Is there a Rebecca Humphries thread? Her public statement about the end of her relationship is awesome.

[bluetrampolines]

I will try and link. I love that she took the cat!

[whitershadeofpale]

Oops sorry about that 🤭

He seems a real prick and her message is dignified but with no shit.

[topcat2014]

I don't know who he is, but I read the tweet and loved the Sean(n).

So cutting..

[WeirdCatLady]

Well done to Rebecca, she has shown true class.

I doubt if Neil and Katya will break up, their ‘brand’ is stronger with them together - not that I think it’s worth much anyway. No way anyone with any conscience will vote for Sean(n) and Katya now so hopefully they’ll be going out this weekend.

[Cookit]

I love her statement. It wasn’t about a stupid, drunken kiss it’s about a pattern of behaviour.

So I wonder why Katya’s husband isn’t even pretending to be annoyed?

[cakecakecheese]

Seeing as there's been a massive media frenzy and loads of people saying how they felt sorry for her I can see why Rebecca decided to declare she's not a victim and after reading countless threads on MN from women have had similar experiences I applaud her for highlighting gaslighting.

I know the BBC have said no one will be dropping out but I'm convinced that'll change before the weekend.

[RitaMills]

I wonder if Katya and Neil have some sort of open relationship to some degree? He just seems so unfazed by it all.

I think Rebecca’s response was on point and dignified, I’ve genuinely never got the whole ‘dignity in silence’ narritive there is no shame in putting your side across and speaking up, we’ll done to her and I’d take the bloody cat too.

[ushuaiamonamour]

I hope this helps boost her career, brilliant statement. I think you've got it in one: it's bound to help her career. (I've no idea what her 'career' is though I doubt it involves deciphering cuneiform tablets or travelling to dangerous places for MSF._

It's a bit saddening to see posters call this letter classy or dignified just as it is to see a woman's aid group leap into it. The bar for 'class', 'dignity', and 'victim' has been reset so low that the best of limbo dancers wouldn't be able to wriggle under it.

[ShatnersWig]

Another one who doesn't watch Strictly or knew who any of the people were but I have seen the fallout. Seems abundantly clear that Sean(n) and Katya put out their tweets of apology to the general public but neither had actually apologised to Rebecca. So totally and utterly brilliant for Rebecca to respond in precisely the same way.

[Gottensomedraws]

Sorry if someone has said this already, but she was on strictly on Saturday night supporting him? So she was aware of his behaviour and the incident had already taken place by then? No one deserves to be treated like she says in her statement, has the press coverage given her the courage to leave maybe?

[Mousetolioness]

Sean(n) appears to have no class and no imagination - all he's managed to do is follow the cheaters' script - he's got that down to a 't'.

I'd imagine he's so full of himself he thought he was untouchable and invincible and I'd imagine Rebecca isn't the first woman in his life to have experienced 'The Sean(n)'. Hmm...

Rebecca Humphries did the right thing. Why should she have left quietly? That would have suited his ego and the waves of fallout might have been mere ripples in comparison.

The BBC may say no one is going to be dropped but I'll bet there are conversations going on in which it is quietly but firmly suggested he should retire from the competition. Will his ego let him?

Best of all she has Winston; she's retained the one male being in their former set-up worth holding on to!!
I wouldn't vote for Sean(n) but I would honour him with a new surname, "O'Tool(e)".

[crivit]

I don't know who has done what here, other than Seann and Katya kissing and a twitter apology and Rebecca crying at Saturday's show and then their public post so why / how would I absolutely know that Seann is some evil type, and that Rebecca is the wronged party? There could be all sorts of things going on. It could be a publicity stunt (which may or may not have gone wrong), it could be that no-one or everyone has behaved badly, it could be that Seann and Katya should simply have been more discreet, it could be something else. I hope that the allegations made by Rebecca are not true as they are obviously very nasty but I cannot and will not judge someone (and that someone relates to anyone involved in this, not just Seann and Katya) so fully based on a single tweeted allegation.

Two things I have decided on though. First, the Sean(n) business comes across to me as pretty pathetic. The second n may have been added for stage purposes or simply because it was liked but either way, just use the name they use, don't fuck about with it PA style. Second, man can wear a hat.

[Frazzled2207]

Good for her (and the cat).
I do wonder how things stand in the Jones household.

[JaretsGirlfren]

Well done Rebecca, when I left my ExH I took the cat too.

[CuriousaboutSamphire]

crivit the basic facts are that 2 people, 1 married the other in a long term relationship, had a long and deeply passionate snog (video available, it wasn't a peck on the cheek) in public.

After that there are all sorts of little nasty additions (birthday, lies, gaslighting etc) but you can ignore all of that. They were caught publicly and made quite snide, self serving, little apologies. They are not all that pleasant on those known facts alone!

[CurbsideProphet]

@crivit Sean and Katya's kiss happened on Wednesday night, but was only reported in the Sunday papers. The photos are all over the internet.

Strictly's main show and results show are both filmed on Saturday night, so at that point Rebecca will not have known what happened (though clearly she had suspected).

[Foxyloxy1plus1]

I reckon that they’ll do what politicians do and say that they’re not going to leave and then they’ll eventually say that ‘for the good of the show’ etc, they have decided to withdraw.

I don’t think he’s a good dancer or will become one. The choreography was clever and Katya is a good dancer with a core of steel. It made him look good. Which he isn’t.

[skippy67]

Gotten the snogging happened on the 3rd. Strictly was on the 6th, and the pics didn't emerge til the 7th. The results show is recorded on the same night as the live show.

[DrinkFeckArseGirls]

I wonder if she got a shitty phone call after that . You know, no time for apologies too busy cringing and training for the next show but there's no way he'd "let" her have the last word.

[sonjadog]

I´m glad that in general we are moving away from the saying nothing = dignified response approach. All that does is let someone get away with treating the other person in a shitty manner. It is about protecting the one who has done wrong at the expense of the wronged. What's so dignified about that??

It gets my back up when someone has been treated badly and writes about it on MN and the advice is that the dignified thing is to do nothing. No, that is the way to be more considerate of the person who has done wrong than of yourself. The thing to do is state who you are and how you feel and prioritize yourself, and then move on.

[ShatnersWig]

@crivit So you wouldn't have an issue with your partner of five years having a lengthy snog with a married woman on your birthday?

[Awks]

Sean(n) . Ouch.

[BehemothPullsThePeasantsPlough]

There’s a large number of possible reasons why Neil could be staying loyal to Katya. Many have been speculated on elsewhere. But most importantly nobody’s accusing Katya of being a gaslighting abusive bastard.

[BehemothPullsThePeasantsPlough]

Oh, and Katya’s public statement was effusive on her commitment to her marriage and love for her husband: an angle noticeably missing from Sean’s

[ushuaiamonamour]

sonjadog Having a bit of dignity or even just behaving well/like an adult has nothing to do with being a doormat. Apples and oranges.

[Juells]

HRTFT but anyone who's been on the receiving end recognises the whole "you're psycho and so controlling" bullshit, when you - correctly - identify behaviour as being indicative of an affair.