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to worry about DH?

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ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 09:17

I'm committing the MN cardinal sin of posting in AIBU for traffic.

DH suffers from migraines and seemed to go down with one last Thursday, a really bad one. It hasn't followed the normal pattern and he has remained at a high level of pain since Friday. He cannot tolerate moving, talking, any light. I phoned NHS Direct at 3am on Monday when he was incoherent with pain and they told me about NICE fever guidelines (he hasn't got a fever) and we saw the emergency GP later that day who prescribed Tramadol which just made him itch.

Nothing has worked. The tramadol, aspirin, codeine, ibuprofen, migril, paracetamol (not all at the same time, tried different things according to advice). Not even taken off the edge.

Today he's started vomiting violently.

We have another appointment at 11am.

What is it? This is not a migraine. It's just not fitting his lifelong pattern. 20 years together and he's actually called in sick for the very first time.

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dolphinhusband · 10/10/2018 23:37

I'm So sorry to hear that Thanks I hope he gets better soon op.

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ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 23:41

They've sent me home which I hope is a good sign. They need to transfer him to Addenbrooks for treatment but there are no beds tonight so will be tomorrow. Again, good that they're not panicking?

I've no idea how it's happened. Well remembered Yippee. He was knocked off his push bike by a woman doing 50mph. Bike frame was shorn in half so quite an impact. Could it be that so many years later? It just seems so spectacularly out of the blue.

They knew from the LP it was a bleed and they reviewed the CT and spotted it. I'm guessing it's small?

No idea what happens now or how it's treated and I won't Google.

Thank you for being lovely all of you. It really helps to be able to talk. I'm utterly shattered. I'm packing bags for the DC and bags for DH with no clue of how long this might go on for.

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ilovegin112 · 10/10/2018 23:44

Sending hugs to you and your family x

TattyCat · 10/10/2018 23:46

Sorry to hear that Op. I'm no expert, but having been through it with my friend, there can be a positive outcome.

Bleed occurred Wednesday
No help until Monday morning then a Drs appt
Dr sent to nearest RAF hospital (for some odd reason) on the Monday
Lumbar puncture carried out on the Wednesday (so a week later)
Transfer to the John Radcliffe in Oxford the same day and operated on on the Saturday, where they found, and fixed, a further 3 potential aneurysms.

Lots of head swelling and it wasn't a pretty sight and the stubborn git ended up in intensive care because he had a little hissy fit at not being able to get to the toilet when he needed, so he ripped all his 'drips' out and went in the nearest sink (um, that was messy!). It then settled down after a few days and he started recovery.

I think the positive point I'm trying to get across is that if it occurred last week and he's still here, then it's a good sign. They'll operate; he'll come through it.

Floaty2018 · 10/10/2018 23:47

OP you have handled this all brilliantly so far. Hang in there, and wishing your DH a speedy recovery. Flowers

TattyCat · 10/10/2018 23:48

Could it be that so many years later? It just seems so spectacularly out of the blue.

Yes. A serious knock to the bonce can sit for a very long time, if not forever, before 'bursting'. Some do, some don't.

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ShowOfHands · 10/10/2018 23:57

The headache came on very suddenly, woke him up and he said it felt like he'd been shot. I'm guessing it "popped" then. But he's driven and done two full shifts at work since then. Bloody hell. He's the most ridiculous man.

Is it definitely surgery to treat it? I don't want to Google.

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FlibbertyGiblets · 11/10/2018 00:02

Showy good heavens what a pickle trying hard not to shout OMG Showy bloody hell how terrifying your poor husband OMG OMG Really glad you've been sent home. After packing the bags have a bite to eat. Something easy, porridge, crackers and cheese, a bowl of soup. Phone on charge, teeth, bed. You won't sleep much but resting up will help you. Much love to you.

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ShowOfHands · 11/10/2018 00:04

I have toast with jam 😊

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Osirus · 11/10/2018 00:04

He’s very lucky it’s been found and he’s absolutely in the best place.

Good luck, and I hope he recovers quickly.

FlibbertyGiblets · 11/10/2018 00:06

Mmmmmm toast with jam.

