To think he might be sexist/misogynistic?

[MissBanner]

I’m beginning to think a guy I have been seeing might be a bit sexist/misogynistic. A few examples:

1. He showed me a picture of a girl his friend had tried to set him up with. She was quite dolled up and wearing a low-cut, tight dress - obviously about to go out for the night. He said, “She doesn’t look my type - don’t know where she’s been”.

1. Said his ex-wife felt left out of his life because he was so devoted to his job and said “I think it would have been better if we had had a child as she would have had something to do”. (She also had a job )

1. Says he doesn’t like women swearing.

1. Said when he divorced it was hard living on his own as he’d never had to do any cleaning or cooking or anything.

What do you think? Am I being over-sensitive or are these red flags?

He sounds like a right catch!
Best left alone I think before you get too attached.

Massive red flags. He sounds awful.

He really doesn’t sound nice at all.

he sounds like a rubbish husband, I bet his ex wife is so happy she's no longer married to this awful sounding person, I'd end it now, he's giving lots of hints on how things will be if you stay together

Yes he is, OP. Massively so.

Number 2 and 4, RUN RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN!!! 🏃‍♂️

Oh, op... You really have to ask? He's an utter knob. Run for your life.

Bloody hell op!?
I can’t believe you’re even asking this. He sounds like a major grade1 tosser

Ugh.

The hills are that way >>>>>>>>>>>>>

Oh God. He’s not even old, he’s only 40.

It was #1, saying “I don’t know where she’s been”, that I really didn’t like.

I'd leave him for number 4 alone. He knows where a wowan's place is...

Only #1?

Unless you're just after the occasional shag, run.

LTB, and I hardly ever say that.

FUCKING RUN

Honestly can’t believe you have to ask, he’s clearly fucking with your boundaries already!
RUN FAR RUN FAST AND DONT LOOK BACK.

#1. You do realise he was doing two things there.
1 Telling you, "I could have this."
This, in his head, tells you you need to step up in looking like a woman should.
This is vile. But then,
2 I don't value women who are immodest in their lifestyle and or sexually comfortable.
Double vile.

As is the checking you out for conformability.

You have to ask?
Every one of tjose statements is telling you who he is amd what he thinks about keeping women in thier place.

Txt him. "Realised i dont want a sexist, misogynist self important pratt in my life. Bye."

Run. Really fucking fast.

#1 should be enough, as well as being disrespectful about some woman he doesn't even know, he is already trying to manipulate you via triangulation and making you feel insecure.

Alongside the others, well...

I can't believe you even need to ask.

Are you actually being serious?!

Regarding #1, I don’t think he was trying to make me feel bad by showing me the photo of her (it was before anything had happened between us) it was more that he basically seemed to be saying she looked like a “slut” or something that I didn’t like.

Either way missbanner it was tacky and shite. The not allowed to swear bit is also odd, unless he doesn't swear at all?

God. I'd be long gone.

Dating is a chance to decide if someone is right for you or not -based on your own likes/values etc. It isn't an imperative to be nice to slightly crappy men because they aren't quite crappy enough.

Tbh OP, I'd worry why you needed to ask. You clearly have a radar for shit but then doubt yourself when responding to it. Maybe ask yourself why?

@VforVienetta He does swear but says he tries not to swear in front of women .

There's enough red flags there for a parade. Ditch him OP, he'll make you miserable.