To think very odd police came around because ADULT student hasn't been going to college?

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I'm not talking 18 yo sixth form student. This is my 22 year old daughter who is doing a college course. Hasn't turned up for 3 days and hasn't been able to contact her (I was unaware of this) but they sent the police around? She's 22!

I hope you scolded her. What happened next? Why didn’t she go into class? Her behaviour is unacceptable.

Is he college course free? Education is eye-wateringky expensive in countries like the US. She should know how lucky she is.

Dds college has a tonne of ways of contacting students the have a portal email 3 phone numbers and whatsapp ...

So if a person doesn't have any those or even want them, they can't enrole?.

*SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires she's 22, not living in 1922. I'm pretty sure she'd have at least one contact number, would have access to email, mobile phone/landline. On the off chance she didn't her mum could have accessed a phone box or even sent a note in the post within 3 days. God forbid an adult actually thinks - Hmmm, maybe I should ring in sick vs meh can't be arsed. Sounds like the college tried to make contact and were ignored....

I think it's great that they checked up on her but I guess it depends what type of course it is, and whether it requires daily attendance and a register is taken. For some of my modules at university I only went to half the lectures and tutorials. If you missed two tutorials in a row then you might get in trouble, but this would be over a course of two weeks not three days. Lecturers had no idea who was and wasn't in their lectures of 150 people.

I work in a college. We would get very worried about a learner who was not contactable for days. If they were doing a course with a workplace element the employer would be both annoyed and anxious. Plus, funding for just about all courses is dependent on attendance. If attendance falls below a certain threshold, no funding. So many reasons to follow up. It’s astonishing that any adult can think it’s acceptable not to contact a college if they can’t attend, but sadly not unusual.

Why was she not contactable?

Tbh i suspect sge wasn't the only one that was uncontable ..... ie im pretty sure the college would have tried to contact you! So why didnt you respond. The college wouldnt have just called the police. They would have tried every means possiable to contact your daughter even if tyat meant coming to you.

So not only have you not told your daughter that its a polite and needed thing to contact college when your not goibg in bit you seem to tgink its ok to not answer calls

Ok ty FlyingM

I don't think that's strange at all. If she was supposed to be somewhere and didn't turn up for three days, didn't contact them and didn't answer messages then asking the police to check on her in case something has happened sounds sensible, whatever her age.

SteamTrainsRealAlesandOpenFires Sorry, hopefully that didn't sound snippy towards you. But I do think at 22, OP's Dd will have at least one option getting in touch with the college if she'd tried to. I agree not everyone necessarily has access internet connection/mobile phones. But if she was employed she couldn't just not inform she wouldn't be in. I agree with other pp's at least they were checking up on OP's Dd welfare which can only be a good thing.

And if you hadn't known where she was, would it still be an overreaction?

I think it’s OTT, she must have put you or someone down as an emergency contact incase of accident or incident whilst in attendance? Did the college not try to contact her emergency contacts first?

Uni has a duty of care towards students, Tesco, as far as I’m aware, will not send police if I’m not there for my Friday shop!
Not the same thing at all Yabbers.

Welfare yes good and tick to the college

Another thought, is she an overseas student? Sometimes colleges get into hot water if they accept overseas students and they never turn up, so just using it as an excuse to be in the country - essentially illegally - so colleges need to report these students who don't show up - could it be this?

Glad that you acknowledge that your 22 year old daughter is not a child, now you just need to get across to her, not to act like one. She’s to old to be bunking off.

The college I attend the FT students are only in 3 days and that’s a lot of work to be missed. I missed ine exonimics class and it’s a bastard to catch up. Your daughter would’ve been given the student handbook which will
Have the college attendance policy in. Her funding will be dependent on attendance as well so the college did the right thing. Why was your daughter uncontactable? Why didn’t she email her guidance lecturer?

Don't see what the issue is.

She couldn't be contacted for 3 days. They have a duty of care and raised their concerns.

Let's be honest though. It's not that they couldn't contact her. She was avoiding contact with them. Which begs the question, why is she avoiding contact. She will probably have a mobile, or OP does, or a house phone. As far as they could have been aware, it was because there was a serious issue.

Ok teach your dd that as an adult she has responsibilities. One of those is to keep in touch with college if she isn't attending.

Why on earth didn’t she let college know she wasn’t going in? So much police time and college time spent on this non-issue and you seem really ungrateful.

Would you call Tesco to say you weren’t coming this week?

What a stupid comparison. Can you not actually see the difference between college and a shop you go in. Tesco staff don't have a duty of care to ensure their regular shoppers come in and check their welfare. If someone was in the shop and in danger, they would help. But they don't ask customers to check in.

Tescos provide goods and services for money. They don't have a legal requirement to have a duty of care. They aren't expected to be concerned if you miss this week's offers, or have to put a plan in place to help you catch up on the offers if you miss a week.

And chances are that she will have signed a student charter or something of the like.

So if a person doesn't have any those or even want them, they can't enrole?

I have no idea what you are talking about and why you are snippy. Educational institutes need a point of contact all the things I pointed out were offered by a college

im going against the grain here as I think this is very odd and ott!

I think it's brilliant.

Imagine if something had happened and they hadn't contacted anyone.

I don't know why people think it's odd or OTT.

If I had an employee who hadn't turned up to work for 3 days, I would ring next of kin to find out if everything was ok!

More's to the point, why hasn't she gone in for 3 days?

Are you not furious with her? I would be!

There must be a back story