MovingThisYearHopefully · 11/10/2018 00:10

So glad he got seen & is now in the best possible place. ((Hugs))

HooseRice85 · 11/10/2018 00:19

Just read your thread OP. My uncle had a bleed on his brain and described it the same way. It just went pop and then it was excruciating.

He’s fine now x

TattyCat · 11/10/2018 00:23

My friend described it as being hit on the back of the head with a frying pan! He was in the supermarket at lunchtime at the time, with another friend, and he immediately threw up. The sickness is why we all thought it was a nasty virus and he went home on that basis.

I'm guessing that because your DH managed to carry on working for a while they'll fix him and he'll recover but it's likely that they'll operate. Don't be shocked - he'll not look a pretty sight for a while but any swelling of the head will soon return to normal.

He stands a good chance of recovery, because it didn't get him when it happened.

kateandme · 11/10/2018 00:23

oh god I came on when you first posted op and was hoping aftr all the "go to a&e" "waiting for gp" pages! that it would be a case of migraine that needed more treatment :( you poor things im so sorry.
but they've spotted it,they are sorting it so that's brilliant.
keep as calm as you can.ask all the questions you need.
my dad had a clot and embolism it travelled to his heart after being knowcked over by a man on his bike.its really scary.what we found helpful over the coming days was to have a notepad handy so we and dad could note down anything we needed to remember or ask the docs as emotions and thoughts can seem all over the place.

also we had to take charge quite a lot after the initial treatment was done they kind of just left him to it in bed where he got another infection.so fingers crossed you hospital team are better.

rest tonight now.even if you think you cant sleep go to bed with the mind of lying quitly.ur body needs to regroup and rest.
do you have people to support you in rl.come back if you need more shoulders to talk cry/talk to eh.
big hugs to you both.youve done amazingly today it must be quite overwhelming.xx

kateandme · 11/10/2018 00:26

if they do operate remember the head bruises like nothing else.
think of all those after plastic surgery photos!but it will go down time with time and care.

GreyHare · 11/10/2018 00:34

Oh OP I'm sorry, my Mum presented in very much the same way as your husband, sudden onset of migraine, violently threw up and then we left her be for a day or two or three as she was so convinced it was a migraine but she wasn't improving and her light sensitivity was getting worse, she was quickly seen in A&E and diagnosed with a sub arachnoid haemorrhage she was in hospital for over 3 weeks and still had to have a few months off work, but she fully recovered and didn't need surgery in the end, that was over 10 years ago and she is absolutely fine now, apart from not being able to look up without wanting to fall over.

Ilovemypantry · 11/10/2018 00:44

Wishing your DH a speedy recovery and hugs for you 💐

DancelikeEmmaGoldman · 11/10/2018 03:26

Friend of mine had serious migraines, ended up being diagnosed with a bleed in the brain. That was over a decade ago and he’s fine. Treatment worked and has not had a recurrence. Having picked it up, I’m sure your husband will make a good recovery.

SavageBeauty73 · 11/10/2018 04:03

Wishing your DH a speedy recovery.

ohfourfoxache · 11/10/2018 04:15

Bloody hell what a worry Shock

Try to get as much rest as you can, you’re in for a busy time

SilverHairedCat · 11/10/2018 06:44

Good luck to the stubborn sod 😊 Seriously though, I hope you're both getting some much needed rest.

sunshinewithabitofdrizzle · 11/10/2018 07:06

Just saw your update, I'm glad they've found what it is and now he can get it fixed/treated. Good luck to him and you for what's to come.

FaithInfinity · 11/10/2018 07:51

They wI’ll probably want to treat in the next couple of days or so...my Dad’s friend had this and she was on holiday and they had to medi-vac her home. She had a stent put in. If it was very urgent they would just take him for surgery and sort the bed out later (I work in theatres and we’ve had patients in Recovery for 24 hours waiting for a bed space).

I’d pack enough stuff for a week or so. See how it goes. Well done for eating. Brew Cake Flowers for you.

notWORKzilla · 11/10/2018 07:52

Best of luck to you and your DH ShowOfHands
I hope they've found a bed for him and are moving him today

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