his little heart - imagine his face when he sees it! Maybe the others will say something, and if they do, maybe it'll make him not want it at school. My little boy loves MLP - who cares? He has the stuff at home he plays with, and school stuff that he doesn't feel so embarressed about - your son can always do the same if he wants. And if he's fine with it, good for him :)

Very pleased you're getting him the lunch box he wants.
My daughter had Bob the Builder and John Deere ones.

Men and boys likening my little pony is common they are known as Bronys my son and his best friend plus lot is NTs at primary likes them. They have grown out of it at 14 but MLP is a well know boys interest.