Is there a Rebecca Humphries thread? Her public statement about the end of her relationship is awesome.

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I will try and link. I love that she took the cat!

I don't think it is that thinly veiled... but it is interesting that you think a woman scorned is 'insidious'. Why not just ill judged, made whilst angry?

fascicle, really?? Jesus Christ. It was clearly attempting to set the record straight and to show him up for what he is. Insidious?? Really?? And to think that her making that statement is on a par with what he had been accused of, well, fuck me, is all I can say. You clearly suffer from some sort of cognitive impairment, love.

Of course his behaviour isn’t considered as bad by many people, it’s famed penis-ownership get out clause

"'. Why not just ill judged, made whilst angry?"
Or cool, careful and clear, speaking out on behalf of herself and other gaslighted women?

Oh, I agree Bertrand But if someone was to make a negative comment then insidious is weird! I was only offering a more reasonable negative response.

There was nothing insidious about her statement. It was honest and open and even funny. God women can't do anything to defend themselves.

The woman is far from insidious, she called out sean(n)s gaslighting and well done to her.

Why in hell are people going after his girlfriend?

She has done absolutely nothing wrong - this WHOLE SITUATION has been brought about because of the behaviour of her former boyfriend and his dance partner.

On the night in question (her birthday) she was alone in their shared home while her boyfriend was out on the piss with the female he'd spent all day with and snogging her face off, in full public view.

He and his snogging partner then chose to go public with their 'apology' on twitter - neither one of them bothering to apologise to the person they had hurt most - that same girlfriend, before doing so. Their behaviour went public and now their responses were issued publicly.

She then gets bombarded on social media, her photo appears all over the press and there is speculation on her five year relationship with her boyfriend ... and she has done NOTHING to make any of this happen.

So she puts out one statement in response.

I don't give a shit whether it's carefully crafted, thinly veiled, a character assassination, a work of fiction, the greatest thing ever written, fired off in anger, considered at length or written by a ghost writer ffs .... what pisses me off is why in hell she is now being criticised and scrutinised, as if she has no right of reply?

She was his partner for five years, they shared a home together, she was there supporting him all the way in his Strictly efforts and she did fuck all to deserve all the public scrutiny she is now being subjected to.

'Her behaviour'? What behaviour would that be? She's done nothing wrong.

So much for the sisterhood eh?

I saw her Instagram earlier. She hasn't put anything about it on there. If she wasn't dignified then she'd be using that platform as well. One thing that is clear is that she was 100% behind the pair of them on Strictly, all the more gutting to see how excited she was about the show :(

The thing she's done wrong? Not shutting up. Women who speak out get clobbered.

The thing she's done wrong? Not shutting up. Women who speak out get clobbered.

Absolutely. Internalised misogyny is everywhere. It reminds me of the MN obsession with "attention seeking", always aimed at some random woman. Women are constantly socialised to sit down and shut up, even when a man publicly shits all over them.

Jitters22 well said! Exactly what I would have posted if I were eloquent

knottyhair, so my views are ill informed and everyone who believe absolutely everything the ex says and nothing Seann says hold informed views do they?

Sorry I didn't realise that women only ever tell the truth and men mainly tell lies. I must have imagined that some of the people I have met over the years that have lied have been women.

I thought Seann did look sorry. Yes he also looked angry but I would be bloody angry if I was more or less forced to go on ITT to speak about something and be grilled by Zoe Ball who snogged a guy when she was married so is hardly in a position to be questioning him. I would also be furious if my ex were telling lies about me. Oh but hang on she can't be lying can she

Hear hear Bertrand spot on

I thought Seann did look sorry. Yes he also looked angry but I would be bloody angry if I was more or less forced to go on ITT to speak about something and be grilled by Zoe Ball who snogged a guy when she was married so is hardly in a position to be questioning him

Tough shit. If he hadn’t behaved like a twat he wouldn’t have had to do anything would he?

All this sympathy for the poor menz 🙄

Astounding that a famous man could publicly snog a woman not his long-term partner, media shitstorm ensues, partner puts out a single, pertinent and even slightly humorous statement on the matter, and people will still accuse her of airing dirty laundry, being "undignified" and even start whinging about "WELL SOMETIMES WOMEN LIE YOU KNOW".

Actually, I take that back. It's not astounding at all. It is exactly what we should expect because it's always been that way. But it's still a pile of shit.

Why would you assume she's lying? What has been proven about him is that he cheated on his gf, on her birthday. Yet you assume said gf is lying. Who do you think is more likely to tell the truth?

Now I don't agree with him having to grovel on tv - in his shoes I'd have refused as cheating is between the couple and he ought to be grovelling to her, not us!

"Actually, I take that back. It's not astounding at all. It is exactly what we should expect"
Yep. Heartbreaking isn't it?

Why does she need to 'defend herself'? Why does she have to be some sort of 'poster woman' for other 'gaslighted' women? Why is that expected of her by other women? It's always women who seem to place this requirement on other women to speak out. Why the hell should she?

All those cheerleading a published piece, where will you be when this woman actually needs RL support? Nowhere. You'll have moved on to the next drama to spice things up for you.

I couldn't care less about the man involved, just that the woman/women is/are being used as some sort of grotesque chess pieces. I hate that.

I'm very much in favour of women being able to talk about whatever they want to but this smacks of media coercion with a baying public clamouring for more gossipy details. So with that in mind, talking about about dignity is disingenous because you (general) seem to have no comprehension of the meaning.

Why does she have to be some sort of 'poster woman' for other 'gaslighted' women? Why is that expected of her by other women? It's always women who seem to place this requirement on other women to speak out. Why the hell should she?

She chose to speak out. I applaud the choice she made.

Had she decided to remain silent on the issue; also her choice.

I don’t think suggesting that the way a woman has chosen to handle a situation out of her control is wrong is appropriate.

Depends on whether she actually wanted to speak out or whether the clamouring gossips put that pressure on her to do so. I don't think that is in any way appropriate. If the gutter press wasn't on her case would she have felt the need? We'll never know because that's their MO.

Reminds me of the media pressure to the Queen when Diana died... "Ma'am, your people are suffering". Vile.

Women are constantly socialised to sit down and shut up, even when a man publicly shits all over them.

This. Nailed it. So much so that it's explained away as only having been done because the media made her do it.

My ex was a gaslighting bastard he decided to dump me in front of his friends in case I got upset my response was I'm keeping the cats, both of them. ( one was his one was mine) he was not impressed I "embarrassed" him infront of his mates

"Why does she have to be some sort of 'poster woman' for other 'gaslighted' women?"

She doesn't. How she responded was entirely up to her. I am delighted that she decided to respond in a way that helps to bring emotional abuse into the open. But it was entirely her choice.

I think it extremely unlikely that the misogynist press would have wanted the response she gave. Which is why they are now trying to discredit her, according to some on this thread.