Husband has blocked me on social media?!

[LondonMummy1987]

Apologies in advance if I'm just being incredibly stupid or naive or paranoid! I'm not sure if i'm mad and unreasonable or not!

So I have just gone to upload a photo onto instagram, and tag my husband in it as it is a picture of our sons. I couldn't tag him.
I thought maybe he has deleted his instagram account (despite the fact that he uses it alot) so I searched for him and it came up that the account is private and I need to request to follow. (I couldn't see anything, not his bio or how many photos/followers he has)
I then logged out of insta and searched for him, and it came up that the account is private but did state how many posts/followers he has, as well as his bio.

The bio is another worry. It used to say "happily married father of two", now it just says "father of two".

Am I wrong to worry?! I don't know what to do. I haven't confronted him as we are both at work and he will just change it and make me out to be a nutter!

I'd start searching Tinder or POF. It does sound like he's upto something, sorry OP

There is another lady on here who this happened to, he blocked her on Instagram and it led to her finding out he was cheating.

I'd say this is pretty brazen too op, he knows you're going to find out so he's just prompting the discussion.

A simple Google search might show something, especially images....

It sounds particularly suspicious because of your previous interactions with him and the fact that he turns it back on you.

I'd probably go in all guns blazing, but you're better off getting copies of legal documents and bills now. Be a step ahead.

Op you can easily make another insa account and flip between the two on the app - I have a professional one as well as personal.

Might you need to set up your own anonymous insta account?? Maybe something to do with an interest he has or his work.?

Take the day off work. Collect all your financial papers, change the locks and pack a bag for him, so that when you confront him you can kick him out if you need to.

Agree with Honeyroar - be prepared as much as you can. Protect yourself.

Yeah, I thought this. How does he think he'll pass it off?

Probably by gaslighting her and making out she is paranoid in the hopes to shut her down.

This is why I would advise the long game/fake account, unless you are willing to leave him based on this alone (which would be totally acceptable, he sounds like an arse).

My fear OP, is that 'he will make out like you are a nutter' and you might believe him, which is why I would suggest getting more proof if possible so that it is less likely to happen

I doubt he wants to pass it off. He's blocked her and changed his bio, then he's ready to take the discussion.

And yes, definitely get copies of documents, bills etc before confronting him, no matter what route you go down.

I agree it doesn’t sound good. You are not actually blocked though. As someone mentioned previously if he had blocked you his account would be invisible to you

Op said she couldn’t find him in her search so it does sound like she’s been blocked.

He's being very blatant, isn't he? Looks like he's angling for a huge row so he feels justified in leaving you.

What do you plan to do OP?
Oysterbabe.... really?
this is someone life.. its not for your entertainment

I hope it's all innocent but...

I know of a man having affair who set up FB account in alternative format of their name, think James/Jim but not that.

@cannotfindanickname
instagram blocking means you just can't see their details/photos on account, you can still see the account - it's not the same as facebook blocking

Sorry, OP.

He's blatantly erasing you from his social media profiles.
He's erased your friends and family from his social media profiles.
He's changed his bio to erase you specifically.
He's blocked you.
He keeps his phone close.

He's cheating, looking to cheat and/or on his way out of the marriage...

Do what others have suggested, but do it smart: fake account, fake picture, and try to friend some of his 'friends' that aren't tied to you, then try to friend him as well.

And start looking at your financial statements and accounts.

Very weird.

@janejane2
Ok. I didn’t realise- I thought it was the same as Facebook

Really strange. I agree with pps, I would log in from somewhere else, as someone else, and see what you can find.

@cannotfindanickname

ha its ok. i have 3 instagram accounts, so i'm pretty savvied up on these things... 1 account is purely for investigative purposes for myself and friends... sad i know, but this is the world we live in haha!

If you set up a fake profile/spy in any way/lie to extract information/ plan an exit strategy, your relationship is over anyway.

Either you find out he is cheating and then you end it, or you find out it was a misunderstanding, and he ends the relationship for you due to YOUR deceit.

Have a good think before allowing yourself to be being egged on by popcorn holding MNers, some of whom simply need fireworks to brighten up their day and don't care about you in any way.

Asking him why he's 'blocked'* you on IG would far and away be the least mental option here, and will provide a path forward.

*regardless of whether this is strictly the case

Oh op, I feel for you.

Do you have a FB account? Can you search for his email address or mobile number and see what comes up. He might have a fake name.

Another one whose ExH announced he was coming off all forms of social media, mind said it was for his “mental health”.

Rumbled him when he’d left it logged in on the family pc, a blocked list consisting of only women when everything else had been wiped. Tried to gaslight me, but coupled with the fact he flipped when I innocently picked up his phone one day I wasn’t letting it go. The truth all came pouring out and the thing I felt most wasn’t upset, it was relief.

I can’t see an innocent explanation for this but I hop OP is ok, it’s an awful thing to deal with.

Changing his bio and removing 'happily married'. Big red flag. That's an intentional act. He had to choose to change his bio. That's worrying.