Locust DH (lighthearted ... well a bit anyway!)

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My DH is a bloody locust - you can bet your life you buy something nice and it just disappears. It's stupid things like I'll buy ice cream for the family, not just one pot but plenty to go around, and mix of everything we all like, there's something usually small like a Haagen daaz small pot of something which I chose to eat when I'm rewarding myself as I try to be good with eating

You can almost guarantee he'll snaffle it. He comes out with a barrage of excuses like 'it's been there ages' (yes perhaps a week but that's because I wait til I want something, not just hoover it) or 'there was only a tiny bit left' or if he pinches the last of my wine (we drink different types of alcohol ... I literally never even sniff what he chooses as his poison) apparently there's literally every time 'only a small glass left' which is always bollocks! Oh and also bear in mind we live literally 5 minutes from a variety of shops.

So this morning I get up, I went to bed really early as I was tired - I'd bought myself some
Wine (only I drink white wine) and we had some posh chocolates on Friday night to share and I've woken up to literally 1cm of wine left in the bottle (it had 3/4's left which I expressly told him to leave as I wanted some with Sunday lunch today) and all the chocolate eaten - I had 3, there were around 15-20 in the box

I've previously told him it pisses me off, I've also told him psychologically it's a brain fuck because you want to save something for when you want it, except if he hoovers it up like a fucking Dyson then it kind of makes you feel 'oh I'd better eat that treat now otherwise I'll never see it' ... and leads to hiding and all sorts of shit I don't want to feel I need to do in my own home with small treats I buy myself ( I buy treats or nice things for all the family not just me)

Anyway - I'm asking the brutal board for their opinions here - LTB or don't be a selfish wife?! ... or perhaps something in between
Am I the only one? Or do you get the same from your loved ones?

@AviatorShades - now I LOVE after eights so I'd be in the dock!!

If it were other chocs though he wouldnt stuff them as they were gifts ....

I would be raging if someone took my treat and didn't replace it.

But if it was replaced again before I wanted it then no harm done.

Sounds like you'll have the wine before lunchtime so happy days.

The chocolates aren't the secret eating disorder that pp are making out. 12 in box. Op are 3. 2 still left. So he's ate 7 over two nights. I'm sure that's normal. CF. But normal.

Huh! So you'd hang me from my own christmas tree, then, eh?
Y'know, the christmas tree I'd bought,lugged home,surrounded with presents all bought and wrapped up by me,btw, after scoffing the roast etc. i'd bloody shopped for,cooked,washed up after,...just because,well,the Lady loves After Eights(and took one every time she passed)
Yep, ds declared I'd committed a Hanging Offence - my second Offence apparently. He still remembers the time I drank his bottle of Heineken,the thought of which was sustaining him on his long hot trudge,full golf bag on his back,after a tournament.News for you, kiddo. It was bloody scorchio on the terrace where I'd been suffering under an umbrella reading my book,too.

Yes... I get this too. Saying that things were for a certain occasion only led to guilt on my part as I’d get a can I eat this ?!? OR are you SAVING IT ?!?! Can’t be arsed anymore. I buy three , put one in the cupboard & hide the other two in separate locations. Locations frequently change . 😂 Oh & non see through shopping bags with zips get it in the house. That’s a new one....Started doing that last week!

Aahhh niwnyouve reminded me DLH (darling locust husband) DOES actually wrap a lot of the Christmas presents (i source and I buy them all!)
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@AviatorShades you wouldn't even be the new tree topper, you'd be buried under the lawn as fertiliser for next year's tree if you ate all the after eights in this house.

Also @AviatorShades drinking his beer was a cunty thing to do if you didn't tell him in advance so he could pick another one up on the way home. Arseholery behaviour of the highest order.

He sounds like a dick. Doing it once is one thing, but repeatedly doing it when you’ve told him it bothers you is just mean.

My younger brother does this. It was annoying enough when we were kids and he'd just eat all the treats without considering who else might want any (any complaints to my parents were met with well he got there first - I was just expected to deal with it because I was older and I'm female). Now at any family occasions the twat still does the same thing even though we're both in our 30s. He gives no shits that anyone else might want some of the things he likes too.

Hope your DH replaced the wine and chocolates OP. He definitely needs to learn that he can't have your things, esp when you ask him to leave some.

It’s not annoying it’s really fucking disrespectful. I’ve eaten the saved chocolate bar and DH has too, but we have replaced it because how rude to take something clearly meant as a treat for someone else?

He’s clearly got a mouth so why can’t he ask you to buy one of everything for him as well if you’re doing the shopping?

My ex was like this. He earned more than me but we put the same amount into the household account every month to pay the bills. I was the one who did the shopping. I would always buy us all a treat each when shopping. I would buy the kids various things but would get us a large chocolate bar each. He would have his them eat mine if it was still in the fridge. His argument was always if I hadn't eaten it already I didn't really want it. What used to piss me off even more was he didn't even like my chocolate choice he just would have it because it was there!
I can leave treats till I want them not just eat them because they are there!
He would never buy the kids anything but come home with stuff for himself. He was a selfish pig basically. It all came to head one day on holiday. He went for a walk to buy a newspaper and came back eating an ice cream. The kids were 3 years and 18 months old. They got upset because they wanted an ice cream and he had a strop, saying ffs can't I have anything for myself without them wanting one too 😱 I realised then he was never going to change and the kids deserved better than being around such a selfish guy. They see him for 4 hours in a Saturday and he still never really treats them to stuff. Luckily they have grown into loving kind teenagers who love to give me and their half sisters little treats. They would never think to buy something for themselves and not for everyone else in the house. They always bring gifts from school trips and holidays for their little sisters. So glad they are not like their father!