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To ask how old was your baby when u went out,?

80 replies

HaulingFreight · 07/10/2018 03:33

That's it really... I have name changed but for a completely different thread.

When was the first night out, or first way away from baby.

I believe one works for one the other one doesn't for the other x

OP posts:
Rtmhwales · 07/10/2018 04:03

I went away for a weekend when DS was 2.5 months old. It had been planned before I even found out I was pregnant with him. I’m sure I’ll get flamed but I was fine. I would’ve gone out for a night without him as he’s formula fed but I was exhausted. Even worse - he was 2 months early so he was only really 2 weeks old adjusted age when I left. Oh well. He won’t remember and he’s definitely loved!

TeddyIsaHe · 07/10/2018 04:08

First proper boozy night out dd was almost 1. But went to work meetings etc from about 12 weeks. Never longer than a couple of hours or so.

ShowerTheHorse · 07/10/2018 04:25

With my first he was around 2.5when I left him alone for a full night although I did have friends over for drinks once he was in bed sometimes and got a little bit tipsy! I did get invited out but I always declined as I had really bad separation anxiety. It wasn't really my PFB but more my own anxiety and I was still co-sleeping with him, so I would worry about leaving him.

With my second, she was born in December and I had a birthday night out in January where I thought meh what the hell she will be fine with her dad. Grin. And ofc she was. I showed him how to use the prep machine and off I went!

It is completely subjective and both of my babies are fine and are not in the least bit bothered about when I left them for the night. Its about when you feel ready.

OhTheRoses · 07/10/2018 04:30

We went to a wedding, overnight, when they were 7 and 4.

bakebakebake · 07/10/2018 04:32

DS (now 6) was 3 months old when he stayed overnight at my mum's. I didn't like that because i missed him and he didn't stay out again until 17 months when I had DD (now 5).

I didn't leave her with someone else until she was 9 months and I went on a first aid course. She was fine but I was worried the whole time (breastfeeding). I didn't leave her overnight until she was 2.. when DH was able to put her to bed without me feeding her.

DS (5 months), I left him for 4 hours when he was 11 days old. He's also breastfed.

Sashkin · 07/10/2018 04:40

It was actually easier when he was younger. I used to go to the gym for 3hrs on a Saturday morning from about 4mo (two classes, hour gap between them that I used to spend drinking coffee and reading the paper).

I had an evening out with my friends around then too, but I only stayed out two hours. That was a bit of a disaster - he completely flipped out when he woke and I wasn’t there. I’d left a bottle of EBM which he guzzled, then when I got home he went crazy BFing in a sort of panic, then projectile vomited everywhere. Wouldn’t sleep, wouldn’t let go of me, just awful.

We went to a wedding at 7mo and left him with DM, and again I had to come home because he was inconsolable. I did nightshifts from 1year and he didn’t think much to that either. I’m going away for 48hrs for a conference next month and DH is dreading it.

PrincessTwilightStoleMyToddler · 07/10/2018 04:43

Back at work full time at 6/7 months with each of mine. First night away from my first was at 11 months (work thing). It was too soon - even though she happily had expressed bottles in the day she still wanted to bf at night and so DH had a dreadful night with her. Will leave it later with DC2 unless he has stopped breastfeeding at night (highly unlikely - he loves it).

Smallplant · 07/10/2018 05:03

Just to add another perspective - I went on evenings out at 5 weeks old and 6 weeks old. Baby is ebf, but I pumped enough bottles. Baby goes to bed at 8pm and stays asleep until a feed at 5am so not an issue, I really only missed two feeds and bedtime each time. I'm looking forward to the next night out now!

IvanMashPotatoIvanDoTheTwist · 07/10/2018 05:20

Dd was 13 months, EBF and would never take a bottle - we stopped BF the day after her 1st birthday. I was doing an on call shift so not particularly something I wanted to do. When she was 16 months we left her for 5 nights with my DM and had a mini break. She is 2 now and haven't left her with anyone other than my DM or evenings babysat with one of the nursery nurses from her nursery she goes to one day a week.

Purpleartichoke · 07/10/2018 05:30

I left for an hour when she was 9 months old.

We didn’t have an evening out until she was 2. First overnight was 4.

GreenDinosaur · 07/10/2018 05:30

Not done it yet. DS is 2.5 and DH has started asking if we can go to a party on our own but I'm not bothered tbh, I've been to parties, I just want to go to bed!

NerrSnerr · 07/10/2018 05:58

6 months for my eldest. 12 months for my youngest.

Miltonkeynesmummy · 07/10/2018 06:03

First night away at 1. We tend to do it once or twice a year now. I'd have done it earlier if I had the opportunity. Personally I think it's good for parents and children.

MemoryOfSleep · 07/10/2018 06:04

Umm, about a month? Went out for an evening and left LO with DH. Not done an overnight yet though. LO won't take a bottle anymore, so I'm glad I did it when I did, can't do it now until I've finished breastfeeding!

LusaCole · 07/10/2018 06:07

I left DC1 with DH when he was 5 weeks old and went out for a couple of hours with friends (he was EBF but I left expressed milk).

DC2 was 2 months old when I went out a whole day - it was a close friend’s hen do, so I didn’t want to miss it, but I didn’t stay the night with the other hens. DC2 was also EBF and had never before accepted a bottle, but she took one when she got hungry enough!

Yellowsunredroses · 07/10/2018 06:11

It was about 3 months before I went for a night out.
Overnight I didn’t do until 2.
Time just to nip out for an hour during day was early on but i was ebf so it was never longer than 2.5 hours

Borridge · 07/10/2018 06:29

A couple of days after I came out of hospital after the birth. The DDs were still in NICU and I couldn’t be with them anyway.
I first left them for a week after 6 months after I had finished bf.

Shutupanddance1 · 07/10/2018 06:32

First baby 1 month - my DM watched DD but I was still very anxious the whole time.

DD2 - went out at a month, no anxiety at all, left with regular babysitter. Helped that she didn’t wake up when we were out so I felt better.

Overnight, I didn’t leave DD1 until she was 9 months as I BF. Haven’t with DD2 yet as she’s still only 3 months and BF

Bbbbbbbb2017 · 07/10/2018 06:35

My youngest was 2 last week and the only nights i have spent away is when his older sister is in hospital. My last fun night out was november 2015

Bbbbbbbb2017 · 07/10/2018 06:37

I should add though i spent mosr of 2016 pregnant/with a newborn and i then split with their das in jan 17. He hasnt seen them since so there isnt much choice in if i get to go out or not

Thursdaydreaming · 07/10/2018 06:40

Left baby with his dad for the day at one month, was away for about 8 hours. Went out for the evening and left baby with grandparents at three months. Would have done it sooner but wasn't invited out anywhere before then Blush

KitandPup · 07/10/2018 06:42

During the day: about a week pp (I had a horrible infection so had to go to GP daily for dressing changes and left DD with my mum)

Night out: About 6 months

Night away: Around 2

The only reason I left going out for 6 months was financial. No judgement from me if you want to go out sooner.

KitandPup · 07/10/2018 06:43

Also one of the days was a whole day because they sent me to hospital. I would have taken her but was paranoid about germs

notyourmummy · 07/10/2018 06:45

Laddo was about 2 the first time I went out (to cake club,so for around 2hrs in the evening), but he was a very consistent sleeper. Little Girl is nearly 18m and a terrible sleeper so I don't leave the house after bedtime! Not been away overnight, never wanted to since laddo was born 7 years ago.

EnglishRose13 · 07/10/2018 06:46

6 months. A colleague was leaving work.

He's two and a half now and he's probably had between five and 10 nights away from us.