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To ask how old was your baby when u went out,?

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HaulingFreight · 07/10/2018 03:33

That's it really... I have name changed but for a completely different thread.

When was the first night out, or first way away from baby.

I believe one works for one the other one doesn't for the other x

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Donthugmeimscared · 07/10/2018 06:46

With my first I went to the cinema when she was 5 months old.

My second I was taken back into hospital with a suspected blood clot when he was 4 days old and kept in for a week. He wasn't aloud to be with me as they had no separate room. That week nearly broke me especially when a nurse said something about the first week being bonding time. Never did find out if I had a clot as it took the week to get a scan and when I asked if it was or not the Dr discharging me shrugged and said it could have been a panic attack. When I got home I had convinced myself my son had bonded with my exes mum and I got very bad pnd and couldn't bear to be around him. It still upsets me thinking about it.

My third I left at 3yrs.

Donthugmeimscared · 07/10/2018 06:47

There was paragraphs stupid app.

MaverickSnoopy · 07/10/2018 06:58

I left my first for a hair appointment when she was about 3 months old and I was gone for about an hour. The next time was for a night out when she was 7 months old.

I think my second was about 5 months old when I first left her in the day and it was just for a doctor's appointment. She was 9 months old when I left her for a night out.

The only time I've left either of them overnight is when I've been in hospital. I just don't like leaving them - quite jealous of friends who don't seem to mind and go away for weekends, just don't think I could do it.

flumpybear · 07/10/2018 06:58

My first baby was about 8 weeks and DH and I went to a wedding evening do - I was still bf so hormonal and was in tears driving to the wedding venue which was an hour drive. We came back that night

My second was easier, DD was nearly 4 and had a playground accident and broke her leg. My aunt had my DS for the day when we both took DD to hospital and had day of x-rays and plastering ... then repeated a couple of days later when she had the long term plaster put on ... that wasn't so bad but perhaps because I was concerned about DDs leg so distracted somewhat!

I've actually taken quite a few holidays/ trips to see friends when DH stayed home so was away between 3-7 nights, I think the first was when DD was around 2 years old

DisneyMice · 07/10/2018 07:07

About 3 months i left my ebf ds for a 6 hour trip to visit my grandad in hospital.

Overnight was 9 months where we popped him to bed and MIL house and then picked him up at 10am the next day. I wasn't bf at this point.

mindutopia · 07/10/2018 07:10

We went to a friend’s wedding when our first was 7 months. Just for the wedding and reception, home by 10. It was much easier though as she was bottle fed by that point. Second one is 7 months now and no chance of going anywhere anytime soon. Doesn’t take a bottle and we don’t have family help really anymore even if we did have a chance to go somewhere.

Mummyme87 · 07/10/2018 07:18

DS1 I think was around 5minths for the night, he stayed with my mam. Maybe it was a bit later, can’t remember. definitely for the day with daddy at 6months as I went to a wedding.

DS2 is 8.5m and not left him for more than 3hrs yet and that was so I could go to the hairdressers. Will be going to doing KIT days soon so will be left for a little longer then. Breastfeeding so hoping he will take milk in a cup

eurochick · 07/10/2018 07:27

I went away for work overnight when she was around 6 months.

Lauren83 · 07/10/2018 07:30

We left DS at 10 weeks with my parents at our house until midnight whilst we went out for my partners 40th, he is 9 months and we have left him 2-3 times for nights out but non overnight so far

Smurfybubbles · 07/10/2018 07:35

We left DS 5 months at his aunties on Friday night from 5pm til 11am the next morning. It was bliss and the most needed break ever as he's not sleeping properly at the moment!

wendz86 · 07/10/2018 07:43

Evening out when they were around 3/4 months . First didn’t get left overnight till 2 and youngest at 15 months . Both were at childcare 4 days a week from 8/9 months .

Lauren83 · 07/10/2018 07:43

Sorry should have said back to work part time when he was 8 weeks from 8am-4pm but only odd days and went back 3-4 days when he was 4 months

MaryShelley1818 · 07/10/2018 07:47

DS is 10mths old.
Me and DP have probably had 4-5nts out together - including one overnight when he was 5mths old for my Birthday.
I’ve met up with friends for lunch/tea/a few drinks at least 1-2 times a month since he was a few weeks old (BF but I expressed and did some formula top ups for other reasons).
I went to Spain for 3nts when he was 5mths old with friends, he was with his daddy so perfectly happy.
We’re also having a night away end of this month for DPs Birthday and another night to ourselves when we get married in December.

Sounds a lot but 6nts without him in first year is still 359 with him! We cosleep but he sleeps happily in his travel cot for others.

soberexpat · 07/10/2018 07:50

When she was 3 weeks old, I was dying to get out of the house for a night out. We left her with a trusted friend who was a trained nurse.

We now go out once a week together as a couple. If you can get the childcare, it's good for you all to have some time together/apart.

Now we leave the house after bedtime and are back by 11..DD never knows we are gone...

17caterpillars1mouse · 07/10/2018 07:51

1yr and 1 month old. I went away for 2 night's for a hen do leaving her with DH.

cptartapp · 07/10/2018 07:54

About six weeks for my birthday. We left DS with PiIL and plenty of expressed milk (I was bf) as he took a bottle ok. Came back to find him screaming blue murder, with PIL pacing but wouldn't feed him as "it hasn't been four hours yet!" Never left him with them again as a baby.

Hatstand · 07/10/2018 08:02

A couple of weeks old for an appointment, full day at work around 4 months, night out at 5 months, a week away for work at 11 months. DD is bf but would happily take a bottle.

FrangipaniBlue · 07/10/2018 08:03

I went on a 5 day hen do abroad and left him with DH when he was 20 weeks.

We left him overnight with his godparents for the same wedding about 6 weeks later.

Hatstand · 07/10/2018 08:06

cptartapp My in laws did exactly the same thing. (In that four hours they had themselves been for coffee and then lunch.) Weirdly they've had no such qualms about formula or any other food.

showmeahero · 07/10/2018 08:08

I went to a Concert with DM when DD was 4Mths old, she stayed home with DH.
DH and I didn't go out leaving DD until she slept through at around 9mths.

lifechangesforever · 07/10/2018 08:10

MIL has had DD overnight since she was a month old, probably every 2 weeks or so. My mum had DD all day yesterday so we could go holiday shopping, she's almost 3 months now.

I don't breastfeed so it's easier but I'm also in the mindset that DD needs to have time apart from me/us because she'll be in nursery full time from 9 months.

candlefloozy · 07/10/2018 08:14

She was 11 months old. Didn't stay over. Just went out for a meal and a few drinks.

Soulstirring · 07/10/2018 08:17

DS 7 weeks and DD 3 weeks, both were work related. Both times baby left with espressed milk with their dad. First one I regret and I suffered, second time with my daughter it was fine for an evening but so very lovely to get home.

My children have always had regular sleep overs at grandparents and I’ve been away for two over seas work trips, leaving them with DH. The only time I really struggled was when we both were away on honeymoon and left our then 18m son, knowing he didn’t have either of us.

You can only do what is right for you, depending on baby and support network.

0lgaDaPolga · 07/10/2018 08:19

First night out when he was 8 weeks. Left him with his dad from about 7-1am. He’s 16 months now and I’ve had a few nights out but never left him overnight. I’m due another baby in a couple of months so my first night away for him will be when I’m in hospital

SharkSave · 07/10/2018 08:24

About 6 weeks, went out for the evening.
Over night, I can't remember with the first but 3 months with the second.
I regularly go out for the evening etc and leave them with their dad.

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