OPs Being Terrified of Upsetting the Regulars

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Every time I see an OP tentatively promising to “try not to dripfeed” or insisting that “this isn’t a reverse” or a “stealth boast” that they’re conditioned by our little nest of vipers to format their question to suit the MN masses? I cringe when a non-regular gets torn to pieces by old MNetters for breaking these cardinal yet unwritten rules. AIBU to be ready to be bitten by vipers for said view? 🐍

PlinkPlink I felt exactly the same, I was very intimidated by some of the posters and felt like a tit half the time. It’s worth persisting, and I think a lot of the time when they are a bit blunt with newbies it’s because of the amount of trolls that haunt those threads.
If you ever see me on one give me a wave and I’ll be happy to fill you in.

YANBU

I don't think there's many 'regulars' on MN anymore. Posters have become more aware of how easy it is to identify yourself on line, so I think more of us namechange regularly to avoid leading a trail.

I remember one fantastic 'regular' from a few years back called LaQueen. She was like marmite and most posters either loved or hated her. But boy did she have style and wit and class. I would love to see her elegantly, but decisively, put some of the nasty thugs who
have been posting on MN recently well and truly in their place.

Lydiaatthebarre Is that you LeQ?

Great replies. As always in AIBU a real split. Can I just say that I never mentioned the word “clique?”

I just feel really sorry for new OPs who ask an innocent question (which may have taken them a lot of courage to ask) only to be to.d “Oh God this topic has been done to death” or “stop dripfeeding” or “stealth boast”. I can take AIBU but I feel shady on some OPs!

I don;t thin it is quite as bad as it used to be. When Mn was smaller there were a few posters who had the reputation of if you weren;t in their clique you were basically dismissed.
Their every utterance however mundane was greeted with shrieks of wonderment or wild mirth. The cries for their threads to go instantly into classics could be heard across continents.
If you dared to cross them you were roundly chastised by their sycophantic minions.

Fortunately most of them have gone to pastures new or changed thier names because even they were getting fed up of their leagues of drooling cronies spitting coffee all over thier own keybpards or soiling themselves with manic laughter over gems such as 'aren't people in supermarkets awful fnahfnahfnah yaaaah ?'

I think it's got slightly more broad spectrum than it used to be, thank God. And it's a real shame if new people feel intimidated - I'd say just don't be; - ignore nasties, you'll soon pick up the unwritten rules, mad as most of them are.

You've found me out GreatDuck

Seriously, no I'm not. Don't have her style.

I don't know. I do think it's rude when posters start in on how people should be presenting their worries in a more confirmative manner but, on the upside, usually there is always someone around to tell them to fuck off.

on the upside, usually there is always someone around to tell them to fuck off

Nothing surer

I think some posters have never mentally left primary school - delighted when somebody breaks a 'rule' so that they can go 'ooh, ooh, you're not allowed do it that way, ooh, I'm telling'.

Thank you @YeTalkShiteHen

I've been clicking on to them ever since I joined and had the sense to ask my DSis what on earth was going on before asking MN (knowing full well I'd get devoured by the vipers 😂). I understood then it was such a complex issue.

Now, I pretty much click off straightaway especially if there's acronyms in there 😂😂 Don't know what's going on but I keep clicking to see of there's a way in. If you're there, I'll join in and give you a shout

What with all the name changing going on round here you never know who's who anyway

Some of the so called 'MN royalty used to behave like playground bullies and it was really nasty at times*

A few still do. I've noticed more posters are calling them out on their behaviour now instead of putting up with their shitty comments.

In the over 10 years I've been here - the 'regulars' or (boak) mn royalty do change; at the moment I can't see too many on AIBU.

Don't let em faze you - they come and go. But you don't have to.

There is a poster called Bluntest! Lol

MN royalty indeed. Who do those people think they are!?! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣

People drip feed not because they are scared or forget, they do it to try and manipulate responses because more often or not the ‘drip feed’ would have a major impact on the responses which they just aren’t ready to hear
This ^^

What I personally find a bit annoying is when someone says 'trying not to drop feed' only to do a spectacular drip feed which clearly would change the advice given.

Most sensible people can tell the difference between useful information in a post and a stealth boast.

The stealth boasts are often 'Here's a basic dilemma I'm having with Jane where one of us is being unreasonable...(the OP is unreasonable). But I'm going to mention my flash holiday, the fact I've just pulled both children out of the local school to go private and tols Jane it's because there's no way I could have my child socialising with children with no aspiration. AIBU to think that it's a class difference?'
The whole post is designed to get 'OP she's clearly jealous of you, people hate children who at bright, people have an issue with private schools, you can't buy class. Etc.

The reality is none of the wealth signifiers are relevant to whether the OP is unreasonable. It's a bit stealth boasty dressed up as concern.

How do you know who the regulars are? I've been here 3 years and only recognise about 4 😂

The TAAT rule is a fucking nonsense rule.

Agreed. I'm also not a fan of threads being zapped when they get out of hand. Most forums just lock them.

I think reverses are annoying because they're disingenuous. And pointless.

It's not the 'clique' that it used to be. The Queen Bee's who clearly thought they ran the place a few years back are not as visible nowadays. Either moved on, got bored or grown up and name changed. If you weren't part of the Queen Bee's little clique a few years back, you were generally ignored.

GreatDuckCookery
Probably a sock puppet Silvery grinwink

I first read that as cock puppet which puzzled me a bit until I read it again

Am I the only one pondering whether llama socks are socks for llamas or socks for humans made from llama yarn?

Or socks for llamas made from llama yarn.

Ha! Now a cock puppet is something I wouldn't want to see

MN is very different from when I joined (2011). It went through a real spike of people name changing to similar nicknames then trolling the hell out of the boards. I swear at one point there was (made up NN for example), LaRoux, TheLaRoux, OrigionalLaRoux, LaLaRoux. Etc. Absoloutley bloody ridiculous.

I n/c every couple of months as its too easy to make yourself recognisable IRL if you continually post under the same name.