To think very odd police came around because ADULT student hasn't been going to college?

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I'm not talking 18 yo sixth form student. This is my 22 year old daughter who is doing a college course. Hasn't turned up for 3 days and hasn't been able to contact her (I was unaware of this) but they sent the police around? She's 22!

Friends colleague didn’t turn up for work on Monday morning. By Monday afternoon the police had done a welfare check and found her dead at home. She was with her three year old twins who were thankfully fine. Estimated she died in her sleep Sunday night.

Thank goodness for robust and correctly implemented safeguarding procedures.

You're not very forthcoming with info.
Does she live with you?
Did she have missed calls from college?
Had the college tried the address themselves before informing the police?
Had they tried to call anyone else, presuming dd has put an emergency contact down on her enrolment forms?

This just sounds like normal routine procedure to me whether someone is mentally ill or not.

If I hadn’t turned up at work for three days, and they had been unable to contact my husband who is down as my next of kin, then I would hope someone would check I wasn’t lying dead or very ill somewhere.

Imagine the potential alternative, young person missing, college knew they hadn’t came in, and didn’t bother to raise the alarm.

My workplace would do the same. 3 days missing with no contact, anything could have happened. As a 22 year old they might not have realised she still lived with her parents. Its not due to her being absent as there is no legal requirement for her to be there it was because they were concerned for her welfare.

If they've been unable to contact her for three days and she's not bothered to contact them I can see why they've called the police. You seem surprisingly unbothered by the fact she's stayed home for three days without contacting college. If she's ill then she is right to stay home but she should be calling in, just as she'd have to if she was working.

If she's ill then she is right to stay home but she should be calling in

Really? To college? I’m pretty sure I never called in sick to uni. Employment is different because they are paying you. School is different because it’s a legal requirement. But a student is effectively just a customer of the college. Would you call Tesco to say you weren’t coming this week?

My cousin didn’t turn up for work one day. They couldn’t contact her. They phoned her dad. He broke into her flat and she had hung herself.

It’s good that they do this. They could just do nothing.

@Yabbers yes you should call into college they have a duty of care just the same as school. Also you're not a customer you've signed a contract with them to meet their requirements - just like a job. Not notifying can become a safeguarding concern and is just damned rude.

yabbers

College is a place where you enrol on a course and there is an expectation that you will attend.

Tesco is a fucking supermarket.

I feel embarrassed for you to consider college and Tesco a reasonable comparison.

So do you think the police and the wider world should ignore it if a person goes unseen and unheard from in days, despite having a usual pattern? Jesus this is not something to be annoyed about.

They didn't know you were there.

We had someone not turn up to work for several days. Couldn't get hold of her. No answer form her emergency contact number either. If I hadn't managed to track down her parents we would have called the police too. Turned out she had some mental health issues and couldn't cope with work.

Why couldn't the college contact her? Did they have her phone number? Did they ring it?

I think it’s good they popped round. Good safeguarding and care

I feel embarrassed for you to consider college and Tesco a reasonable comparison.

Aww bless, feeling embarrassment for a complete stranger because you don’t understand a pretty simple concept. What a peach!

Expectation v obligation, very different things. Students are consumers.

3 days without any contact they were right to raise a concern. This isn't an attendance check is it this is a welfare check she could be hurt, missing anything really! I'm impressed the college are taking their duty of care seriously! I would be less annoyed at them and more annoyed that dd went awol without telling them it isnt exactly hard to get in touch with people in this day and age!

you've signed a contract with them to meet their requirements - just like a job

Unless the OP can confirm there is an actual contract which says they must phone in then there is no such obligation.

Aww bless, feeling embarrassment for a complete stranger because you don’t understand a pretty simple concept. What a peach

Whatever you were trying to do there didn't work. You just look more like a twat.

College and Tesco attendance are not comparable. Regardless of the use of the word 'consumer'

@Yabbers it's standard practice for an Educational institution to get anyone enrolling to sign to agree to abide by the student rules/handbook/expectations whatever phrasing you would like. Notifying of an absence is a basic policy - they have signed a contract.

Plus ignoring the MANY examples on this thread never mind the wider world that show why it is important for colleges, universities, work places etc to honour that duty of care. I repeat it's damned rude of someone not to notify if they're not going to attend when they are expected to do so.

In reality she probably could have rattled off a 30 sec email to her tutor to say she was ill. I'd say it was more common courtesy. Plus someone failing to attend for 3 days in a group of say 8-15 would be pretty noticeable. I'd imagine a tutor asked if anyone had heard from her and flagged it up as everyone stated no.

I agree that it's a bit excessive UNLESS they had specific reason to be concerned, e.g. she was known to be vulnerable or someone had observed that she seemed distressed before her disappearance.

It's great that they do these checks.

Look at poor Elizabeth Fritzl. Her father told everyone she had ran away and they all believed him, no questions asked.

safe beats sorry.Is not what previously happened-step forward.is she ok?

If she'd been lying dead for a week or two, there'd be uproar that college didn't contact her.

Organisations like schools, colleges and places of employment have a duty of care....and if someone disappears, of course they need to check up!

Being so flakey at the start of the academic year doesn't bode well for successfully finishing the course.

Plus it's very different if she's studying say; Maths,English, Psychology, vs a vocational course such as; hair & beauty, or childcare. The latter requires completing practice based hours. Three days off if she couldn't be arsed/ill but not bothered to ring in would be viewed very differently in the vocational courses.