To correct this?

[TrainsandDiggers]

If your title was Dr and your child’s teacher kept referring to you as Mrs (a fair enough assumption on their part), would you correct them? And if you did, would you sound like you’re a bit up yourself? I’m aware of people correcting to Ms, Miss or Mrs, but not to anything else. TIA

In a school I once worked a member of staff insisted that children address them as doctor rather than the standard sir/miss that kids use. The kids thought that teacher was an idiot and took the piss out of the doctor thing quite a lot.

Really? For chemistry and physics we had Dr Smith at secondary school. No one took the piss.

Probably wrong to think this but I've always thought people who insisted on being called doctor because they have a doctorate in something not medical, like literature, are knobs. Sorry

It's less goady.

So anyone who disagrees with you is goady? Right.

Apology rescinded Dr Monkey!

I think the tendency to mock people who have a title as the result of a PhD is depressing, and I say that as a university dropout.

If you’ve earned the title why aren’t you entitled to use it?

Nobody mocks a newlywed who is excited about being Mrs and that’s not an achievement!

In a school I once worked a member of staff insisted that children address them as doctor rather than the standard sir/miss that kids use. The kids thought that teacher was an idiot and took the piss out of the doctor thing quite a lot Really? They had a very well qualified teacher and thought it was funny?

That is truly fucking depressing!

Havaina

Not sure where you sit in an office has anything to do with it. In my field, most of the offices are open plan and people hot desk...and many of those people are on salaries of far more than 300k, irrespective of their titles.

Kids use Sir or Miss. They rarely say Mrs (and those who are Mrs do not make a flaming fuss!)
As for Doctor, wow that one definitely does not trip off the tongue.🤣 No wonder he was a figure of fun!

Chanelprincess

My point is that people are more egalitarian and not hung up on how they should be addressed, regardless of their salary/achievement. Of course many people will be on more than 300k, that's not the issue.

Havaina

Yes, but you surely don't believe that we sit in an office and expect our colleagues to use our professional titles? We use first names just the same as you do in your field. I'm always careful to use a person's correct title when necessary because I believe it's a matter of respect - it's irrelevant whether that title's earned or otherwise.

I don't believe that, you're right. But then why expect people in day to day life, outside of your professional life, like your child's teacher, to address you as Dr?

Havaina

Yes, I completely agree in that case. It's totally irrelevant and I'd be far more comfortable using Chanel. That said, I do like my title to be correct if (and only if) I'm asked. I didn't like being called Mrs before I was married though, so the same applies.

Yes, I agree that if people ask for your title, they should use it correctly.

Do what you like!
Some people may show you more respect, some won't care one way or the other and some will judge you in a negative way.

Can I be title-less for the purposes of this call?

I'd prefer to be title-less for pretty much every purpose. It's very often not an option that others allow me, particularly when it comes to online forms.

You've worked hard and are officially a Dr. That's great, but IMO expecting small children on a trip to call you Dr. TrainsandDiggers is a bit.. knobbish.

Well you could correct, but it would be petty. My dear botox injector is a qualified surgeon from Co Clare, he insists I can him by his first name, he said it is not necessary unless he is in a surgical position.

I recently complimented my friends new job and mentioned her degree when we were at dinner. She corrected me in a flash actually "I have my Masters" I apologied everyone at the table thought she was a pretentious dick.

I think it is actually a good idea to insist on Dr. I wouldn't correct anyone in front of anyone else but would probably email or have a private word. This isn't to look wanky but to be a role model for young girls and show the children that men and women can be doctors.

Fuck, yes, I would correct her "I didn't go to evil medical school for five years to be called "Mister", thank you"

'I'm not sure if this was OPs point but the general gist seems to be not about being superior or flaunting qualifications but having a title that does not reflect martial status - something men don't have to consider. '

I think this was OP's point, and it's certainly mine. I don't use Dr (except for specific formal situations and work) over here, because there's a marital status-neutral title available for me. If titles fell out of common use altogether (which I would support), that would be fine too. I just don't want 'Mrs'.

I think we would all expect medical doctors to be addressed as Dr.

I know lots of medical doctors, male and female (and a few people with PhDs). I don’t know any that insist on ‘doctor’ at the school gate or in daily life. They are happy with Mr or Mrs Childssurname in a school environment.

I think we would all expect medical doctors to be addressed as Dr.
But why Brighton?

I agree that culturally that's what often happens but why?

The fact that surgeons are not identified by title demonstrates that such a title is entirely unnecessary.