I don’t want partner to go out

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Me and my partner have been rowing constantly lately because he’s going out clubbing for a weekend far away with his mates and all their girlfriends (I’m the only one not going as usual because I’m the only one with kids) there’s a lot of them and I’m not happy about it at all ,he’s booked the weekend off work even though he tells me he can never have time off for anything which is a bummer anyway ! But I’m angry because it’s less than 1 week after im being induced and I have a two year old already and no support whatsoever ,I’ll have a 4/5 day old baby and a two year old all in my own for the entire weekend why he goes and gets drunk and has a jolly good time ,I told him I’m not happy about it and that I could end up having a c section and then who’s going to help me and he says I’m trying to ruin his life and control him ,Am I unreasonable to tell him I don’t want him to go and not back down about this ,I’m 99% sure he’s going to go regardless of how I feel in fact he said he’s definitely going now I’m being so immature about it 😩 I’m trying to be okay with it but I’m not at all

I hope this one makes the DM - so the whole country can see what a pathetic man he is.

Honestly, it makes me appreciate my DP - most normal, caring partners would not do this.

You would be better off without him. Do you have anyone else to turn too? Friends or family you are close too?

I am pregnant (early doors) but I can't imagine going through it all without my DP. You deserve so much more x

Oh love.

Gather your shred of self respect and get rid.

This man child doesnt love you one iota.

You are worth far far more

Got to say OP after reading all your posts my response would still be the same as what I initially thought -

"Fine dear, you think this is so important and I'm being controlling and immature. You go and have a fabulous time - but you might want to extend your stay in the hotel because you sure as shit won't be coming back into this house afterwards. I have nothing more to say, I'm not going to discuss this further. Time for you to decide if your a selfish child or a father and partner."

Oh and seriously OP, you're worth so much more than this - good luck

But some women don’t have an induction and then pop out the baby, might take a couple of days. So what if you’re still in hospital and he’s looking after the toddler, what’s he going to do - leave toddler at home to go clubbing? Take toddler on the clubbing weekend? How can he not think about this?

He must have shown signs previously of being a selfish prick.

These are not the actions of a decent partner or father.

Can you really see your future with him? Or is it a case of no other option?

I went into Tuesday for my induction and came out the following Sunday after a c section on the Friday morning- just saying!

He's having an affair with one of the people going on this trip which is why he is being a dick and basically begging for you to throw him out so he can get away with it.

Get rid of him, he's a fucking arsehole. You will cope fine without him because lets face it whether he leaves or not you are pretty much going to be doing it on your own.

Unfortunately it sounds like he already has one foot out of the door. I cannot believe he would leave you, a newborn and a toddler days after an induction. You may not have even given birth by then, you may end up with an EMCS, everything might go swimmingly, but you will be days post birth. He needs to be looking after you, let alone his children. I genuinely don't think I could stay with a man who cared about me and his children so little.

OP go and stay with your parents for a while, you need a break from this and you need to be around people who support you.

This isn't what you want to hear but I think this relationship is doomed, maybe some time apart will make him realise what he stands to lose, if it doesn't then so be it, it's better to be on your own than with someone like this.

omg. op you are worth so much more. Leave him. I had a similar asshole before and had a kid with him. I quickly realised that im not gonna be toghether with selfish idiot. so i broke up with him. And soon after met my lovely husband. You deserve so much more. Somebody who will respect you and your feelings. This shitbag doesnt care at all. Please find your strength. Many hugs, hope your delivery goes easy.

Are you serious? He’s going clubbing days after you’re induced and you have a toddler.

WTF OMG

I’d be very hurt, and angry. Be very confident that you are NOT BU.

How old is he ffs? 23? Are you sure? Selfish git!

He's nowhere near mature enough for the responsibility of two kids unfortunately. What made him decide to have a second?

Yadnbu I was induced on a Wednesday morning didn’t give birth till Friday evening and they said before it definitely wouldn’t happen that day. I ended up in hospital for 8 nights in total 6 after the birth as they were worried baby had an infection. I can’t believe he would even think off going so soon